#pushing away

[blondebrainpowered]

[nocturnal-desolation]

Pro Tip: Not ignoring or pushing away the people you like/love helps a lot if you don't want them to leave you.

[concealthefeelings]

so many of you self-sabotaging fucks out there craving for someone to really truly love you, just to go and push away the one person that actually wants to give you all that. that’s not protecting anyone, that’s just a shitty choice you’re making. so go get your person, before you’re too late. this is your sign.

[its-all-coming-back-to-meme-now]

[hel7l7]

I’m just trying to protect you from who I am

[mental-health-advice]

Any advice on reconnecting/reconciling with friends you've pushed away and/or been distant from after being more ill for a period of time? Thanks :)

Hey there,

I can really relate to this as I seem to be so good at pushing others away and especially when I am doing badly and really struggling with life.

I guess the best thing you can do to reconnect with those you have pushed away or become distant to is to just send them a txt message or email (or contact them how ever you feel most comfortable doing so) and just explain to them that you have been struggling and part of you struggling is that you push others away, sometimes without even noticing doing it. You do not have to go into details about your struggles or why you may have lost contact for a period of time but apologise to them and let them know that you can’t promise it won’t happen again but that you will try to stay in contact the future and just ask them to be patient with you and perhaps even send you a message now and again if contact suddenly stops asking if you’re OK or that they hope that all is well.

I cannot promise that all your friends will reply or wish contact to resume but at the very least you would have tried and done all you could have done to reconciliate the friendship with them. The reason why I have pointed this out is because I have been in a similar situation to you and not all friends have replied to my wish to reconnect. And although this may hurt a lot you have to remind yourself that you cannot make others be in contact if they do not want to be. Like maybe they have moved on in their lives but this does not mean that they would have forgotten you and all the great times you guys have spent together.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do not hesitate to let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

[inappropriate-feelings]

I can only say thank you for pushing me away and letting me go. It brought me to much better places and people. I’m actually really happy now.

[kittenmeow4050]