Okay so can we talk about Black Moon Lilith in synastry because nobody is and it's CRIMINAL
Like everyone is out here checking sun compatibility and venus signs (valid, do that) but completely ignoring the one placement that will tell you whether this person is going to see you or spend the whole relationship trying to tame you
Lilith is the part of you that got exiled the hunger that was called too much, the rage that was called irrational, the sexuality that was called intimidating. She is everything you were taught to shrink and she does not shrink she just goes underground and starts running the show from there
So when someone's planet especially their sun, moon or mars lands on your Lilith in synastry?
One of two things happens.
Either they recognize her, they look at the part of you everyone else flinched at and they go oh there you are and suddenly you feel seen in a way that's almost unbearable because you're not used to it.
Or. OR.
They're threatened by her and they will spend the entire relationship trying to make her small again. And the truly sinister part is it won't always look like control. Sometimes it looks like "i just worry about you." sometimes it looks like "you've changed since we got together." Sometimes it looks like them going completely silent every time you take up space.
And here is the thing about Lilith that will mess you up if you're not careful
She has been rejected so many times that she sometimes can't tell the difference between someone who is genuinely afraid of her and someone who is just human and imperfect. She will torch a good thing if she feels even a little bit like she is being managed. She's got hair-trigger exile radar.
So the real work isn't just finding someone whose chart can handle your Lilith, nope, haha, no.
It's learning to trust that being seen isn't the same as being trapped.
That's the whole thing. There.....a flower🌻.
Oh and speaking of being seen in your full feral complexity, it's giving birthday season over here and I'm celebrating mine by making YOUR chart the gift. Every reading you book right now comes with a free Persona Chart of your choice 🌻👵🏻I'm getting old. Check the pinned post or the link below.
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