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Made the unfortunate mistake of going to look up local lgbt groups and one of them uses "freaks" and various slurs.

How classy.

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hi jen. ive been meanin to ask this for a while now but i recently joined a lesbian group in my city and ive been really hesitant to get close to anyone really. im the only trans masculine butch person in the group and i often worry about trans things coming up and having to stick up for myself or "teach" when all i wanna do is hang out. ive already been misgendered a lot despite my pronouns being on my profile and me introducing myself that way and some other weird stuff was said about trans kids and im already just like, tired?

anyway, im not sure if i should just leave and try to find a trans only group or just strick around and not care. sometimes i wish i could just find a group of older butches with similar feelings to just adopt me. do you have any advice?

There is a point where we all want to be with people we most closely align with and lesbians are not always a monolith. I am huge on boundaries. It does not mean we have to give up one space where we have friends and connections to go to another. It means that even among each letter of the LGBT + we have differences. Not all lesbians come from the same background, experiences or even exposure to things like the internet or women's festivals. Which means, as lesbians we really share one thing, sexual orientation. Everything else can vary, even if slightly.

That all being said, you get to decide where you feel most comfortable. BUT sometimes it is not about comfort. Occasionally it is about who you most connect with, who shows care and concern for you the most. Which group of people feel the most sincere. Which group “feels” the closest to how you might be someday.

Comfort is important but in my early days of coming out I was WHOLLY uncomfortable around other lesbians. I was scared I was one (which I knew I was). I had a fear that being around them might make me dislike gay men or they would want me to hate my father or other men. They told me things I did NOT want to hear, because “surely that won’t happen to ME”. They warned me of the hatred some people had for lesbians. (BUT I am a nice person.. how could someone hate me?).

Ultimately they showed me, with kindness and patience everything from how to stay dry in a tent to the myriad of ways lesbians exist. We all shared sexual orientation but personalities, wants, needs, even language about being a lesbian was different.

That means you get to decide if hanging out with others who share your sexual orientation is worth the barriers of different ideas, experiences and language is worth some discomfort and riding the learning curve out or not. If you feel like you want to share your experience and why you use trans masc, you might be asked to do some explaining. It might be up to you do be the first exposure they have to that terminology. If you are not up to that, kindly refuse or choose to spend time in a heavily trans group who are already speaking your language and have some exposure to your experience.

Echo chambers bore me and lesbians spaces or groups are rarely that. They tend to be diverse and actively full of ideas and disagreements but handled with kindness and respect and a willingness to listen to other lesbians (not always of course.. we are humans) I will repeat, there is nothing stopping you from enjoying more than on group. In time you will know where you feel most engaged and connected.

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From large universities to small colleges, LGBTQ students across the country have the opportunity to create lasting change for their campus communities.

1. Be visible as an “out” LGBTQ person on campus (as long as it’s safe to be out).

Being out provides critical visibility for the LGBTQ community. For many people, college may be the first place they meet and get to know openly LGBTQ people! That first-hand experience helps break down stereotypes and can even help cultivate new straight and cisgender allies. Being visible matters for other LGBTQ people too: sometimes people need to have role models to find their own pathway to coming out. (Oh, and it’s great when our allies are out too!)

2. Advocate for LGBTQ-inclusive policies and practices on campus.

How LGBTQ-friendly is your school? Does it have non-discrimination protections for students and faculty/staff on the basis of “sexual orientation” and “gender identity and expression?” Are there practices in place to allow students to use their preferred names in the classroom? What about health services and insurance coverage? Does the student health service provide LGBTQ-competent care? Institutional change often happens from the inside out. Know how your school stacks up on its inclusive policies and advocate for change where it falls short. Check out Campus Pride’s Index rating LGBTQ-friendly campuses as a guidepost.

3. Join LGBTQ student organizations and increase your visibility across campus.

LGBTQ student groups – whether the general campus-wide group or a specialized group such as LGBTQ student athletes or LGBTQ students of color – provide amplified visibility and support for LGBTQ people across campus. As a group you can deepen your impact as role models and as a team advocating for change. Challenge yourself and go for a leadership position in a group. This will give you an opportunity to hone your leadership skills while creating meaningful impact on campus.

4. Expand your impact through non-LGBTQ specific groups.

Are you in Greek life? Sports? Music? Engineering? Maybe you’re active in a campus faith community. Whatever your jam, consider being an out LGBTQ member or leader in non-LGBTQ specific groups and campus organizations as a way to bring more visibility and impact to the campus community. A role as a leader in these groups or in Student Government can help develop leadership skills while making lasting change.

5. Give back to the local LGBTQ community.

A healthy campus community is contingent upon a healthy local community. Consider giving back to the local LGBTQ community through philanthropy and community service.

Written by Beck Bailey, for The Huffington Post

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I'm going to a lgbt group tomorrow for the first time and I know for a fact they ask your sexuality in introductions and I??? fcuking don't know what I am??? Idk if I'm bi or lesbian and I'm STRESSING *screams*

Don’t stress my little sapphic anon. If you don’t know what your sexuality is, just say during your introduction that you are currently questioning. A good lgbt group will be supporting and accepting of that answer.

-Mom Em

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yo yo yo, make friends and support each other in an LGBTQ+ 18+ only environment on Discord. It's still a small server (half are bots so disregard the #), so no risk of overwhelming! (and there's a temporary covid19 channel that you can vent in or mute! come on in and chill?

stay safe and self care, buds xxx

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