Undeniable Presence: How to Create a Powerful Aura Around Yourself
What does it mean when someone has a “presence” or “aura” about themselves – when someone walks into a room and they just ooze confidence, enthusiasm, and self-assurance? How can you create that type of presence in your own life?
alright, power poses 👍 most are straightforward, you only have to be aware of it. i linked random bts images to show you how an expression can look like.
thumbs in belt is a confidence classic
back of the hand is the upper one/faces upward during handshakes
rather displaying chest/axillae and keep your hands behind your neck, esp. sitting — exposing vulnerable areas without the need to shield them communicates esteem
no barriers communicate a) nothing to hide b) confidence
a pointing index signals strong aggression
palms upward: openness. palms downward: authority
lack of self-soothing cues — the person is grounded
less grooming gestures — the person feels attractive the way they are
walking holding hands, the dominant hand pulls forward = leadership
another classic: the victory clenched fists
a dominant hand is territorial and rests on one’s own hip or other people’s shoulders (namjoon always does that lmao mind you it’s the tallness), arms, side/hip, lower back
no opposite wrist holds
hand leaning on e.g. an adjacent chair/furniture laxly indicates high power
no scratching or rubbing at the neck
hands clasped behind the back, butler stance, symbolizes status (tae does that often 😄) — important: no opposite wrist holds again
hands not perched between legs
both arms cross instead of just one hand holding onto another arm — it’s like the opposite wrist hold. power poses have a lot of symmetry instead.
no shielding of the face
palms flat on the table when speaking as you stand (didn’t find a bts pic so here’s a stock one lmao)
lack of self-touching (esp face, lips in particular) — again, no barries equals power
both hands out of pockets, spread out: generates rapport. hands in pockets: distance
lack of genital guarding
tell-tale sign: when arms are crossed, the thumbs are visible.
when hands are in pockets, same rule applies. or vice versa, when the thumbs hook into pockets.
the best person to study for confident hand gestures is hoseok, he hardly doesn’t power pose.
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Do you have any tips for more powerful/assertive body language? Things like posture, facial expression, gestures, that communicate that you demand respect. All I have so far is chin up shoulders back.
Counterintuitive: Before starting with body language, try ancient rhetoric. Have a brief look at the 3 main principles (logos, ethos, pathos). If your mind pulls a Cicero, the body will follow. Even listening to energetic music will do more for you at first. Learning how to power pose builds up on that. Displaying authority needs both the right thought and mood.
Here, it’s useful to look at your assertive role model. It works better than training yourself into cues that may not be so personal. Tailor it. I found my favorite poker-faced signature pose in MVs and particularly on red carpets— not textbooks. “The Wonder Woman”. Simple, expansive, sturdy, effective. And very demanding of respect.
Arms akimbo fits my stature, improves a lanky posture and creates distance, my arms are long. Easy to gesture from there and return right back, lots of variations possible. Many successful rappers do it. We know Cheetah won the season, look at her:
Also works in a chain, even better. Trump’s wall has nothing on this:
Even for the smallest in the room (subtract CL’s heels), it works miracles. Only the man on the left comes close but keeps the hands in his pockets i.e. lowers the effect. CL goes for full display i.e. maximum space that is theoretically attackable. If you do that, what does it communicate? You are not vulnerable and claim even more space. She even props her left hand on Mark Wahlberg’s shoulder 😎
Just like that, you can find your favorite stances. Met Gala is a good starting point, power posing everywhere. From propping up one foot on the stairs, grabbing your jacket Napoleon style, one leg sidewards, arms wide, chest and axilla displays, strong eye contact, chin up, you can select whatever suits you best.
