#gncphobia

[learn-how-to-love]

Flaming hot take apparently but if another trans person’s body causes you dysphoria you need to grow the fuck up and keep your mouth shut. I can’t stress this enough it is not their problem to deal with and YOU need to work on that.

[konjak-jelly]

You have to let your black queer friends know its ok to present as masculine.

You have to let the stud know that you don't see her as less of a woman. You have to let the transfem know you won't see her as a threat if she pauses in her performance for a moment. You have to let the transmasc know he won't be a threat in your eyes if he chooses black manhood. You have to let the black masc gay man that his presence is not a danger to everyone else, you have to let him know that he does not stick out, he is not unwelcome.

You have to let them all know, that their masculinity is not a threat to you. That they do not have to twist and warp themselves into a different version of themselves to be acceptably queer. To be 'safe'.

[sweetpea67]

This site never truly got over transmedicalism it’s just that at some point a small group of people decided that using exorsexist slurs and implying that gnc trans people are self-harming was in fact a Mandatory Part of Transfeminism actually.

[status-quo-hater]

Androqueerphobia

The term is organized as; Andro + queerphobia - to emphasize that this is a subset of queerphobia, not a subset of "misandry" which is a word that has been thoroughly poisoned by reactionary groups such as MRAs, incels, MGTOW, anti-SJWs, and others.

Definition: Bigotry against queer masculinity & queer manhood. Such as what is faced by butches, nonbinary people, transmasculine people & trans men, intersex men, and men/mascs who are gender nonconforming or otherwise genderqueer.

These are all forms of gender identity, expression, presentation & existence that are distinct from cisnormative patriarchal manhood, and posess proximity to femininity in some way, whether it be societally-imposed or from within. Because of this, queer masculinity & queer manhood is marginalized under patriarchy.

This term is meant to enmesh with similar terms used in queer discussion and is not meant to replace anything. It does not have an ideological backing aside from the belief that queer masculinity and manhood is gender-marginalized and those affected deserve a term to talk about that.

[this-is-amato-heteronormativity]

Begging people in fandom spaces to stop treating nonqueer as the default.

An unconfirmed character is not automatically allorose, monorose, straight, monogamous, with 0 prioritized nonrose (platonic/queerplatonic, alterous, sensual, etc) attraction.

An unconfirmed character is not automatically unaltered perisex, cisgender, binary, gender conforming, and pronoun conforming.

Unless the creator or character explicitly states that they are all of those things, then you literally cannot tell people "[insert character here] isn't queer!"

(And also people are allowed to headcanon things that defy canon for the sake of fun and representation, but that's a different discussion to be had.)

[trans-masked]

You can’t claim that the rights of trans people and the rights of gnc people are closely intertwined and then only talk about gnc people when it helps you make a point. Yes cis women (often lesbians) are being harassed or beat up in bathrooms because of anti trans panic but those women are not accidental victims and it’s disrespectful as fuck to act like if they just say they’re not trans the violence will stop. If you want to talk about the struggles of gnc people you have to actually give a damn about them. You can’t act like they’re putting on a performance or “appropriating trans culture” and also use them as a gotcha to say “well if THIS gender non conforming freak counts as a woman/man than why don’t trans people?” you count as a woman/man/other without needing to enforce gender roles

[infernalfeathers]

I made this an independent post rather than just a reblog talking about the issue with my commentation added on.

The irony of a trans man being attacked by other trans people for having a uterus tattoo is staggering. Suddenly, that tattoo can't represent anything but "I apparently love misgendering myself in order to avoid owning up to any privileges real or fabricated I may or may not have" never mind that it might symbolize survival, personal history, trauma, transitional struggles, political statement on his rights being impacted for when having a uterus , or any number of meanings.

This is just a new chapter in the body policing that was once directed at many of these same people by transmedicalists.

So let me ask the alleged "TMA/TME believing transfeminists" out there based on a book written by a woman who even admits she spoke for groups and their oppression she was in no way qualified to speak for: Would you tell your fellow trans woman or for TME/TMA believing trans men would you tell your fellow trans sister who doesn't want bottom surgery that she's not serious about her gender? If she got a tattoo of anatomy you personally find dysphoric, would you call it a "bastardization"? Claim it’s “co opting of oppressed peoples expirences or holding onto their ASAB for benefit?”, begin calling her a mockery of "real trans people" or “real trans women” because it doesn't align with your personal transition goals or ideas of womanhood which laughably reflect the white cishet binary you used to demand be brought down back in 2019 when the movement first began by gasp… FEMINISTS?

The hypocrisy would be laughable if it weren't so damaging. Do you understand how innately exorsexist, varsexist, tgncphobic and intersexist this all is as well? or do you simply not give a shit when it isn’t about you?

Not all trans men hate their vaginas, ovaries, mammaries and uteruses. Hating your genitalia isn't a qualification for being "trans enough", that's transphobic and transmedicalist rhetoric, no matter whose mouth it comes from. We've collectively established for years now why some people don't or literally can't transition how they'd prefer to, reasons we've discussed to death when transmeds and transphobes targeted us.

These include personal preference, intersex variations, allergies, medical trauma, sexual trauma, unsafe living situations, financial constraints, state laws, racism, ableism, medical gatekeeping, psychological gatekeeping, restrictions or limitations of gender affirming care due to trans medicalized or current affirming care being designed to adhere to a binary lenses of gender and sex, and last but not least dangerous interactions between hormones and existing medical conditions.

Many of you were frontline fighters against transmedicalism and transphobia when it served your interests. But now you're taking out your anguish, dysphoria, fear and anger out on your trans siblings and siding with oppressors to protect yourselves. It's a betrayal of everything we supposedly stand for as a community.

[genderkoolaid]

Fun, sparkly, casual gender nonconformity is awesome and wonderful, but it's also not the only type. Gender nonconformity can be serious, and it should have a respected place in society.

It's not inappropriate for a man to wear a dress to a business meeting. It's not inappropriate for a woman to wear a three-piece suit to a funeral. It's not inappropriate for someone to dress androgynous for an interview. Gender nonconformity is, for many people, just a part of expression. It's not just a performance or a fun weekend thing (although, again, that's good too)!

If gender nonconformity is only viewed as "casual", and is still punished in professional spaces for being "inappropriate", trans, genderqueer and gender nonconforming people will never be free. If you only treat gender nonconformity with respect in drag bars and pride festivals, you don't actually respect gender nonconformity.