i hope today you at least thought of one single woman.
hi, I'm a girl (or at least, I'm "part" girl) and I went through an abusive irl relationship, let's talk about it:
(tw: slight mention of physical abuse and asking for explicit videos)
it took time for me to say yes. Lots. And lots of time. I was afraid.
Frightened, because I knew I couldn't say no.
So, after two weeks or so, I said yes. At first the relationship wasn't bad, I got showered with some gifts, which I'm still very grateful for, but then some instances happened that I think will never forget, unfortunately I only remember these bad instances, not all of them (if there were others, of course), but here's some of them:
-one time he hit me. He hit me on my shoulder with his fist, at the time we were at a park, so I sat down on a bench and to pass some time I looked at my phone, after a while I still didn't feel great and he laughed about it, since I had gotten up he kinda made fun of me, by saying: "yeah you're only hurt now cause you got up" or something similar to that, and that really hurt me as a kid.
-he asked for explicit videos. I was on vacation, I was enjoying myself in my room that my parents and I were staying at, and I saw one of his WhatsApp statuses, which was something like this: "send me the letter * if we're friends" or smt like that I can't remember, so I answered his status and he played a game with me of truth or dare, were he dared me to send a video of me doing an explicit act (which I will not go into detail on what it is)
-he excused catcalling. Wish I was kidding on this one... It was dark, an evening to be exact, we went out and together we were walking, we passed next to a group of older boys (ages maybe 18-19..? Still they looked WAYYY older) and they catcalled me by whistling at me, I was scared so I remained next to him, but after we had passed those guys, I kinda told him about it, and he said: "it's just what guys do, I'll have to do it too when I'm older" or something like that, and the worst part is that I remember remaining quiet and accepting that...
This is just my experience having a partner, but that doesn't mean that yours isn't, if there's a story, then it's valid either way, and I'm so sorry if you went through that. You deserve to heal and feel better, and if you're in danger DON'T STAY SILENT, don't accept this treatment, don't be like me, that accepted it and felt trapped in her own relationship.
(mind you I was in 3rd grade when this all happened.)
Stay strong girls, we need you in this world🫂❤️🩹🌹
