how to survive university when dealing with a mental illness
i thought iād make a post full of tips iāve learned on how to manage university while dealing with a serious mental health condition.Ā
for context, iām now in my final year of university and i suffer from bpd (diagnosed in january 2016) and while iām set to graduate with a first, having a severe mental disorder has made my life hell as times, so i thought iād share what iāve learned over the past 3 years in the hopes that it might make life for some of you a little bit easier.
first of all, and most importantly: register with your university disability services (i can only speak from a uk perspective there, but every uni should have one)
if in the uk, apply for dsa. however, be aware that you need a diagnosis in order to apply for dsa, and that you must be of british citizenship
get regular appointments with a mental health advisor (or equivalent, such as a mentor if youāre in the uk and get dsa)
if you can, go to study skills sessions: i would recommend that if your mental health means youāre struggling to reach deadlines or do your reading/assignments (some people with mental health conditions donāt need advice on how to organise their work which is fine)
if you can have medical priority to live in halls of residence, do it: youāll have help more readily available than if you live off campus, as most halls have security available 24/7, have residential support on call during the night if youāre having an episode, etc.
donāt be afraid to let your lecturers know (or if you donāt want to tell them yourself, get your uniās disability services to email them) - in my experience they have been more than understanding and have offered to help in any way they can, and if they are aware of your condition then it will make it less stressful for you to email them when you miss lectures and seminars
if you donāt already have a diagnosis but suspect somethingās up: go to your gp and get a referral to a psychiatrist. it might take a while (very unfortunately in the uk it does) but it will be worth it in the end. the psychiatrist will then probably refer you to a psychologist, probably to start CBT, and put you on medication. donāt be scared of being on medication, in most cases they helpĀ
in terms of keeping yourself safe: my university is personally bullshit on this level but they used to offer students to keep their medication so they wouldnāt be able to overdose and the like - check with your medical centre if they would be able to do the same. if itās not an option thatās available, find a friend (who doesnāt have mental health issues obviously) to keep your medication. this is obviously not an ideal situation and i know from experience that doing that may get you in trouble, but if you feel youāre in crisis then itās better to get rid of any temptation.
if you live in halls and feel a situation is escalating, please call security, campus watch, or whatever the hell itās called at your university. theyāre usually supposed to conduct a risk assessment and if youāre too at risk they will call you an ambulance or make sure you get to your nearest hospital.
if you cut yourself and you accidentally cut too deep and require medical attention and itās during the day, go to your medical centre on campus: they are able to give you butterfly strips, or if not they will get you a cab to A&E (at least thatās what my university does).
if you have to repeat a year: thatās fine and absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. one of my best friends, who also suffers from bpd, had to do that and has now successfully almost completed her second year. however, if you do have to repeat a year, make sure to check with student finances how it will work and if theyāre willing to support you financially for an extra year.
if you have to drop out or take time off: i know how fucking difficult that decision is, and i know how frustrating it is to have to do that, but sometimes itās for the best. my girlfriend dropped out early in her first year because she wasnāt getting the help she desperately needed at university, and thatās fine - put your safety first. what people expect of you, or what you expect of yourself, comes second.