A PSA for all you Dean Stans who think that Dean's victims (eg. Sam, Cas, Jack, etc.) are the ones "abusing" Dean:
Expressing autonomy and fighting for your autonomy is not abuse
Getting upset when someone abuses you, gaslights you, guilt-trips you, manipulates you, or violates your autonomy is not abuse
Saying that you wouldn’t violate someone’s body and autonomy to save their life the way they did to you is not abuse
Not following every order that someone gives you without question like a “perfect little soldier” is not abuse
Wanting to live your own life and be your own person is not abuse
Fighting back when someone is abusing you is not abuse
Getting upset when you find out that someone abused your child and that that same person wants to kill said child is not abuse
Having different opinions from someone, and not being a prejudiced asshole like they are, is not abuse
Being a part of a race/species/group that someone is prejudiced against is not abuse
Having special abilities, and using said special abilities to save people, is not abuse
Having an evil asshole for a biological father is not abuse
Having a traumatic birth is not abuse
Being an addict is not abuse
Being manipulated by someone and trusting the wrong person, and making a big mistake because of that, is not abuse
Not liking something that someone did for you/gave to you is not abuse
Showing emotions such as anger, sadness, grief, fear, etc. is not abuse
Defending someone else who is being abused is not abuse
Getting upset with someone because they killed your friend in front of her son just because of her race/species is not abuse
Not constantly being at someone's beck and call is not abuse
Choosing saving the world over following someone's orders is not abuse
Siding with your friend/girlfriend/partner/child/etc when someone is being abusive, assholeish, and/or bigoted to them is not abuse
Choosing to leave your toxic family and their dangerous toxic lifestyle that you hate is not abuse
Going no-contact after your abusive dad kicks you out for wanting to go to college, your older brother chooses your abusive dad over you, and they both say "get out and never come back" is not abuse
Moving on healthily after your brother dies, again leaving the dangerous toxic lifestyle he dragged you into, and having a family and a normal life is not abuse
Accidentally hurting/killing someone with your hard-to-control powers after they were screaming in your face is not abuse
Not immediately forgiving, brushing off, or "getting over" every bad thing that someone does to you and your loved ones is not abuse
Refusing to kiss someone’s ass, refusing to worship the ground they walk on, and refusing to do everything they say without question is not abuse
Being mentally ill, having hallucinations, and having trauma is not abuse
"talking back" or "having an attitude" with your abuser(s) is not abuse
Standing up to your abuser(s) and not just taking the abuse lying down is not abuse
Refusing to kill innocents, and being upset with the person who wanted you to kill said innocents is not abuse
Getting upset with someone for attacking/killing innocent people just because of a part of them that they can’t help/control is not abuse
Being upset with someone for kicking you out/leaving you homeless is not abuse
Not having your abuser in most of your happy memories is not abuse
Running away from your abusive home is not abuse
Owning things that someone else doesn’t want you to have (eg. dogs, books that are unrelated to Hunting, healthy food, “chick flicks”, etc.) is not abuse
Liking things that are outside of the gender norms and/or that your abusive family doesn’t like/doesn’t want you to like, is not abuse
Not liking things that your abusive family likes/wants you to like is not abuse
Telling someone off for being racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/ misogynistic/ otherwise bigoted and assholeish is not abuse
Being possessed/controlled by someone and doing bad things against your will/when you’re not in your right mind, is not abuse
Not helping someone with something they can do themselves, because you’re literally fighting a civil war against your own siblings and trying to prevent an apocalypse is not abuse
Doing something behind someone’s back to save people/the world, because they don’t give a shit about you, and they wouldn’t listen to you even though people/the world were in danger is not abuse
Keeping something about yourself a secret from someone, because that person was prejudiced against that thing and constantly judged and shamed you for it is not abuse