#hypercritical

[luvwich]

(jaded // chapter seven)

Shit. Losin' a lot of blood, here... focus. Focus.

"Ah, sorry, think I need to take this. I'll tell them to bugger off. Back in a moment."

"What on earth hap—" "Need... need a ripper." "No shit. Alright, let's get you in the car..." "Thanks for comin'."

"Were you on another fuckin' date?"

[amorisxx]

Can we talk about being neurodivergent (esp adhd) and frequently finding oneself in opposition to popular ideas/opinions?

Like I’m starting to accept that I have a slight tendency towards being a contrarian. I don’t do it intentionally, but I’ll just notice that I get so frustrated when the majority of people believe something that I don’t.

Like I don’t make it a problem for other people, but I internally hyper fixate on it sometimes which somehow strengthens the contrasting opinion.

This is especially true with media. If the overwhelming majority of the internet is shitting on some movie or tv show, I always have to find something about it that I like. And if it’s overwhelmingly loved and praised, I’m always on the lookout for at least someone who has a neutral or negative opinion.

It’s like my mind craves the stimulation of differing views.

[johariswindow]

Self Improvement Tips: (1) The Perfectionist (1)

Being less compulsive. Space out responsibilities and try to avoid planning things back to back. This will help you face your actual priorities.

Avoid being self-pitying, self-deprecating, or hypercritical of yourself when learning from your mistakes.

Don't project your thoughts & feelings onto others. Try to avoid assuming that others are judging you or that you are being judged. If and when you get anxious, taking the time to get factual & grounded information will help eliminate any worry and assumptive thinking.

Learn to ask for and receive pleasure. It's okay to have wants and desires. Put your ego aside and take as much time as you need to articulate what you want. Be communicative not passive.

Work to improve your cultural sensitivity and cultural intelligence. Seeing the value of other's beliefs, attitudes, & perspectives outside your own can improve your empathy and understanding of others. Learn to accept that others opinions are just as valid as yours even if they do not directly support, compliment, or agree with yours.

Question the difference between "what should be done" and "what is desirable".

Acknowledge angry emotions such as frustrations with others whom are "getting away with it". Take time to unpack cognitive dissonance and recognize that what they "get away with" is desirable. Are you judging others or are you judging yourself for desiring the easy but, 'immoral' and preferred action?

It's okay to fantasize about your Shadow self. Allow yourself to fantasize about the things you desire even if they don't agree with your "ideal self".

Utilize your imagination to vent feelings of anger (Frustration, Resentment, Irritation, etc). This will help you curb ruminating and dwelling in unhealthy ways.

[luvwich]

tenebris

(jaded // chapter one)

Saturdays mean little in the mercenary business...

...but Sundays always mean something.

They mean something even to a dropout merc who hasn't seen the inside of a house of God in years.

Sundays are for family, beers, cleaning your guns...

...not this shit.

started doing some little chapter-by-chapter vp stories for my hypercritical fic series :] here's ch1 of jaded~

[help-my-relationship]

Please advise me (F22) about my Anger twoard my boyfriend (M22)

I have been with my boyfreind four five years, and I love him deeply. Our relationship is amazing and he treats me perfectly well. The issue that I keep on having is that because he is a man, he isn't aware of how he is percived and it drives me insane. All women have been hyper-aware of how they are perceived since the dawn of time, and this has never been by choice. When it comes to straight men, however, they literally do not have to deal with this in the slightest, and I'm constantly noticing these differences when I watch my boyfriend. For example, I've always been hyperaware of what my body looks like, from the acne on my face down to the fat on my stomach. This has resulted in extensive skincare routines and always working out and or sucking in to appear "skinnier". With my boyfreind however, this is not the case. he doesn't care enough about these things to ever do something about it, and I'm ashamed to say that it fills me with immense jealousy and anger. When we first started dating, he never took care of his hair just because he simply didn't want to, and if I were to ever do such a thing as a woman, I would get humiliated and shamed by every person in my life. And what I am craving is to be completely understood, and this is what is holding me back in our relationship. This then bleeds into my lack of trust in him because of the simple fact that he will never understand my experiences as a woman and a black woman at that. Despite how much I talk about it, it seems to just fly over his head and be met with "yea that sucks..." It is simply ignorance, but with no real harm beyond my connection with him. This also ties into the "women mature faster than men" concept because no, we do not, we just simply are forced to get our shit together because society does not tolerate otherwise. overall its driving me crazy, and I'm wondering if this means that I need to explore relationships with women because I know that with them I will be completely understood, and within that I will have. can somone please give me advice?

A relationship is not going to fix you or your relationship with navigating the world in a way that makes you the happiest and safest. I highly encourage you to find a therapist (yeah, a black woman preferably) to unlearn this toxic messaging you've taken in. As a queer person who's been a woman, honestly, I think this has become a psychological cycle for you because there is a lot you can do to approach how much you police yourself for others and let go of this constant stream of criticism in your head holding you back. I'm not gonna say it's ever going to be 100% gone. You still have to navigate situations where you could genuinely be in danger over some of this stuff, but as someone who has navigated the world as a trans person - there legitimately is so much of this you can let go if you can overcome the fear and shame of it.

[alixx-black]

the last poem for today is about dealing with #hypercritical people - #mentalhealthawareness is something I strive to accomplish with my annual #poetry initiative and I'm sort of pre-gaming by finish this project I start for last May, all of which are #nonfiction and #fastreads

[authenticallyaudrey]

I made a very simple and straightforward post about Amazon alternatives that someone might recommend and got back some hypercritical, super unhelpful responses. 🤦‍♀️ I never asked about how they feel about the retail giant. I personally don't have an issue with Amazon itself I do however have a problem with its CEO who kisses the hands of Trump. If they want to continue using Amazon, that's their choice, but they need to be respectful to those who wish to boycott it for ethical reasons. These people in the comments above are VERY much part of the problem. I did get other responses that were actually super helpful, (in fact most were) but these ones here were just so unnecessary. And responses I probably wouldn't have to deal with IF ONLY THE WEBSITE HAD A BLOCK FEATURE! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I'm ignoring them directly by not responding back, but the complete lack of a block feature is just super inconvenient!

I just needed to vent.

[trixiesol-blog]