#questioning attraction

[redacted-coiner]

Hello! Could you please make a pixel art circle pin thing for aegoromantic, queer, and gender questioning? And please tag me if you do! :)

aegoromantic, aegoroaroace/aegororose, aegorosexual

Queer and Progress Pride

Questioning flags

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[This user is questioning their attraction.]

[raavenb2619]

Hello...Im aroace aaaand just wanted to ask if you have some experience with squishes and qpr's? If so, do you think I can call whatever-the-fuck-Im-feeling-for-my-bff a squish if I have all the "symptoms" of being in love except that I dont think I wanna date him? Like I keep imagining if we kissed and blablabla but the label "boyfriend" is definitely something I Don't Want Even With Him. I just want our regular friendship but...a lil gayer. Is this normal??? Is this a squish or am I in love?

Hm. Concrete labels can definitely be helpful when you’re trying to communicate your feelings and experiences, but they’re certainly not a requirement. If you and your friend can reach a mutually satisfactory agreement with regards to activities you want to do and boundaries that need to be respected without using specific labels, then any labels you might later adopt would probably just to explain your interpersonal dynamic to other people. Add in the potentially nebulous difference between romantic, platonic, and alterous attraction, and it’s possible that not using labels might actually be the best thing for you and your friend. 

On the other hand, I recognize that labels can also help people understand their own feelings and experiences, so here’re some labels and the ways in which I understand them. 

Romantic attraction is a kind of interpersonal attraction wherein a person wants to perform and receive gestures specifically in a romantic context with another specific person. Common romantically-coded behaviors and gestures include kissing, hugging, cuddling, dating, marriage, raising children, and more, but the intention (or lack thereof) of romance and romantic context takes precedence over whether an activity is commonly assumed to be exclusively romantic. 

Platonic attraction is a kind of interpersonal attraction wherein a person wants to become friends (or become better friends) with another person. Someone who is platonically attracted to someone might want to perform gestures that can overlap with romantic attraction, like cuddling, hugging, or holding hands, but because the lack of romantic intent, might classify the same behaviors as evidence of platonic attraction instead of romantic attraction. 

Alterous attraction is an (intentionally vague) kind of interpersonal attraction that can’t be classified as wholly platonic or wholly romantic. It often has some nebulous overlap with both while being distinct. In the rare circumstances where I’ve personally experienced alterous attraction, it was kind of like starting at platonic attraction, and then moving in the direction of the vague idea of romance and infatuation, rather than moving in the direction of actual romantic attraction. 

Queerplatonic relationships are a kind of non-romantic relationship that “queer” the boundaries of what’s societally expected/acceptable in non-romantic (i.e. platonic) relationships, especially when it comes to commitment, affection, and intimacy. QPRs don’t have a set mold, but queerplatonic partners (QPPs) might decide to buy a house together, or raise children together, or always go on vacation together, or file taxes together, etc. 

[redacted-coiner]

Lesbian, Straight(link), Veldian(link)

Trixic, Enbian, Tronic

Strayt(link), Questioning, Gai(link)

Mono Attraction terms

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[questioning-culture-is]

questioning culture is finding an app that helps log your gender and attractions. :D

please share!!!

[questioning-culture-is]

Questioning culture is jokingly calling your attraction Russian Roulette. You don't know what's gonna hit you, but you know it's something.

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[questioning-culture-is]

god its been years since ive questioned my identity this much but uh haha yeah i have no idea if i just experience tertiary or sexual attraction towards girls. any tips or resources to better differentiate attraction?

I honestly can't think of any, maybe @variorientedcultureis can help?

If anyone else knows something, please add it!!

[questioning-culture-is]

Attraction questioning culture is doing your best to accept that you can totally want/be in a relationship even if you don't feel attraction

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