Dark Synastry (from negative side)
There are certain synastry aspects that create, initiate, sustain, and eventually bring a relationship to its final point. This process is so captivating that those influenced by Neptune perceive it with a grand, romanticized imagination; those influenced by Mars see it as a thrilling adventure; and those influenced by Venus have already lit their scented candles in a corner, setting the stage as if to enjoy a gentle spring breeze. None of these feelings are wrong. Or perhaps they are but one truth remains these aspects present you with pain, then step aside to watch how you 'communicate' with it. Remember, the aspects mentioned are highly specific.
Neptune Conjunct Ascendant + Neptune in Aspect to Other Personal Planets in Synastry
Neptune conjunct Ascendant synastry is always defined by a sense of familiarity. But there is something special here. Beyond Neptune making an aspect to the Ascendant, it also forms a distinct aspect with the personal planets. This is where the 'fantasizing' will continue to a certain point, and then... it will bring awareness.
'I had dreamed so much when I saw you that now... I don't recognize you.'
The romance and affection brought by the Neptune-Ascendant aspect eventually give way to a long face when you see them (the Neptune person), restless shifting, and constantly sweeping your important issues under the rug. Because there is no softness here. Yet, there is also no argument, violence, fight, or abuse. Only uncertainty. And believe me, uncertainty is just as bad as abuse or violence. Because this harms you directly. It’s a perception as if your mind is constantly playing games, as if you are the only one looking through the wrong window in your relationship. This is frightening, inexplicable, and harmful.
Venus Conjunct Pluto + The Venus Person Having Mutable Sign Placements in Their Natal Chart
You (the Venus person) are the one who softens everything uncontrollable between you, and they (the Pluto person) are the ones who can never deny this lack of control but make things difficult. This happens in a typical Venus-Pluto relationship and can even define the relationship's very identity. You might perceive these couples as: 'They share deep things with each other and don't involve anyone around them.'
'We are more worried that they will leave each other while they are fighting [than they are].' 'They experience their private moments only when it's just the two of them, yet their fights are always in front of people.'
But what if the Venus person has strong mutable placements in their natal chart?
This is what creates a breaking point. Venus, whom Pluto is dependent on, now reveals a sense of fluidity. While one day they are dizzy with passion, the next day you might see them avoiding Pluto so that they cannot be reached. The toxic part is that Pluto is drawn even more to this duality. Pluto, playing the most obsessed role in the Venus + Pluto relationship, transforms its 'heavy' love into a more dangerous form of romance by trying to adapt to Venus's fluidity.
Moon Opposite Mars + 8th/12th House Overlays
Do you know how the sensitivity of a touch heightens passion? Have you ever tried it? How an instinctive desire surges within you from just a touch on the back? Moon-Mars synastry is here, and it will show you exactly that. How you (the Moon person) feel affectionate within Mars's enthusiasm, and how you fear them when Mars is enraged. If you have a positive Moon placement (a natal chart where the Moon is positioned 'comfortably'), you will have unconditional compassion for Mars. The same applies to the Mars person's placement. Let’s look at this synastry where emotions and anger flow rapidly through the layers of the 8th and 12th houses. This is an overwhelming reality you wish to forget. They love each other. But the places where they touch one another hurt. The fights wound your own childhood (the Moon person’s). Every word spoken to you returns to that child like a slap.
Mars Opposite/Square Ascendant + Lilith Synastry
That one person from whose gaze, touch, and warm conversations you derive the most pleasure. You may experience both softness and harshness, yet some feelings seem to hang suspended in the air. As if something is missing... That is where Lilith enters. She will complete what is missing, but from a perverse angle. There is nothing worse than harboring a sense of hatred toward someone you are so deeply attracted to. It hurts. In the room, there is only desire and rage; nothing else remains. And you watch helplessly from outside the room. You cannot enter and bring order to these feelings, because it is out of your hands. With every event that unfolds, you will find yourself justifying the desire a little, and the rage a little.
Mars Square Pluto + The Pluto Person Having Aquarius/Leo Placements in Their Natal Chart
That relationship where the window of violence is wide open. For the first time, a Pluto that 'does not want to change' feels so uncomfortable in this role that they may become hostile toward Mars. Mars is confused, because from the very beginning, they have been trying to figure out a Pluto they cannot physically resist. Pluto is highly restless and active but has no idea what they are doing. Do they want the relationship or not? Perhaps the roles in the relationship have shifted. While Pluto is usually the immobile side the one who can always measure the situation and take calm steps if necessary in this relationship, they are the side that doesn't know what to do, gets bored, and ultimately runs away.
