#sibling advice

[shinynewboots]

General Life Advice: Notes from your Online Big Sis

Keep a roll of paper towels in your car. Literally, you never know when a sneeze, nose bleed, spill, or other questionable fluids will arise so just best to be prepared

Take fiber. And maybe own some miralax. Seriously, changed my life. If you don't like the powder, they make fiber in pill form. Literally fiber is the best and no one likes being constipated. Like a doctor I worked with said, "don't live your life by your ass".

See the sun at least once a day if you can. It's got some healing properties or some shit idk it just personally makes me feel more human

In that same vein, please wear sunscreen. No matter your skin color, the sun comes for us all. Wear it on your face, your arms, your ears (if you have short hair or have your hair pulled back often). Lots of skin cancers can present on places like the nose or ears because of exposure + lack of protection

If you're in college or do a decent amount of extracurricular but don't have a resume or cv built yet, just go ahead and make an excel or word doc of things you've done that you can reference back to when it's actually time for you to apply for something or create a resume or cv. It's so nice to already have it compiled somewhere than trying to remember what you were involved in or volunteering for 3 years ago

Drink water (and find a way that is effective). I personally love to drink carbonated water with some lime juice and straw. The straw is the key for me lol. If you like mio or flavor packets, please just use it. Especially if it guarantees you will drink some kind of water. Don't let anyone convince you that you have made juice or that you're not getting the benefits of water. You'd be surprised how many people are just walking around at a baseline dehydration

Floss!! Please!! (This is more for me than for you guys but we all need reminding lol). I despise flossing. So. So. Much. Ya just gotta do it. It sucks. Okay don't give me that face. (Lowkey feel like I'm cheating bc I got a water flosser but oh well, gotta get it done somehow).

Have a book in mind in case someone asks you what book you're reading. Like out in the wild. It def can be a book you're actually reading, but if you're like me and most of your literary consumption comes in the form of AO3 and an elderly man asks you what you're reading or what your fav book is, it's always best to have one in your back pocket.

Backup up pictures that are special to you. And like I don't mean to your cloud or drive or Dropbox. Like seriously, physically backup them up. Buy a flash drive. Print them out. Do something so that if tomorrow you lose access to them digitally, you still have them!

Do one thing today that tomorrow you will thank you for. Begrudgingly stop and fill up your gas tank even though you don't want to. Set the coffee pot so that all you have to do is push "on" in the morning. Be kind to your future self, you don't know what they've been through.

Specifically for my contact wearers...for the love of the tumblr gods please pack at least a pair of them in whatever bag/purse/backpack/vehicle/etc you use. I promise you do not want to be driving down the interstate with only one contact in because the other somehow ripped while IN YOUR EYE and you're going really slow and other cars are passing you and you're just really stressed (not like I speak from personal experience or anything).

If you're prescribed meds, do something to help you actually remember to take them. Whether that be a pill organizer, something you do as a daily routine (I keep them beside my wedding band so I know if I'm not wearing it, there's a high chance I didn't take my meds), or some other fun thing. Lots of them need to be taken at the same time everyday to be effective (I'm looking at you, birth control).

There's definitely so many other things I'm missing so I'll definitely add more as I think of it! These are just a few things I had to figure out as a first time adult without an older sibling lol Please feel free to add your own as well!!

[that-one-cool-writer]

A General Guide to Writing Siblings

I've asked this so many times and writing a sibling relationship is hard, because siblings are weird.

My sister and I get along for about five days, and then we're at each other's throats for a good two weeks. Her breathing annoys me.

If you and your sibling are the same gender, they'll most likely try to copy you. They want to be exactly like you. And that's awful.

Most siblings don't kiss each other period, unless one is a toddler and the other a teenager. I love my infant sister and kiss her, but my 10 year old sister I want to throw out the window. And that's okay. That's how siblings are.

They make fun of each other. "Mom, I'm bored/hungry etc." The other sibling might say "Hi (insert adjective here), I'm (name)." And they'll fight over that.

If they're old enough, they fight over the front seat. They can also steal each other's clothes, depending on how far apart they are.

Siblings fight over anything, call each other names, and are hard to write in general, because each relationship is different.

But mainly...

Siblings fight over anything

They call each other names

They'll steal each other's food/clothes

They aren't normally lovey-dovey with each other (unless it's infant/teenager)

They will try to be exactly like you

And probably a few things I forgot to add

[nightwingvixen23]

Dick : I need some advice

Cassandra : Sure, what’s up ?

Dick : How do I politely ask someone to slam me against the wall and make out with me ?

Cassandra : Well....if this has any thing to do with Jay, which I know it does, then I wouldn’t wait to be slammed against a wall, NOPE,  I’d climb that fucker like a tree

Dick : *wide eyes*..so wise

[strawbunnysposts]

Seeking advice from younger siblings!

Eldest sibling here, and I'd like to hear some advice or opinions.

