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In your opinion, is it a red flag if someone continue to drink, knowing they have a (romantic) partner who was an alcoholic and is in recovery?

1. It IS a red flag. They're expected to give up drinking for their partner

2. It's NOT a red flag, but it's not good either

3. It's NOT a red flag, as long as they DON'T drink AROUND the partner

4. It's NOT a red flag, as long as they DON'T keep alcohol in their shared house

5. It's NOT a red flag, as long as they DON'T encourage their partner to drink

I agree with more than one option, SPECIFICALLY option 2, 3, 4 and 5

I agree with more than one option, SPECIFICALLY option 3, 4 and 5

It NEVER is a red flag. They have every right to live their life too

Something else (feel free to speak your mind)

Voting ended onMay 26, 2024

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How Did We Get Into This Mess?

There are times in life when we get jolted out of our normal reality by events that seem harsh and hard to understand.  Many times bad things appear to be random and there is no way to really know why they happen, such as the tragic death of a young person or someone near and dear to you.  Sometimes, even in tragedy people find meaning and respond by trying to do something good in the world.  There are other events that serve the purpose of waking us up so we pay attention to something gone wrong, something out of balance, and in need of a course correction in our life.  These are sometimes very personal struggles and sometimes they are collective experiences.

 One such jolting experience was the election of Donald Trump, which has thrown many people into some level of despair and provoked soul-searching questions like why and how could this happen.  Ken Wilber, the leading scholar, philosopher, and author on Integral Theory has tackled those questions in a new eBook, “Trump and a Post-Truth World”, (see link below) and offers the most comprehensive perspective I have seen.  He makes a compelling argument that this event was a necessary correction for the cultural evolution of our country.

 Integral theory provides an elegant framework for understanding human and cultural development and can be applied to individuals, groups, and societies.  Spiral Dynamics is a related framework and these frameworks demonstrate how we have culturally evolved and how our world-views have changed over time.  As we work our way through the stages of development, each stage will transcend and include the stages that go before it.  On a basic level, it is similar to child development where we learn to crawl, then walk, then run.  Each stage is necessary and has value, and we become capable of more complexity of perspective as we grow.  In the normal course of development, we also become more compassionate, inclusive, and less inclined towards violence and destruction as we mature.  However, people are not aware of this developmental hierarchy in general and so up until a certain level we tend to believe our own world-view is the superior and correct way to understand reality and those who are at a different level are inferior and wrong.

 Ken Wilbur uses this developmental framework to show how those at the leading edge of evolution, at what he calls the green level, have gotten way off-track, and directly contributed to the conditions in our culture that led to the Trump election.  Specifically, he calls out those on the liberal political side for losing balance in perspective and failing to include and understand the perspectives of those at different levels of the hierarchy, and instead displaying an attitude of ridicule and superiority.  He explains the contradictions and hypersensitivities of those at the green level which were imposed on others in the form of excessive regulations and political correctness.  His point is that this contributed to the seething anger and resentment that Trump exploited which carried him into office.  He describes this result as a necessary halt in our cultural evolution, a step back to regroup and re-balance before we can move forward again.  His call is for deep reflection and self-evaluation and an overall course correction.  He also describes a vision for how this can happen. 

 This book does not deal with the questions of how we can counter the immediate threats of an autocratic administration, however it does deal with the larger questions of how we got here and how we can make the needed adjustments to get back to a more sane and compassionate direction for our country.  This is a heady book and not an easy read, but if you want serious answers to why we have gone so far off course, what we need to learn from it, and how to move forward in creating a more healthy and compassionate world, then I highly recommend taking the time to digest what Ken has to teach us.  You can find a copy in my digital library here.

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How to Overcome Hard Relationships? - Take the Help

Relationships can be difficult at times, and even the strongest of bonds can fail. Dealing with conflict and overcoming difficulties in a romantic, friendship, or family relationship can be difficult. Seeking the advice of a relationship healer is extremely beneficial in such situations. In this blog, we'll talk about how to overcome hard relationships with the help of a relationship adviser, with subheadings to help you along the way.

Recognize the Need for Assistance

Recognizing the need for help is the first step in overcoming difficult relationships with the assistance of a relationship adviser. Many people have difficulty asking for help, especially in personal relationships. Seeking the advice of a relationship healer, on the other hand, is a sign of strength and a willingness to work on the relationship.

Locate a Relationship Counsellor

The next step is to find a relationship counsellor who can assist you in overcoming the difficulties you are experiencing. Relationship advisers come in a variety of forms, including healer, therapists, coaches, and counsellors. It's critical to find a relationship adviser who has worked with the type of relationship you're in and with whom you feel comfortable talking and working.

Determine the Problems

Once you've found a relationship counsellor, the next step is to figure out what's causing the problems in your relationship. This may entail investigating past experiences, behavioural patterns, and communication styles. Being honest and open with your relationship adviser will help them better understand the issues and provide appropriate guidance.

Improve Your Communication Skills

Communication is an essential component of any relationship, and learning effective communication skills is vital in overcoming difficult relationships. A relationship counsellor supports you in developing communication skills that will allow you to express yourself more clearly, listen more effectively, and work together to resolve conflicts.

Set Objectives

Setting goals is an important part of overcoming difficult relationships. A relationship counsellor works with you in setting realistic and achievable goals, as well as working toward resolving the issues that are causing problems in your relationship.

Make a Plan of Action

After you've established your objectives, the next step is to devise a strategy for achieving them. This entails devising new communication strategies, establishing boundaries, or altering certain behaviours. A relationship adviser aids you in developing a plan of action that is tailored to your specific situation and will work alongside with you toward your goals.

Improve the Relationship

Finally, it is critical to work on the relationship. This includes spending time together, participating in activities that you both enjoy, or making an effort to express gratitude to the other person. A relationship adviser guides you on how to improve your relationship and build a stronger connection.

Overcoming hard relationships can be difficult, but seeking the assistance of a relationship counsellor can make a significant difference. You can overcome hard relationships, the challenges and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship by recognizing the need for help, finding a relationship adviser, identifying the issues, developing communication skills, setting goals, creating a plan of action, and working on the relationship. Remember that seeking help shows courage and a willingness to work toward positive change in your life and relationships. This is why Ajita Shah is here to assist you with solutions and advice.

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Emily Yoffe, aka Dear Prudence, Slaps Reader On His Bigoted Homophobic Beliefs

Question Crush's Gay Dads: I really like Audrey, a woman I met in one of my classes. We get along really well and have acknowledged we are attracted to one another. What stops me from asking her out is that she has two dads, and for religious and personal reasons I feel homosexuality is a sin. I do not treat gay people differently than straight people and I do not want harm to come to gay people. That said, I do not support gay marriage. Audrey is very outspoken about gay rights, and I worry that if we began dating I would have to compromise my beliefs to suit her. I know her dads did a great job raising her but on a basic level will never be comfortable with them. I really like Audrey, but is our potential relationship doomed from the start? I respect Audrey's right to believe what she believes and want her to respect my right to believe what I believe.

Emily Yoffe, aka Dear Prudence: Leave Audrey alone. You're entitled to your beliefs, but it's ridiculous for you to get involved with a woman who in any way would have to defend her loving parents to you. In matters like this minds are changed one person at a time, so it's most unfortunate that knowing the background of this great woman hasn't made you question your own bigoted assumptions.