Long Ranting Post, Sorry :p
Can we stop judging people by what we assume they’re like? And I don’t mean the “don’t judge a book by its cover, haha!” I mean stop looking at people and assuming you know everything about them. Talk to them, you might like them!
I’ll give a couple personal examples, because I’m very responsible of doing this:
I knew a guy, my junior year, the Quarterback of our school actually. No, he wasn’t the most intelligent guy ever, he wasn’t secretly a nerdy guy either, he was a jock through and through. But, he was nice! He was funny and kind, and after coming out to him multiple times he still was respectful and friendly to me.
He taught me that you don’t secretly have to be a nerd or super intelligent to be a good person.
I knew a girl, she was always in the midst of gossip, a dancer and cheerleader for our school. She gossiped and went to parties and drank, but still had the guts to talk about the time she gave a bj and had to spit it out cuz it was so gross. She was extremely comfortable in her sexuality but never overshared. (she was also always kind to me)
She taught me that girls can talk about sexual experiences without regret too.
I know a guy, who is extremely dorky who i connected to one day because he was lecturing our history class about how Lord of the Rings was an analogy for the World Wars. He also has terrible depression and anxiety. I have been scared some nights for his life but he has always come out on top, and while I support him through tough times he sends me frog pictures and funny videos.
He taught me that even the happiest people can have depression.
I was friends with a girl for all four years of highschool, she was extremely charming and relatable, always able to make friends in any space. She was my best friend. Until I realized how she treated me like an idiot. Whenever I shared something I enjoyed with her she either brushed it off or made fun of me. Whenever I would point out something cool or unusual she would talk to me as if I was a child.
She taught me that friendships are about more than being nice to one another, they’re about respect.
What is the point of all of this?
Take a look at how you treat people and maybe think twice. Even if you think you’re the nicest person ever you might still be judging someone.
Oh, and remember, being nice won’t ever make you famous, but the people who you’re nice to will remember you forever.