Finding Your Ideal Relationship In Typology
This system has probably done the best job at showing what a ‘perfect’ relationship might look like. As most who have studied know, it’s called DUALITY. This promises ease of interaction and very close psychological distance. Moreover, they say that meeting this individual can be the event of a lifetime, like meeting your soulmate.
“It inspires aspects in each parties character that they had never expressed before: the pair may even drop out of society for a time in order to focus on just each other and to explore themselves through interaction.”
I would encourage people coming from Myers Briggs to not judge this based on your knowledge of that system. In a post previously I mentioned this but they don’t correspond together synonymously.
The pairing goes as follows:
ILE (ENTp) - SEI (ISFp)
ESE (ESFj) - LII (INTj)
EIE (ENFj) - LSI (ISTj)
SLE (ESTp) - IEI (INFp)
SEE (ESFp) - ILI (INTp)
LIE (ENTj) - ESI (ISFj)
LSE (ESTj) - EII (INFj)
IEE (ENFp) - SLI (ISTp)
DCNH is another system within socionics which another form of Duality is important in a relationship.
Dominant - Normal
Harmonic - Creative
Sharing the most complimentary connection in thought process is the closest you’ll get to an ideal match. Although, even that could be soured if you consider something much less deep.
ENNEAGRAM, VARIANT & TRITYPE
For the Enneagram, you want someone who’s going to bring out the best in you. That’s not a person who makes you stressed, worried, frustrated or upset. You don’t want your problems to get worse so to sort out who that person is, look no further than the growth and disintegration of your type. If we’re with someone who puts pressure on our stress fixation, it’ll really bog us down in the long run. We want someone who will help us integrate and stay positive, someone who will keep us the furthest from our issues.
1 → 7
2 → 4
3 → 6
4 → 1
5 → 8
6 → 9
7 → 5
8 → 2
9 → 3
When it comes to the Enneagram in general, we’re dealing with our problems and that’s our responsibility. Relationships should be about putting those aside, not what they look like on the person or how they’ll handle them. That kind of projection tends to lead to expectation and conflict.
Regardless, I have a theory that’s pretty interesting for tritype relations. This is mainly based on the patterns I’ve observed with the people in my life and to my understanding of the types and their needs. Here I’m looking at hornevian and harmonic groups which are tied to different styles of behavior.
Aggressive types are attracted to Compliant types. (3, 7, 8 → 1, 2, 6)
Compliant types are attracted to Withdrawn types. (1, 2, 6 → 4, 5, 9)
Withdrawn types are attracted to Aggressive types. (4, 5, 9 → 3, 7, 8)
Competent types are attracted to Reactive types. (1, 3, 5 → 4, 6, 8)
Reactive types are attracted to Positive Outlook types. (4, 6, 8 → 2, 7, 9)
Positive Outlook types are attracted to Competent types. (2, 7, 9 → 1, 3, 5)
Now, if you’re a 3-6-1 tritype who wants to find your ideal match up. Here’s my hypothesis:
3 aggressive → 1, 2, 6 compliant → 3 competent → 6 reactive (compliant)
6 compliant → 4, 5, 9 withdrawn → 6 reactive → 9 positive outlook (withdrawn)
1 compliant → 4, 5, 9 withdrawn → 1 competent → 4 reactive (withdrawn)
And there’s your match, 6-9-4. Not saying this will work in REALITY but it’s just my methodology in the world of Ti. The dynamic will inevitably have problems but it’s set up for compromise and has the most possible shared complimentary components to it.
For the MBTI of that tritype, you can reference here.
I posted about variants a while back but here’s the gist of that:
SX/SO with SP/SX or SO/SX
SX/SP with SO/SX or SP/SX
SO/SX with SO/SX or SX/SO
SP/SX with SP/SX or SX/SP
SO/SP with SO/SP or SP/SO
SP/SO with SP/SO or SO/SP
