#non partnering

[arowitharrows]

the thing about "just say you have a boyfriend to make that guy leave you alone" and "just say you are a couple so you can get that apartment" and "just marry your friend for tax benefits" is that they aren't actually solutions to any of the underlying problems, and I'm tired with the discussion always ending there. No please keep going and explain why being in a relationship would solve these issues and why you think that isn't actually a problem?

[normystical]

btw not all affectionate friendships are queerplatonic. platonic is not the same as queerplatonic. you can have a good friendship with someone and even cuddle and kiss and get married and have a child together and it can still be platonic (as in neither queerplatonic nor romantic). let people love deeply without requiring them to make it about partnership

[sortingmyideas]

If you hear of a character being romance/sex repulsed and your first thought is to try to debunk or ignore it, fuck you.

If you hear of a character being aro/ace and your first thought is to say it's not canon because it wasn't explicitly stated in the media they're in (even if it was confirmed by the creator), fuck you.

If you hear of a character being romance/sex repulsed and your first thought is to say that character is boring/lonely/sad/evil because of that, fuck you.

It's almost comical how fandom is largely filled with people who claim to support aro/aces until their favorite character happens to be aro/ace. Then it's every excuse under the sun to ignore that or better yet, claim it's not canon.

A lot of you don't give that same treatment to gay characters, so you might wanna figure out why you're so okay with doing it to these ones.

[neptune-scythe]

shout-out to non-partnering a-specs and repulsed a-specs and loveless a-specs and heartless a-specs on this the first day of the horrible month of February where everything is suddenly about love and romance

[aspecmemesdaily]

Source | Day 572

[madamefeu]

The ‘new’ ace flag discourse is utterly stupid. First of all, I hate the ‘new’ flag. It’s ugly and it looks stupid. I hate the yellow and pink stripes. I hate the fact that it centers love because the asexual community was just starting to warm up to the fact that not everybody needs or wants a long term relationship, be it romantic, sexual, or a queerplatonic relationship, but nooooo, even though we as a community decided that we don’t owe society a performance of sex, this person had the arrogance to assert that we still owe society a performance of love. Way to completely exclude non partnering aces, apl and afams. The old flag doesn’t have a stripe representing ‘love’, and it doesn’t explicitly alienate loveless members of the community.

And on the subject of arrogance, who asked for a ‘new’ flag? I didn’t. There’s nothing wrong with the flag that we already have. I’ve never had a problem with it, and I don’t know any other aces who have. I can’t speak for everyone, of course, but I think it’s arrogant and ignorant to come up with a redesign that nobody asked for, declare it the ‘new’ flag, and expect the entire internet to accept it without question, and treat it with equal weight as the existing flag. No.

In short, I will continue to use the ‘old’ asexual flag. I didn’t want or ask for a ‘new’ one, and I will not be shamed into using it.

[gazazabad]

Being aro & or non-partnering does not equal a less happy life.

So many partnerships can be toxic and ARE toxic. No relationship is inherently good and btw romance will not save you.