VENUS, PLANET OF LOVE

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[adhdenbywitch]

𝙄𝙉𝙏𝙍𝙊𝘿𝙐𝘾𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉

Rosalie/Rose/Rowan • 21+ • mixed black and filipino • they/he/she• genderfluid nonbinary • bi aroace • polytheist pagan witch • MDNF

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Hello. First and foremost, this is a blog primarily for me to be able to partake in witchblr and paganblr but I also use it for fandom shit, particularly Hazbin Hotel and Helluva Boss and IWTV since that's what i’m hyperfixated on and non pagan/witch shit in general. If that bothers you, move on. Also NSFW will be featured here, so taps MDNF.

i also will sometimes reblog things concerning politics and certain social issues, so again, if that bothers you, please move on and don't whine at me about it.

Everything will be tagged appropriately in terms of triggers to the best of my ability but I can't always account for obscure or more niche triggers so you might have to tell me if you want something tagged.

Secondly, time to get into my DNI. Most of this is a little bit specific with distinct explanations but for a good reason, trust me.

DNI:

Radfems, TERFS, SWERFS, if you're anti-kink but don't identify with those labels, transmeds, trucusms, tucutes, so-called "normal gays", anyone who considers intersex people to not be apart of the queer community, adult radqueers, and TMA/TME users.

Israel supporters/sympathizers/zionists, any genocide deniers, and ecofascists. I mean this with all of the disrespect in my heart and mind, fuck off.

Antitheists. This also includes you (mostly white) feminists who think that you can't be a feminist and religious. I just don't want you here for hopefully obvious reasons.

Youth liberationists/youth rights. I am so sorry but that well has just been poisoned the very moment it came onto Tumblr, Reddit and it got popular with radqueers. I do believe that children are people and are an oppressed or marginalized class who deserve more automony but I CANNOT in good conscious, identify with these labels or have people who do around me. Also I simply cannot trust white minors who believe that because of their age, they do not hold any power over me, a POC and that I'm the oppressor inherently despite the US and the rest of the world's history saying otherwise.

Antis but specifically those of you who are antiship, anti fiction, and pro censorship with an obsession to moralize everything you don't like. Fictional children will never have rights and dark romance books cannot make a woman enjoy or think abuse is okay, and it cannot make men just start abusing and raping women because they read a fictional book where a fictional woman is into the CNC.

Leftists if you have a "FAFO" mentality when bad shit happens to red and/or southern states. Learn what gerrymandering is, how deeply it impacts southern states (and particular to suppress marginalized groups' votes) and how many people actually voted blue in those southern red states compared to blue northern states. Also, you are not truly anti-fascist if you believe certain people deserve to suffer and live under fascism.

[datsderbunnyblog]

The scientology speedruns were already funny but I thought they were joking when they said they were mapping the building. I absolutely lost it when I saw the actual map.

[imjunebitch]

"yeah I'm a feminist erm that's why I tell bi women to break up with their boyfriends or they aren't bi and dog on any trans woman who isn't a transbian" SHUT THE FUCK UPPP and keep my sapphic sisters names out of your mouth don't pretend ur somehow helping lesbians when ur being biphobic and calling random tgirls minding their own business pickmes 😭

[polyamorouspunk]

Hot take but I don’t think you can claim to be for trans rights while hating men… “why would I ever bother to remember a man’s name” because there are a lot of trans men out there who have done more for the queer community than literally anyone on here… and they deserve to have their names remembered instead of erased. Unless, of course, you don’t see them as “real men”.

[thewarmvoid]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for trans men and transmasculinities ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[doberbutts]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for trans women and transfemininities ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[transcyberism]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for nonbinary/genderqueer people and transneutrality ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[cosmicstrays]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for multigender/unigender people and transandrogynies ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[luxiomahariel]

"im a misandrist but not in a terfy way"

theres no feminist way to be a misandrist that doesnt bleed into terf ideology.

[luxiomahariel]

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be racist towards men of color.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be ableist towards disabled and/or neurodivergent men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be intersexist towards intersex men or intersex people that look like men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans women who don't want to pass or cant pass for whatever reason.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be exorsexist towards nonbinary men or nonbinary people who might look like men.

if youre a misandrist, i dont fucking trust you. you are not an ally to me or to marginalized people.

