Parenting Styles: What I Am Today is Because of My Authoritative Parents
In the work of the developmental psychologist named Diana Baumrind, the four parenting styles was developed. She noticed that there are different types of behavior in preschoolers, wherein each type of behavior was highly affirmative to a specific style of parenting. However in Baumrind’s theory there is a close relationship between the styles of parenting and in the children’s behavior, yet various parenting style has a great impact to the development of the behavior of children.
Baumrind was initially identifies the three different types of parenting styles based in her observation, analyses, and study such as authoritative parenting, authoritarian parenting, and permissive parenting. However, Maccoby and Martin expanded the parenting styles work of Baumrind through using two-dimensional framework, wherein they expanded the permissive parenting styles into two different types whereas the permissive parenting style was also known as indulgent parenting style and the neglectful parenting style was also known as uninvolved parenting style, that’s why the parenting styles was become four.
The Four Types of Parenting Styles
Authoritative Parenting Style
(Positive/ assertive control, high warmth, and in adolescence high expectation). The parent was attempt to direct their child to activities but in a rational, they take a different, more moderate approach that emphasizes setting high standards, being nurturing and responsive, and they show some respect for children as independent being. They also encourage their child for being verbal give and take, they give their kids the resources and support that they need to succeed.
Authoritarian Parenting Style
(High conflict and cursive, punitive conflict attempts, and low warmth). The parent would demand a sort of blind obedience from their children, they have a very high expectations of their child, yet they provide a very little in the way of feedback and nurturing, and when their child commit some mistake they tend to be punish it harshly.
Permissive/Indulgent Parenting Style
(High warmth coupled with low control attempts). The parent are reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to let their kids regulate themselves, they tend to be very loving, yet provide few guidelines and rules, they don’t expect some mature behavior from their kids, and often seem like a friend than a parental figure.
Neglectful/Uninvolved Parenting Style
(Low warmth and low control). The parent in this style was characterized of lack both demandingness and responsiveness to their child’s needs, they apply a little control, and they are also sensitive to their children’s needs.
My parents was actually my primary caregiver since then, they are actually a good parent for me, because I can see that what I am today is just because of them. They are actually an authoritative parents because even though they were busy they can still manage their time for me, they always support all the good things that I’m doing, they never missed up to give some advices as I sojourn in this world, and they always teach me to treasure all the happy moments that I experienced. I can say that their parenting style was effective, yet I’m lucky enough that they were my parents, they were actually my role model and motivation to strive more in life, and also I can say that they never failed to perform their duties as a parents to me and to my siblings. My parents were actually never punished me harshly when I commit some mistakes, although there are some instances that I got some punishment from them, but it’s just because I go beyond my limits and they just want me to realize that what they’re doing was just for me to learn some lessons from my mistakes. As I grow up together with my siblings, our parents actually didn’t control us tightly especially when making some decisions in life, yet they just guide us all throughout our journey, they never forbid us to enter in some romantic relationship, but they also never stop guiding us to know and realize that having a romantic or serious relationship to someone will never be a joke, hence it’s good to have some relationship after finishing college and after giving some payback for the hardships and sacrifices of them (even though our parents didn’t told us to payback them, we can see that their sacrifices and hardship for us to have a brighter future is enough to give them some reward and payback). Our parents help us to be independent and think wisely in this wicked world and that’s what I wanted to apply in my future kids.
“The parenting style of my parents was absolutely good for me, because it motivates me to think that it’s okay to be called as “No boyfriend since birth (NBSB)” these days , especially even until graduating in college, because I do believe that the best gift that I can give and offer to my parents aside from diploma is finishing my studies without having a boyfriend all throughout of it, and that thing I think would be great for my parents and they might be proud of me for that in the future"
