#keeping boundaries

[sweetened--euthanasia]

I just wanted to let you know ur following an anti-endo 😓

The reason this took a while is because I've been thinking how to word it, as most ways would only come off in an insulting way, either to you or that moot. When I don't mean to disrespect either.

My opinion on anti trans, anti feminism, anti endo-- anything like that, is a misunderstanding/lack of knowing where they come from or what they are. Especially individualism(with feminism and LGBTQ in gen with old people feeling pressured over nothing). And a lot of these anti's, especially ones who don't look for their disliked group to be angry at(minding your business even if it is an unhealthy view of them still), usually without hearing the name, actually don't mind being around one of those people of that community. Only the word brings up associated people from their past or spread false ideas, which a lot of people who called themselves endo, could be very toxic or appropiating its existence and definition. Which is usually the case for a LOT of these anti things. Its from people ruining your safe feeling on here and misusing something. Plus some people who dont even say they have that will try to "bond" by acting like they have the same thing. Which can be traumatizing

In conclusion; I wish to be around to help them know that, and to know: anything with the human brain is possible. Especially when I exist and my thoughts are what they are. Even the sheep of trends have differences and possibly suffer from lack of self certainty. And, they may have met foxes thinking they are hares to bond with the moot and hurting them more. I have been teaching a much worse person(guardian) to be better. But if said moot does do very bad, I will block. I rather help them first, if a new light or more understanding goes through. I know a lot of people falsely use the term they are against. I know Anon, but I can't stand something I know is worth helping and possible to cross a bridge with. I always needed to be there to let them grow with their smarts

[desroundtree]

Boundaries

I am a person that has always struggled boundaries. Most of the time it happens with others but I can admit it happens with myself a lot too. I have learned that being bipolar makes me struggle even more, so I am truly not imagining it when I say I feel like it is the hardest thing to do. 

I will admit it takes me a while to get to that point. It isn’t one transgression, it’s usually many - whether those transgressions are intentional or if I just perceived them to be transgressions - that doesn’t matter. If I feel slighted or hurt I am entitled to that feeling and the truth is no one can tell me otherwise. We all have things that push our buttons, things that hurt us more than others think they should, reactions that people can see as too much or even too little. I am not concerned with the way other people think anymore but I will always be concerned with the way I feel about it.

I  want to be clear, boundary setting is intentional. It is because I am hurt and no one has to understand that but me.

But people have misconceptions about boundaries. It isn’t telling someone not to talk to you in a certain way, or telling someone you don’t like something they did. That’s a warning, not a boundary. A boundary is removing yourself from the situation so it isn’t allowed to happen to you again.

You disrespect me enough for me not to speak to you, then I create a boundary and guess what - I am going to hold the line.

You treat me badly in the past continuously and want to try to walk back into my life because you’re done being an asshole, well guess what?

I am going to hold the line.

You don’t want to admit your wrong at all, any time, any where - guess what?

I am going to hold the line.

You hurt me or those close to me, you take advantage, you’re cruel, you’re selfish….

Guess what????

I don’t care who you are. I am going to hold the line.

I think people don’t understand that it is a hard place for me to be in, those are hard decisions to make and this was a place I arrived at. It doesn’t come without tears, or pain, or sadness.

And it isn’t easy. I have feelings too. Feeling like you’re being treated badly and choosing to react to it to protect yourself is going to make people uncomfortable. It’s going to push people out of their comfort zones - the same way I felt pushed out of mine - and that’s what they deserve. Their comfort, their ability to move in and out of my life, their ability to do things without impunity stops with me.

Let’s burn the bridges down.

[kimchicuddles]

Respecting your own boundaries is even more important right now. <3 TikvaWolf.com [Image Description: Panel 1: "Random people who disregard my safety are merely annoying." Image of white man shouting belligerently: "Can't force mask cuz MERICA!". Kim leaning away from his spittle, annoyed). Panel 2: "But when it's people I think of as family, it cuts way deeper." Vajra saying dismissively: "I just didn't think any of this was a REAL safety concern, so I broke our pod's safety protocol agreements. I have a gut feeling I'm not gonna infect anyone tho!". Kim looking hurt). Panel 3: (image of Kim handing Vajra a box: "You're gonna do what you're gonna do, but I don't need to be subjected to it. So here's all your stuff.")]

[joybringerjolly]

Not your datemate.

Just to remind everyone, I do not date online. I have posted no pictures of me and have no other account, nor will I. I do not give out personal information related to my sex, my address, my phone number, nor my real name. I am not interested in any financial arrangements related to spending time with people I’ve never met before and would appreciate not being offered any. I may be soft, but I keep my boundaries. This is for my own safety and I will not apologize for any inconvenience. Please respect this. Thank you for your understanding.