Reposted from @dr.katiefrac There's a good reason for the behaviors you do. Even if you don't know or understand the reason(s). Here I'm talking about the behaviors that cause a lot of self-criticism and can indeed be unhelpful in the long-term. For example, procrastinating on work/school, avoiding others, avoiding important projects or conversations, saying yes when you mean no, people-pleasing, overworking, substance abuse, lying, not taking care of yourself, yelling, pushing others away, staying in a sub-par situation, or not performing at your best. These behaviors are all like leaves on a tree. They're obvious and what you see. It makes sense that it's easy to criticize them. What I invite you to consider is that perhaps there are old learnings and experiences, the roots of the tree, that lead you to act in unhelpful ways. That maybe there is a kinder explanation for your behaviors than what the self-criticism tells you (e.g., maybe you are NOT a horrible person who is lazy and incapable of change ;)) Maybe you learned to do a behavior to cope, or maybe you believe you can't change a behavior which keeps you from trying. Whatever the learning or situation related to the behavior, know that change can come from bringing curiosity, compassion, and understanding to whatever you're doing that you're judging. You can change. And you can use kindness to help you do that. . . . . . #selfcompassion #selfcompassionjourney #mindfulnesspractice #mindfulliving #mindfulselfcompassion #selflove #selflovejourney #selfacceptance #selfacceptancejourney #selfappreciation #lessjudgement #lessjudgingmoreloving #selfloveclub #compassionfocusedtherapy #behaviorchange #selfcriticism #recoveringpeoplepleaser #recoveryispossible #recoveryjourney #selfhelp #selfhealers #selfhealing #selfhealingjourney #selfunderstanding #psychologytips #psychologytools #acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy #choosecompassion #selfkindness #selfkindnessmatters https://www.instagram.com/p/CSLZADMjLnI/?utm_medium=tumblr