[transfaguette]

when you’re a little girl boys will say “so if boys and girls are equal that means I get to hit you right?”

and then you grow up to be a trans man and people will say to you “oh i thought you wanted to be a man, that means you have to put up with [abusive behavior]”

and they will tell you these 2 things do not stem from the same desires of gendered punishment and control

[queerpeers]

me: “yeah I dated a guy in high school who came out as gay. it was before i knew i was a boy so needless to say it didn’t work out”

coworker: “damn dude was preordering”

[queerpeers]

other things this coworker (who is a cis guy) has done/said:

—got confused about why I’d never been a boy scout because he forgot i was trans

—told me he was gonna get top surgery scar tattoos to match me after i get mine

—laughs at all my trans jokes, even if they’re supremely unfunny

—calls me big dog (and him little dog) even though he is about as tall as two of me

— “I can’t believe she would say that transphobic thing to you. In June? Pride month?”

[the-ladyguinevere]

Once I said "My gender is whatever's funniest at the time" and my coworker stops dead in his tracks, turns slowly and says "So are your pronouns honk/honk?" killing me instantly

[doggirlpaws]

I was talking to a friend I knew before I transitioned about my new relationship (my first one ever!) and I said "Yeah, I think I only indentified as aro/ace most of my life because I didn't have lesbian as an option" and he looked me dead in the eye and said "Oh? Why not? ...Ohhh"

Then he said "You know, I completely forgot you weren't always this way. Femininity really suits you" and let me tell you I started tearing up

Of course, not ten minutes later I mentioned that I had to relearn how to sing and he said "oh no, what happened?" so he might just be a little slow

[doggirlpaws]

Update on that friend: a bunch of people sent me "he's a little confused, but he's got the spirit" gifs in response to that story. I can tell you now with certainty that she definitely has the spirit, and she's not confused anymore

[this-is-trans-joy]

second reel i’ve come across of a leftist “joking” about how devastated they’d be if they gave birth to a boy istg this mentality is literally the reason i was forcefully detransitioned by my mom and i hate you.

[dungeonmastersconsortium]

"All religions are cults if you think about it"

Actually they're not all cults and you're doing the work of making sure actual cults can slip under the radar when you say stuff like that

Cult leaders LOVE that trend, because they can point to it and say, "people will call anything a cult, it's basically meaningless"

I'm begging you all to stop using the word cult until you really understand what it means

[adhdenbywitch]

Checking on an old friend I had to only see that he is still the same misogynistic, racist, and biphobic creep, he's just gotten slightly better at hiding it and is now fully claiming Slavic heritage despite saying that he was more likely to be Indigenous than my friend because he had no wisdom teeth.

[adhdenbywitch]

You know, a lot of you, both cis and trans, are going down the radfem pipeline. The two most common forms I’ve seen are:

A. You genuinely identify as a radfem, but you’re a TIRF or TRF.

OR

B. You’re technically opposed to radfems, but you still clearly carry radfem schools of thought with you. The only thing stopping you from identifying as one is that radfems are the ones actively causing harm right now. So you’re stuck in the pipeline like a damn spitball, constantly insisting you’re not going down a path you very clearly are.

Either way, this website needs to properly understand radical feminism in its entirety so you can recognize its rhetoric, reject it, and stop trying to reform an ideology that is transphobic, exorsexist, and intersexist, and at its core is also deeply conservative, racist, and rooted in white supremacy.

We will never achieve true gender and queer liberation if you keep playing this shit.

[adhdenbywitch]

Alright, I got you, @blackratbighat

The first one that comes to mind is “protecting women’s spaces.” It sounds reasonable at first, especially when you’re talking about women as a marginalized group and trauma from men. But in practice, it is almost always shaped by transphobia and white supremacist ideas about who counts, and looks like a “real” woman and pushing out trans women, GNC cis women, WOC, and intersex women from shelters, bathrooms, etc.

