#rosy posts.

[adhdenbywitch]

You know, a lot of you, both cis and trans, are going down the radfem pipeline. The two most common forms I’ve seen are:

A. You genuinely identify as a radfem, but you’re a TIRF or TRF.

OR

B. You’re technically opposed to radfems, but you still clearly carry radfem schools of thought with you. The only thing stopping you from identifying as one is that radfems are the ones actively causing harm right now. So you’re stuck in the pipeline like a damn spitball, constantly insisting you’re not going down a path you very clearly are.

Either way, this website needs to properly understand radical feminism in its entirety so you can recognize its rhetoric, reject it, and stop trying to reform an ideology that is transphobic, exorsexist, and intersexist, and at its core is also deeply conservative, racist, and rooted in white supremacy.

We will never achieve true gender and queer liberation if you keep playing this shit.

[adhdenbywitch]

My unpopular opinion as an aroace person is that SOME aro and ace people from all across the spectrum have a problem with being ableist and queerphobic when speaking about allo people and it scares people who think that they might be on the spectrum but also experience attraction or aren't repulsed away from this community because they're also mentally ill, disabled, possibly identify as orientated or angled; therefore seeing that turns them AWAY from our communities and doesn't welcome them as they should.

And yes, allo people also do use ableist, saneist and generally queerphobic rhetoric against aro and ace people but the solution is not turn it around on them, because it's a piece of shit move to use, and it also isolates members of our community.

[adhdenbywitch]

I typically don't like vagueposting but if you really do believe that feminism, all forms of it is somehow more detrimental to trans people than the cis patriarchy which made feminism be created by a group of people who are affected by it, than it really does prove that your only experience with intercommunity issues and activism is here on Tumblr.

Also you have a fundamental misunderstanding as to how liberation movements work, because if you did have real understanding of it, then you'd know that all liberation movements have a group of a people who have awful ways of going about gaining that liberation and how they think about their oppression.

[adhdenbywitch]

I do find it funny how people who fearmonger about t4c fics where the trans man bottoms on AO3 act like its strictly cishetperisex woman writing it, when everybody with the exception of someone I've met recently who write transmasculine characters in general is transmasculine in some way themselves, and also I don't get the problem with this supposed cishetperisex woman deciding that she only wants to write or read bottoms who have the same genitals as her.

I get the fear of possible fetishization but also I know how people treat real people is what is far more indictive of their character than the fiction they write or read, and if this woman is treating the actual trans people around her whether they're deeply involved in her life or not with actual respect and not like sex objects, genuinely, why care about the AO3 smut?

Especially when there are real trans masculine being chased, fetishized and abused by cishetperisex men all the time by being slowly forced into detransitioning.

But then again some of the people who tend to take issue with these fics will openly mock and degrade these people because they, to varying extent, believe that transmasculine people are pathetic and weak creatures who deserve this abuse because they dated a cis person, and don't offer resources to get them help, instead just shouting "go t4t" as if other trans people are inherently incapable of being abusive and transphobic themselves.

[adhdenbywitch]

You know as much as I hate that radqueers ever came to be, I beg of queer people and the overall LGBTQIA+ community to stop fucking using the "They make us look bad" argument when pushing back against them. It is built off bigotry (transphobia, biphobia, aphobia, exorsexism) and it is also Respectability Politics.

Bigots already have preconceived notions of us being rapists, pedophiles, zoophiles, and just sexual predators in general. They will not give a fuck that we vehemently reject these people as part of the community, that's what they already thought before but now there's something new for them to try to justify oppressing us.

Instead, focus on the fact "Radqueer" came from someone who was pro-contact for paraphilias and originated xenosatanism ( the belief that the age of consent should be abolished, that CSAM/CSEM should be legal, rape/sexual assault should be legalized, etc) and that it is majority vulnerable minors and some adults in these groups. We should be trying to help them get out of these circles and protect them from exploitation.

I beg of you to stop playing respectability politics and protect the people both in and out of our community.

[adhdenbywitch]

Sex repulsed asexuals, I feel a deep love and respect for you But I am begging for you to not to compare aces are kinky joke posts and posts that are encouraging people that aren't sex repulsed to have a healthy relationship with sex and kink to "functional conservation".

That's not how conservatives work, especially religious ones. Most of them are actively disgusted by the kinks that allo and non sex repulsed people have, even if it out of some internalized shame because they have it too or secretly do it behind closed doors. They want people to be having strictly married, vanilla, missionary sex with the lights off.

It is okay for a post to not be about you, and even for that post to bring up negative feelings because it makes you feel bad that you aren't the person described in the post, because your feelings are valid. What isn't okay to make bullshit comparisons like this because of those negative feelings.

[adhdenbywitch]

Checking on an old friend I had to only see that he is still the same misogynistic, racist, and biphobic creep, he's just gotten slightly better at hiding it and is now fully claiming Slavic heritage despite saying that he was more likely to be Indigenous than my friend because he had no wisdom teeth.

[adhdenbywitch]

I truly believe that exclusionists who came up with the strawman of "cishet aromantic man who invades queer spaces to take advantage of women by only sleeping with them and not having sex with them." was/is just them wanting to push Christian purity culture along with aphobia, but it makes them seem significantly less credible if they essentially say "I believe having romanceless sex is ungodly" rather than expressing faux concern for queer women.