#queerplatonic repulsed

[roses-are-repulsed]

You can be repulsed by QPRs btw. That's a valid form of repulsion. it doesn't matter if it's "not sexual or romantic tho!!!" because repulsion doesn't start and stop at only romance and sex.

Not every aspec has to like the idea of being in a QPR. being repulsed by QPRs is not an anti-QPR stance. it's just a kind of relationship that people can have a multitude of feelings on like any other.

[dotiskitty334]

can people PLEASE stop saying shit like "its okay to be aroace, you can still love your friends!" and "dont ship aroace characters, put them in a QPR!" like NO. i would RATHER it just be romantic or sexual or whatever platonic love is GROSS and yall write it like romance but change a few words half the time. Who actually CARES.

also ppl seem to forget that someone can lack tertiary attraction or even be repulsed by it. im not interested in dating or sex but i would rather do those than have some "deep platonic bond" with someone. weird and gross and strange and offputting.

[this-is-amato-heteronormativity]

Is this bigotry ?

I'm not partnering aro and on the aplaspectrum (I know it's usually apl but I don't get the logic and i find apl hard to pronounce so I use apla) (also ace but that doesn't matter here) and I can't help but be annoyed at QPRs. I know it makes a lot of people happy and that's good for them, if it suits them that's great and I'm glad they found their thing. I'd never say that to people's face and I keep it to myself but QPRs and talks about them make me feel icky and annoyed when I see it and I wish it wasn't shoved in my face as much as it is in the aro community (I feel like it's hailed at this universal aro experience). I can't tell if I'm (queer?)platonic repulsed or if I'm being queerplatonicmisic or anything.

Context [link.]

So long as you aren't treating people with QPRs poorly, then it's fine for you to experience QP-repulsion.

[revenant-coining]

Queerplatonic Stances

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requested by @ithriel-coins

flags in order: ambivalent, averse, desired 1, desired 2, drained, favorable, indifferent, oscillating, repulsed, and abstainer

Queerplatonic-Ambivalent: one has mixed or complicated feelings regarding queerplatonic interaction.

Queerplatonic-Averse: one feels repulsed by the idea of personally engaging in queerplatonic interaction.

Queerplatonic-Desired: one actively seeks out queerplatonic interactions and feels incredibly happy when they receive it.

Queerplatonic-Drained: one feels repulsed by queerplatonic interaction due to trauma or exhaustion.

Queerplatonic-Favorable: one feels favorable towards or enjoys queerplatonic interaction.

Queerplatonic-Indifferent: one has no strong feelings regarding queerplatonic interaction.

Queerplatonic-Oscillating: one’s feelings towards queerplatonic interaction change or fluctuate over time.

Queerplatonic-Repulsed: one feels repulsed by queerplatonic interaction.

Queerplatoniclly Abstainer: the practice of refraining / abstaining from queerplatonic relations / some or all aspects of queerplatonic activity for any reason.

@radiomogai , @oneofmanyarchives

[rjalker]

Relationship-favorable aspec people throw nonpartnering aspec under the bus every single fucking time.

[roses-are-repulsed]

Just because a QPR isn't inherently romantic or sexual doesn't mean that you can't be repulsed by it. Some actions are going to repulse you no matter the context they are in. You aren't required to suddenly be not-repulsed by certain actions just because it's done in a QPR instead of a rose relationship. QPRs are not a fix to repulsion. they don't suddenly make someone stop being repulsed. for a lot of repulsed people the context of a situation doesn't change their repulsion. So don't assume that they should be fine with something because "The context is different".

[roses-are-repulsed]

Just because a relationship isn't labeled as romantic doesn't mean that you, as a romance repulsed person, can't be repulsed or uncomfortable at the idea of being in any sort of committed relationship. You don't have to be comfortable with the idea of being in a QPR just because it's not "inherently romantic". You don't have to be comfortable with the idea of marrying for benefits because it's "Not like a romantic marriage". You can still be made uncomfortable by these things. these things can still trigger your repulsion. it's not you saying that these are inherently romantic. Feelings like this aren't as clear cut and just claiming something "isn't romantic" doesn't magically make those feeling disappear and you shouldn't be forced into being okay with or entering those types of relationships just because they "aren't romantic" and so "shouldn't trigger you"

[roses-are-repulsed]

Plato repulsed ppl, I'd like to hear some of your opinions and experiences about being plato repulsed!

I'm not plato repulsed myself but I want to be able to support plato repulsed ppl on this blog too. So i thought I'd ask actual plato repulsed ppl to share their thoughts and experiences ^^