#selfship reminders

[sharpenedhatchets]

By the way if you feel guilty about your selfships at all, your f/os told me that they are happy with you and love you!

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[poltercat]

i think the reason why selfshipping can be so difficult for others is the mere fact that they think they don't deserve it. or don't deserve their f/o to love them unconditionally, or be there for them, or offer support and guidance, or be their crutch.

selfshipping is hard for those who are always the giver and never the receiver. you feel uncomfortable about selfshipping or thinking about scenarios with your f/o. or how you have no idea what to add to your selfship, what lore to even do, because you don't think you should do something like this for yourself.

but you do deserve this. you deserve to feel loved and cared for by your f/os, you deserve to create the most silliest of scenarios, you deserve to be so canon-divergent and self indulgent with your selfships. you deserve to love yourself, you deserve to receive love and care, you deserve to receive these things even if it may feel uncomfortable to.

you deserve to do things for yourself. it may take time for you to be fully yourself while doing so, but you got this! i believe in you. i believe we can overcome this together. <3

[jatay-selfship]

Selfshipping with a rapist is disgusting

Get the fuck off my blog if you selfship with rapists

That includes Valentino from hazbin hotel and jimmy from mouthwashing! You are disgusting!

You aren't welcome here

- doubles/proship/darkship dni

[moth-kissed]

Btw your f/o(s) understand if you don't want to be touched sometimes. Even if it's most of the time! Even if it's all the time!! They might not start out knowing but they will take no as an answer, and if they are upset it's because you aren't feeling good, not at you. Never at you. And if the best way to make sure you feel better is to not touch, they are happy to do just that, as long as you need <3

[selfship-support]

⋆. 𐙚 ˚ ₙₒₙₛₕₐᵣᵢₙ𝓰 ᵧᵤₘₑ ₐ𝒻𝒻ᵢᵣₘₐₜᵢₒₙₛ ࣪ 𓏵 ׅ　

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𑣲 ʸᵒᵘ ᵃʳᵉ ʸᵒᵘʳ ᶠ/ᴼ⁽ˢ⁾ ᵒⁿᵉ ᵗʳᵘᵉ ˡᵒᵛᵉ, ᵗʰᵉᶦʳ ˢᵒᵘˡᵐᵃᵗᵉ. ˚. ᵎᵎ

⊹ ࣪ ˖ ʸᵒᵘʳ ᶠ/ᴼ⁽ˢ⁾ ˡᵒᵛᵉ ᵃⁿᵈ ᵃᵈᵒʳᵉ ʸᵒᵘ ᵃⁿᵈ ʸᵒᵘ ᵒⁿˡʸ. 𝜗ৎ

⋮ ⌗ ┆ʸᵒᵘʳ ᶠ/ᴼ⁽ˢ⁾ ˡᵒᵛᵉ ʸᵒᵘ ⁿᵒ ᵐᵃᵗᵗᵉʳ ʸᵒᵘʳ ᵍᵉⁿᵈᵉʳ, ʳᵃᶜᵉ, ʷᵉᶦᵍʰᵗ, ʰᵉᶦᵍʰᵗ.❤︎

𝄞 ʸᵒᵘʳ ᶠ/ᴼ⁽ˢ⁾ ˢᵉᵉ ᵗʰᵉ ᵉᶠᶠᵒʳᵗ ʸᵒᵘ'ʳᵉ ᵖᵘᵗᵗᶦⁿᵍ ᶦⁿ, ᵃⁿᵈ ᵗʰᵉʸ'ʳᵉ ᵖʳᵒᵘᵈ ᵒᶠ ʸᵒᵘ˖᯽ ݁˖

ᵥᵧ ₒᵤₜ .ᐟ

[himepups]

reminder to every pendantic selfshipper (such as moi!) out there:

you do not need to know every minutiae of what went into your f/o's development to be "valid"

you do not need to be able to write cohesive analysis of your f/o to be "valid"

you don't have to put your thoughts about your f/o perfectly into words to be "valid"

it's ok to not know things or to learn new things about your f/o, it's not a failing

[hellfireheresy]

A reminder to my fellow self-shippers: you are allowed to curate your space however you want.

Your self-ship experience is yours - your joy, your comfort, your safe place. If something or someone disrupts that, you are completely within your right to block, unfollow or disengage for any reason at all. You don’t need permission. No explanation needed. No guilt required. Just block.

Is someone being rude about your F/O? Block.

Is someone bringing negativity to something that makes you happy? Block.

Is someone vague-posting or making you feel unwelcome? Block.

Does someone’s energy just feel off to you? Block.

Is someone making you feel bad for loving something harmless? BLOCK.

You are not obligated to make yourself palatable to others. You don’t have to defend your happiness. You are allowed to go absolutely feral over your F/O, to make art, write fics, post headcanons, scream into the void and celebrate your love however you want. Your blog is yours, not an open forum for others to police. You are allowed to be “cringe.”

At the end of the day, the most important thing is the love between you and your F/O. You are allowed to express that love however makes you happiest. You deserve a space that feels safe, comfortable and entirely your own. Never feel guilty for protecting your peace.

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[jesterdove]

hey btw i just got a text from your f/o , they wanted me to remind you to go take your meds. yes you. have you taken your meds today ? no ? ok go take them and remember to drink lots of water !!!! your f/o wants you to stay healthy and hydrated ♡

shadow milk doubles , proship/darkship/adjacent dni ! ! your f/o loves you so much ٩(ˊᗜˋ*)و ♡