Should I blatantly, publicly announce I'm exmo?
Like most folks who have officially left the church via quitmormon, the form letter I had sent to the church had the formal request that the leaders of my branch respect my privacy by not telling anyone that I had left. At the time, I was deathly afraid of my father finding out that I'd decided to officially leave, even though he was already aware that I was a pagan and officially (semi-)supportive of that. I think he wanted to play the reverse psychology angle of supporting my decision to be pagan so I'd question whether I really wanted to be, and come back to the church, because he'd sometimes get mad at me and rant about how my mother had died a mormon, asking why I couldn't still be one. I didn't want to deal with any more of that than I had to.
Unfortunately for me, my father had a calling, at that time, as a family history consultant. He discovered one night that he couldn't find my records, nor my older sister's records, in the church records. Thus, he found out, without being told, that we had left.
With the background being established, here's where I'm at now:
I don't like being bothered by Mormons asking me to come back to church, saying they miss me and whatnot
Especially when they're kind to me and address me as "Brother _______"
I know they'll do this even more if I let them all know that I officially left the church
I also know that announcing that I haven't been a member for almost 4 and a half years will cause tension between my dad and other mormons
While he isn't exactly on the best terms with other mormons, anyway, this would be incredibly embarrassing and infuriating to him
I live with my dad, so it isn't like I can handwave his feelings away
But I HATE being called "Brother _______" because I'm not! I haven't been for years! I am not a brother to racists! Antisemites! Capitalists! Proud sponsors of colonialism! Homophobes, transphobes, biphobes! I'M NOT THEIR BROTHER!
I haven't believed in this cockamamy cult for 8 and a half years. When will they get the fucking clue that I'm not one of them?
So, all of this being said...
I made a new facebook account a few months ago, and sent friend requests only to mormons I used to know, who still live in the area or have close friends and family who do, with the intention of only posting that I am no longer a Mormon, haven't been for years, and requesting that they casually spread the word... but I have not made that post yet, because I know how reckless that would be.
So should I let it be known publicly? If so, how should I go about it?
P.S. I've even worn my fucking Mjolnir necklace in public and they didn't get the fucking hint. Do you know how godsdamned annoying that is? Ugh!