#hatekeeping

[princelystorm]

This is gonna be a #hottake

Anyone who wants to go on hormones should be able to go on hormones.

No one should feel obligated to keep their natal hormones. No one should feel obligated to keep their natal anatomy either.

I wrote down some thoughts and realized that HRT and gender-confirming surgeries ought to be treated a little more like tattoos/piercings. A way of permanent self-expression, able to accessed by anyone willing to go through with it.

Of course there are differences in that a tattoos or piercings aren’t going to literally save people’s lives. And I’m not advocating for demedicalization of HRT and gender-confirming surgeries.

I’m simply saying that, regardless of gender, if you feel like you want to pursue HRT or a surgery, look into it! Know the risks! Think about the benefits! If you think you’d benefit from an orchiectomy, hysterectomy, etc, research it. Learn the aftercare and life changes associated with them. Likewise for HRT. If you think you’d benefit from going on E or T, research it. Learn as much as you can about these things. Think about if it’s right for you. Gatekeeping, in the end, only hurts the community as a whole. Shuts doors on people who need help, and a sense of belonging.

Life is a choose-your-own-adventure. You don’t have to feel stuck with the body you were born into.

[signerj]

On Hatekeeping

When you tell someone that they need experience with oppression in order to be queer, you are implying that queerness is a result of pain, rather than an innate personal quality that is often suppressed by our modern kyriarchal, normative society. By constructing Straightness (and all other normative identities) as the default, you reinforce the current power structures entrenched in our society and actively contribute to the oppression which you claim to oppose.

[reddpropaganda]

I find it pretty interesting that exactly on January 1st, the same day inclusionists declared a no-platform policy against them, REGs come out of the woodwork to antagonize a post I made literally over a year ago lol. Hmm. Seems a little bit like a cry for attention, doesn't it? To any discoursers: if they throw you bait and you see a spike in your activity, remember to block and move on. They are desperate to rattle you so they can stay relevant. Don't give hatekeepers your time. They certainly aren't worth your mental health. With that said, continue to spread factual and helpful information and to dispel the myths or stigmas. And don't forget positivity because we could all use a little. Drown them out. Happy New Year!

[christopherokamoto]

Heads-up!  Had this REG come across my dash.

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brownsunbisexual posted: if your “allyship” is fragile enough to fall apart at the first sign of criticism or lack of reward then it was never “allyship” to begin with. as it is, expecting a reward when you’ve done the bare minimum already disqualifies you from being an “ally”.

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anonymous sent a message: "this is precisely why im aro-ace" navya i didnt realize it was u at first and for a second i scrolled back up to see who tf i was gonna have to unfollow

brownsunbisexual responded: Excuse me?? Aphobe???? I’m a sapiosexual aro-ace smh

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pissfem sent a message: lol, i'm convinced that at this point, white people make up all types of discourse (ace discourse, butch/femme discourse and literally any type of "feminist" discourse) because they wanna be oppressed. it's really funny and i hate whites

brownsunbisexual responded: I have a very similar theory - a lot of the intracommunity discourse on here is started by whites and viciously continued by whites… of course there are some sincere aspects of the discourse too but like, by and large lgbt poc don’t spend nearly as much time talking about these things.

And you’re right - it’s because they want to pretend that they are oppressed “just as much” as people of color are, because they don’t think racism is an oppression in its own realm/own class. It’s exhausting!

Heads-up!  Had this REG come across my dash.

[christopherokamoto]

Why is REG Tumblr like that???

[christopherokamoto]

Dude quick Q, uuuhhh why are you like in your thirtys and uhhh like this?

Because I understand how gross edgelord behavior is. 😘

[christopherokamoto]

Omg, an aphobe on Facebook made this, unironically...

[Image: Header, “when ur a queer abuser using ur identity as a shield to b shitty” With an image of Gillian Anderson as Scully in X-Files holding up what would be her badge but with the text, “sorry sweaty i couldn’t possibly be problematic i’m what u might refer to as ‘queer’ and therefore cannot be held responsible for my questionable actions”]

Fixed it for them, though:

[Image: Header, “when ur an aphobic abuser using ur identity as a shield to b shitty” With an image of Gillian Anderson as Scully in X-Files holding up what would be her badge but with the text, “sorry sweaty i couldn’t possibly be problematic i’m what u might refer to as ‘ace’ and therefore cannot be held responsible for my questionable actions”]