In 2014, Michael Sam became the first openly gay player to be drafted in the NFL.
Sam’s youth was not easy. As a child, he saw one of his older brothers die from a gunshot wound. He was once accidentally maced by police who were arresting one of his brothers. And another brother has been missing since 1998.
Despite the hardships, Sam was determined to make something of his life. He found the opportunity via his love of sports, especially football. He earned All-District honors as a defensive lineman in all four years of high school. This was despite his mother’s disapproval of the sport (she was a Jehovah’s Witness).
Sam had a secret that his mother would disapprove of even more if she knew. During high school, Sam realized that he was attracted to guys.
“In the summer of 2009, I had experimentation and sure enough afterwards I knew I was pretty damn gay.”
Due to his successes in high school, Sam received several scholarship offers. He decided to attend the University of Missouri. He would play for the Mizzou Tigers all four years. Sam was named a first-team All-American by the Associated Press and the Football Writers Association of America.
But knowing he was gay weighed heavily on him.
“I became a freshman at the University of Missouri knowing that I am gay, but I still tried to deny it….‘Well what do I do? Do I come out? Is this just a phase? What is this?’ ”
At first, he buried his feelings, hoping they would go away. Then he met Vito Cammisano, a swimmer at the University.
“He pretty much changed my life forever. We hit it off fast. We started dating secretly. It was like a fairy tale. I was so happy. I’d never been so happy in my life.”
Rumors started to circulate on campus that Sam was gay. The suspicions and secrets impacted Sam’s relationship with Vito. Finally, Vito asked,
“When you look in the mirror, who do you see?”
Sam didn’t know the answer. He decided to get involved in the LGBT community and attended St. Louis Pride.
“No one cared or even gave me a second look. Everyone there was just full of love and good spirit, and I just felt like I was supposed to belong in this community.”
His next step was coming out to his team. At the start of camp just before Sam’s senior year, the coach had a meet-and-greet meeting where each player introduced himself.
“So when it was my turn, I said, ‘My name is Michael Sam. My major is sports management.’ Then I paused. I paused because it was the first time I ever said these words, and then I said, ‘and I’m gay.’ And the look on my teammates’ faces was, like, ‘Oh, crap. Michael just came out.’ ”
The other players and coaches accepted him, and Sam went on to have a successful year on the team.
“I was just happy at being alive, I was happy at being myself, and it showed in my performance in the field… It was the turning point of my life because that was who I was. At that moment, I was truly Michael Sam, and I had no regrets, and the rest is history.”
His next turning point was the 2014 NFL draft. The press had learned rumors Sam was gay, so he had to deal with additional scrutiny. Plus, NFL Scouting suggested he might need to lower his expectations. Sam was considered to be too small to play defensive end and too slow to play outside linebacker. Despite that, he was drafted by the Rams. His elation of the news was caught on camera as he kissed Vito Cammisano on air.
But a career in the NFL was not to be. The Rams released Sam during the final preseason roster cuts. After a short time on the Dallas Cowboys' practice squad, Sam signed a two-year contract with the Montreal Alouettes of the Canadian Football League (the first openly gay player in the league's history).
Michael Sam is currently an assistant defensive line coach for the Polish Panthers Wrocław of the European League of Football.
Although Sam and Cammisano were engaged, they ended their relationship in 2015 due to the stresses of the spotlight on their relationship. More recently, Michael Sam has been dating professional skater Colin Grafton (who came out in 2024).