So in action, it’s just gatekeeping womanhood in a way that mirrors patriarchy. It doesn’t actually make anyone safer, it just redirects harm onto more vulnerable groups. You also see it in policies of homeless and even some domestic violence that exclude mothers with young sons, meaning women can be turned away from shelters or forced to choose between having shelter and keeping their kid with them just to maintain a “women-only” label.

It’s baseless because there’s no evidence that inclusion of trans women or any marginalized woman that doesn't conform to a white cis perisex standard increases harm done to women, and harmful because it reinforces narrow, bioessentialist and racist ideas of womanhood that have always been used against marginalized women.

What should be done instead is focusing on people's behavior, not identity. If safety is the goal, address harassment directly and keep spaces accessible to all women, including trans and intersex women.

[byjove]

“I don’t know how to reconcile that my favorite piece of media was made by someone awful.” Because they’re a shitty person who made something good. It’s not that rare of a phenomenon. Shitty people make good things everyday. A piece of art being made by a terrible person does not make its effect null and void and making good art does not redeem a terrible person. People who are irredeemably nasty can say something true and honest on occasion. To reevaluate a work after finding out more about the artist’s horrendous biases and actions and still find things that are honest and true even when consuming it through a critical lens, that is a beautiful thing. If the artist’s actions and words completely destroy it for you and distort the meaning you once found, it’s okay to feel a sense of mourning and loss at that.

This is not to say that you should continue to lavish social and financial capital on the artist because you enjoy their art but to say that enjoying art made by horrible people does not mean you are in some way unclean.

[blurrymango]

Funny how often posts that say shit like "I hate men! Kill all men! All men are evil! I'm a proud misandrist! I wish misandry was real!" will get reblogged by TERFs, "TMA/TME" users, people with "TERFs DNI" in their bio and of course the odd self hating trans man.

[illdeactivateanyway]

I just stumbled upon an Instagram reel that said something like "I'm probably trans but I'm too much of a misandrist to accept it" with thousands of likes (including a couple of irl friends of mine who know that I'm a trans man...) but sure the queer community doesn't have a problem with men and masculinity and the radfem rhetoric that's been allowed to prosper in queer and feminist spaces these past years is not harmful to trans men at all (/s)

[theforesteldritch]

The idea of labelling bi people in relationships with people of another gender as ‘straight-passing’ is incredibly weird to me. Like do some of you realize that visibly queer bisexual people exist? Even when I’m closeted and presenting as a woman I still at the very least get read as queer. When I was a kid my best friend at the time’s dad told her I was going to be a lesbian when I grew up. I was getting read as queer before I even really knew what that meant. I’ve been visibly queer, even when I’m not trying to be, my whole life.

Even if I stay closeted or wasn’t a trans man but a cis woman and end up in a relationship with a man, I still present and move through and experience the world in a way that gets me read as queer. Yes, a relationship between a cis man and a cis woman is legitimized by society in a way that other relationships aren’t. This does not mean people within such a relationship are inherently read and treated as straight. If you go into any comment section on a post showing a relationship between a woman and a man who presents in any kind of feminine way or who fits any kind of gay stereotype, it will be full of people telling the woman that her partner is gay, it’s a lavender marriage, whatever. Maybe he’s bisexual, maybe he’s even straight, but he is still getting read as a queer person within a relationship with a woman.

People will talk about bisexuals supposedly being desperate to have other queer people affirm our queerness, when we’re not asking to be deemed queer enough. I know my bisexuality alone makes me queer, I don’t need anyone to tell me that. What we’re asking for is for people to stop discounting the fact that our experiences as bisexual people are inherently queer experiences, and that we move through the world as queer people, not as people who can just decide to be straight (or straight passing) by entering the right relationship.

”But some bisexuals haven’t deconstructed heteronormativity” yeah no shit, we live in a heteronormative society. You could say the same about anyone of any sexuality. Heteronormativity coercing people into a specific type of relationship doesn’t mean that it’s stored in the sexuality. You cannot tell me that a masculine or butch bi woman, or a feminine bi man, is conforming to heteronormative standards, regardless of who they date, because their gender presentation is inherently not accepted within these standards. Regardless, it is not helpful or productive to generalize criticism like this to an entire sexuality. You’re just being biphobic.

[yourfaveisintersex]

YOU are an intersex ally!