#gncphobia

[konjak-jelly]

You have to let your black queer friends know its ok to present as masculine.

You have to let the stud know that you don't see her as less of a woman. You have to let the transfem know you won't see her as a threat if she pauses in her performance for a moment. You have to let the transmasc know he won't be a threat in your eyes if he chooses black manhood. You have to let the black masc gay man that his presence is not a danger to everyone else, you have to let him know that he does not stick out, he is not unwelcome.

You have to let them all know, that their masculinity is not a threat to you. That they do not have to twist and warp themselves into a different version of themselves to be acceptably queer. To be 'safe'.

[learn-how-to-love]

My most controversial (but correct) opinion is that feminine women have privilege over masculine women the same way masculine men are privileged over feminine men. Gender conformity is an aspect of privilege, including and especially if you’re trans. Source: My entire adolescence where I was seen as inferior to my femme peers (including my own sister!) and constantly degraded and dismissed for daring to be a girl that didn’t like feminine things in the era of “#justbeyourself girlypop feminism” (that is, coincidentally, making a resurgence now). Like I truly don’t think people who aren’t masc women/hadn’t once identified as masc women or girls understand how we are treated like self hating misogynists for just. Not liking feminine things. And how people will see YOU as the privileged one for being masc when in reality you’re ostracized and struggle to find support because you’re perceived as “not needing it”. It’s a real phenomena that just gets worse if you realize you’re trans, same way as happens to fem men who realize they’re trans women.

[status-quo-hater]

Androqueerphobia

The term is organized as; Andro + queerphobia - to emphasize that this is a subset of queerphobia, not a subset of "misandry" which is a word that has been thoroughly poisoned by reactionary groups such as MRAs, incels, MGTOW, anti-SJWs, and others.

Definition: Bigotry against queer masculinity & queer manhood. Such as what is faced by butches, nonbinary people, transmasculine people & trans men, intersex men, and men/mascs who are gender nonconforming or otherwise genderqueer.

These are all forms of gender identity, expression, presentation & existence that are distinct from cisnormative patriarchal manhood, and posess proximity to femininity in some way, whether it be societally-imposed or from within. Because of this, queer masculinity & queer manhood is marginalized under patriarchy.

This term is meant to enmesh with similar terms used in queer discussion and is not meant to replace anything. It does not have an ideological backing aside from the belief that queer masculinity and manhood is gender-marginalized and those affected deserve a term to talk about that.

[this-is-amato-heteronormativity]

Begging people in fandom spaces to stop treating nonqueer as the default.

An unconfirmed character is not automatically allorose, monorose, straight, monogamous, with 0 prioritized nonrose (platonic/queerplatonic, alterous, sensual, etc) attraction.

An unconfirmed character is not automatically unaltered perisex, cisgender, binary, gender conforming, and pronoun conforming.

Unless the creator or character explicitly states that they are all of those things, then you literally cannot tell people "[insert character here] isn't queer!"

(And also people are allowed to headcanon things that defy canon for the sake of fun and representation, but that's a different discussion to be had.)

[trans-masked]

You can’t claim that the rights of trans people and the rights of gnc people are closely intertwined and then only talk about gnc people when it helps you make a point. Yes cis women (often lesbians) are being harassed or beat up in bathrooms because of anti trans panic but those women are not accidental victims and it’s disrespectful as fuck to act like if they just say they’re not trans the violence will stop. If you want to talk about the struggles of gnc people you have to actually give a damn about them. You can’t act like they’re putting on a performance or “appropriating trans culture” and also use them as a gotcha to say “well if THIS gender non conforming freak counts as a woman/man than why don’t trans people?” you count as a woman/man/other without needing to enforce gender roles

[genderkoolaid]

Fun, sparkly, casual gender nonconformity is awesome and wonderful, but it's also not the only type. Gender nonconformity can be serious, and it should have a respected place in society.

It's not inappropriate for a man to wear a dress to a business meeting. It's not inappropriate for a woman to wear a three-piece suit to a funeral. It's not inappropriate for someone to dress androgynous for an interview. Gender nonconformity is, for many people, just a part of expression. It's not just a performance or a fun weekend thing (although, again, that's good too)!

If gender nonconformity is only viewed as "casual", and is still punished in professional spaces for being "inappropriate", trans, genderqueer and gender nonconforming people will never be free. If you only treat gender nonconformity with respect in drag bars and pride festivals, you don't actually respect gender nonconformity.

[thisisexorsexism]

more gncphobia but still related

“egg culture” in general. ohhhhh that man isn’t acting how YOU think a man should act? so he’s actually a secret trans women?? and you’re gonna misgender him????

ohhhh so that woman doesnt adhere to patriarchal standards and doesn’t like misogyny? so she must be a trans man because “a real woman would like being oppressed she hates womanhood so she must not be one?” so we’re setting back feminism by 50 years because she isn’t acting like a “proper woman” so she must actually be a man?

get the fuck outta here with this bullshit oh my goddddddddddd

this is exorsexism and gncphobia

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

People who get offended when you ask their pronouns will never fail to surprise me. “Obviously I’m a girl/boy”, that’s not apparent actually. Not every trans person passes as their preferred gender and not everyone takes hormones, blockers, or dresses differently. And the other thing is that not every gender has a “look”. Sure non-binary people are usually stereotyped to be AFAB, trans men to be weak and twink-ish, and trans women to be predatory. But it doesn’t have to be like that, it’s just a simple question so why get so worked up about it. Maybe I’m ranting but it’s just ew..

-a genderqueer dude

This is transphobia, exorsexism, GNCphobia, and varsexism.

"Isn't my gender obvious?"

1- Trans & gender diverse (TGD) people may not be interested in a medical transition, may be incapable of a medical transition, or may be pre-transition.

2- TGD people may have "unconventional" transition goals.

3- TGD and non-TGD people alike can be gender non-conforming (GNC) in presentation.

4- Even if every TGD person was gender conforming, society doesn't have "gender roles" for a lot of non-binary genders. What exactly does society expect an androgynous, neutral, null, genderless, xenine, outherine, aporine, mixed gender, or multigender person to look like? Or what does society expect fem enbies and masc enbies to look like in order to "differentiate" themselves from binary women and binary men? Society doesn't have any definitive answer, because of non-binary erasure.

5- Intersex and sex non-conforming people exist.

6- Pronouns =/= gender.

(Gentle note: They are stereotyped to be socially imposed as female, not stereotyped to be AFAB. AFAB doesn't describe how a person is socially treated, it only describes an F on a birth certificate.)