My two youngest siblings are entering their teenage years (my babies 😭), and I found that, like most teenagers, they have some pretty strong emotions.

Growing up, I- myself- have always felt like I was ignored or my emotions were downplayed when I was upset, and I don't want that for my siblings, but I'm very awkward when it comes to comforting people.

Example from today: my little brother was upset because my family and I ate all the pizza without him. He had gone to a fancy restaurant and between 4 people, we had eaten 2 boxes of pizza. We had assumed he would be full and not want any, but he really likes pizza and was upset.

I tried to comfort him, told him I was sorry and we weren't trying to make him upset on purpose and it wasn't a slight against him. That next time I would remember to save him a slice. He just seemed so dejected and I tried to wipe his cheek and ruffle his hair, because that's what I used to do when he was younger, but he's not that age now and I'm worried I might have treated him a bit childishly 💀

For future reference, what might I say to help comfort my younger siblings so they at least know I care? How did your older siblings cheer you up that really made you feel understood and comforted?

I just don't want them to feel so alone growing up, but I fear I just don't know the right things to say or do.

[teethhater]

Please can I ask any younger siblings who's olders have grown out and left, how they managed independence.

So my sister is leaving and i'm going to a new school swell next year. Now that I don't have her i'm starting to realise how incompetent I am, like I genuinely don't know how to act or make friends or do stuff because I've always had her and I'm finally getting independence for the first time.

It's not just going to a school without her also, its home and family life aswell. waking up on Christmas and sitting with your parents in silence as you open presents, her room being empty, not having to hide all my food anymore.

I genuinely don't know how to deal with this and nobody understands because its like my whole life Ive had someone to guide me and now i'm alone and its like i'm doing everything for the first time again and i'm so fucking scared and I keep breaking down. If anyone has any advise it would be greatly appreciated.

[loveadvice]

I need an advice, my older brother lose interest at anything at all. He just look tired everytime and don't like socializing. He's also slow in thinking and moody. But he's overeating and has a lot of appetite for food. He got very failed grades from senior high school because of this. His teachers and even classmates noticed some changes in his behaviours. I want to help and reach out but I don't know what to do. I don't wanna mess up on his studies.

I'm no doctor or therapist, but your brother sounds depressed.

If your parents are around or guardians and you think they are pretty decent, then I think you should bring your concern with your brother up with them and let them handle the situation because that is really something they should be taking care of.

Now if you don’t have folks around who you can rely on, then things are a bit harder.

I think either way you should talk to your brother and let him know that you are concerned for him and that you are there for him. I think trying to pry a little bit (but not too much) would be good just to see what might be wrong. Getting insight will help you understand the situation more. You may even find that perhaps he is happier this way than what he was before. You may find that what he is sad about is temporary too.

It would be good to let him know to maybe seek a therapist if he can. If you wanted to find some resources, some states offer free mental health counseling. For example Georgia: https://dbhdd.georgia.gov/be-dbhdd/be-supported/mental-health-children-young-adults-and-families You will need to do some research. Some of the programs you will see online are a scam or are paid, but you might be able to find one ran by a local college or state program. Additionally, most high schools have counselors and their job is actually to be a therapist to the kids. I really didn’t know that growing up and I know they might not be the best, but they’re pretty much the easiest to access resource that your brother would have.

I think outside of that, you can try to recommend some hobbies to him. It is a subtler approach, but getting him into a hobby or sport would help get him to be more active in a community and talk to other folks. For example, maybe he is really into table top board games, you could find an event going on or meet-up and show it to him in case if he is interested. Or maybe he used to play soccer and you find some free pick up game’s or leagues going on around you.

One of the things to keep in mind when we want to help people is that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. Ultimately, it is up to your brother if he wants to improve his situation. You can recommend therapy, books, sports, etc. but at the end of the day, if he doesn't have the drive to do it, then things wont change. Basically I'm saying not to lose yourself to the pursuit of making your brother happy. Him being sad also doesn't mean it will be like that forever, but it means that you may have to accept that he will just be like this for a while. Hopefully things don't come to that and I think most people don't want to spend their life sad so definitely talk to your brother and check whats up. Maybe things can turn around.

Last thing I'll say is, as someone with an older brother, one of the hardest things in our life is seeing our sibling going through it. Especially when we don't know why. They are the person we've known all our life, but sometimes that can make them the hardest person to reach. I think being there for your brother is important, so talking to him and being a friend even if he doesn't want to go to therapy or change anything in his life can still mean a lot for someone.

Posted June 19, 2025

[saulgoodwoman6]

My favorite advice from my brother with art is that he told me to just "go with the flow." at first I was mad since I didn't like that advice but little did I know that advice actually helped me a lot lmao.

[bellevue-air-mattress]

good morning, today is a great day to commit a heinous act against your annoying sibling if you have one... please do so wisely :)