Different For Girls
Your best friend was sitting across from your ex-boyfriend at a coffee shop. You had dated Sam about 8 months and broke up a little over a week ago.
“How’s she doing?” He asks.
“She’s doing okay. You know it’s different for girls. She doesn’t throw any t-shirt on and walk to a bar, she doesn’t text her friends and say, ‘I gotta get laid tonight.’ She doesn’t say, ‘it's okay, I never loved him anyway.’ She don't scroll through her phone just looking for a Band-Aid.” Your friend says. Sam had been doing all those things since the break up. He was out to bars every night and telling all his friends how he just needed to get laid. He told all his friends he never loved you. Something he knew wasn’t true.
”I guess you’ve been talking to Kian.” Sam says. Kian was your best friend’s boyfriend.
”He just said you were trying to find some rebound. It's ust different for girls when their hearts get broken. We can't tape it back together with a whiskey and Coke. We don't take someone home and act like it's nothing. We can't just switch it off every time we feel something. A guy gets drunk with his friends and he might hook up. Fast forward through the pain, pushing back when the tears come on, but it's different for girls. She doesn’t sleep all day and leave the house a wreck. She doesn't have the luxury to let herself go. She’s just doing her best to get over it. She’ s working out a lot, cleaning her house a lot. Just trying to get over you.”
”I mean I’m trying to get over her too. I just..” Sam says.
”Stop. Sam I’ve been to the apartment. It’s a mess. You go out every night and drink to get drunk. You leave the bar with some girl. Meanwhile, your ex-girlfriend who we both know you loved is breaking because of your behavior. Nobody said it was fair when love disappears, she can't pretend it was never there. You can and that’s hard for her.”
“She thinks I’m pretending it was never there?” Sam asks.
“All I’m saying is, think about it if you were her. Her boyfriend who she loved broke her heart and he isn’t even hurting. He’s acting like nothing happened. It’s hurtful.”
