#soc-blind

[omgvalhalla]

Soc-blind

[butterflyyoucomefromme]

soc-blind love hits different <3

[subconsciousmysteries]

sp/sx is the glorified type 8 of dumbogram. What I mean by this is that enneagram cult leaders see this stacking as The Cool Stacking For Edgelords and they gatekeep it like hell. In reality no actual sp/sx would gatekeep sp/sx because the nature of this type is that we do not care what you identify as, we are too self absorbed.

Once again I stress that if you are concerned with your social image of being an Edgelord, like if it's so important to you that you type yourself and others based on it then you probably aren't soc-blind. The exception here is soc-blind 4s and 4-fixes, since 4s are an image type invested in their image of being an edgy outcast no matter what their stacking is. If you aren't a 4 or a 4 fix and you care about your image of edginess, that is soc.

I only gatekeep sp/sx from idiots who preach that being sp/sx means being edgy and being a busybody who tells other people their unwanted opinions about how they're supposedly mistyped. This is literally the opposite of what an sp/sx does or cares about doing. The whole art of going around saying this and that person is mistyped, and dishing out battletypings, is a social power game. Soc-blinds might briefly engage in that stuff then drop out of it and avoid it, because social power games are exhausting and confusing to us. Nobody who does this shit chronically or regularly is a soc-blind.

Regarding being edgy, soc-blinds are often provocateurs but we end up being so unintentionally. Soc-blinds often express our opinions which are detached from the social consensus and get backlash. This is different to being an intentional provocateur... The kind of person who knows they are going to get backlash and speaks anyway because they enjoy the conflict and the arguing. The intentional provocateur stacking is sp-blind.

No sp-dom enjoys conflict unless it has a direct money or resource prize on it.

[dehya-selei]

Making sense of being both an Fe-user with so-blind variant

I grew up without a social awareness. Meaning, while everyone did this thing called, “peer pressure”, “fitting in” or “being yourself” at that age those terms were thrown around. I had no concept of them, because I didn’t understand why people seem to need each other so much. I observed, but I didn’t understand. I don’t know maybe I was too busy occupied by the abuse my father endured growing up. Maybe there was too much conflict, I had no time to think about “making friends.” Maybe I was too busy thinking of an escape from reality. Somehow I wondered why no one taught me these things, the “value of friendship”. One time a guy named Welsey – idk, he looked like a Welsey (I could picture his face, Caucasian, not fat or skinny with a stubby nose, with thick brown broccoli hair maybe Ross’ cousin or something) – had the nerve to sit next to me with a stern face of concern, at the time I cringed at the intrusion – had the audacity to lecture me on the fact that “people need people” – I guess he felt something anti-social energy from me during my community college years (didn’t care for being friendly), that there was more to life than just simply making money and making a living. It wasn’t until after graduating college the loneliness finally hit me and it hit hard. I suddenly realized I was alone, like the despair of being really alone when you didn’t realize it before. It struck me like lightning. I used to pride myself in that I wasn’t needy. Needing others, needing to fit into a community seemed like a weakness. That I was okay alone. Then I joined a community and have been changing – but I think the change is due to being human – in spite of our instinctual variant – humans need humans. But that’s a different story.

I try to make sense of these contradicting traits with fe making me highly astute to people – people’s behaviors, people’s responses to other people’s behaviors – who is comfortable with her, who avoids him, and the memory logs and fabrications of how people are currently, how people might react to certain actions, how people normally are, the archive’s of who does their eye wanderings, where they usually look and the fluctuations in their tone of voice – what do they mean – are they irritated – are they tired – tired at what – why? What motivates them? What traumatizes her from the past? What is he insecure about? Overloads me. Sometimes I wish I could shut it off, but I do it in my sleep with no conscious effort, it’s automatic. Yet, I am so-blind because it explains so much. I used to think I was sp/so. Sp there’s no doubt about it – I can be so sp to the point where it’s not even funny. Sx explains the wild animal inside me i’ve kept chained up for so long it’s maddening, but freeing to know it’s there and that i’m not crazy. I realize now, sx pulls me, revitalizes me, makes me realize there is something worth being alive for. It makes me want to devour and crave my loved ones, but at the same time be a prisoner. Yes, it’s animalistic and it scares the hell out of sx-blinds, which is why it’s reined in for the most part. Lightening in a bottle.

It’s strange because at times, yes I do want to fit in. I want to belong. I am in a community. Yet at the same time, I am constantly fighting this tug or war within me. I know what I need to do to fit in because of my fe function and all the negative reinforcement and anxiety it’s produced — due to the fact that I naturally read between the lines when picking up behavior cues, but ultimately, always chose to fight and resist it. When I observe community, it’s pretty evident the influence of the social variant. I feel it, when the so world calls upon me to do something for them. This thing called “reputation building” which is still new and odd to me. But the realization of it’s existence meaning the fact that people deliberately do things to maintain their reputations was so off-putting at first, but I can only try to understand little by little. I’ll be honest it makes my skin cringe the thought of molding myself to craft some sort of image in order to exist in the minds of others, which is the only way I can so far perceive the notion – it doesn’t make sense to me – it’s a blindspot. It’s a leash. I loathe a leash made of rubble, but I love the one made of silk or diamonds and black leather. Same way so-blinds would probably find my desire to “devour” my loved one as deranged. A part of me wants to tear down those limitations and walk away. But I don’t. And honestly sometimes I don’t know why. Oh wait, it’s sx. I’m searching for a prey, or to be the prey.

Anyways, I think back to Wesley and that guy whom I wrote off initially as some overly pious mutant version of Barney, had some pretty good foresight. I mean who goes up to someone they barely know and says things like “you k’now everyone needs someone”. Nobody does that, because everyone has their own shit to worry about these days. Barney’s don’t exist. It was a dam privilege to be told that. Maybe he just cared and did it not for any tangible benefits or maybe it was a cheesy pickup line attempt, who knows. Was like my Chris Crocker truth telling where it made no sense to me at the time, but he was right.

[asinskare]

Is forcing sx on people like,,, trapping someone in a game of truth or dare and making them reveal their crushes to you? Also, can sx/sp and sp/sx have sp bonds too?

a) kind of like that yeah but without the game aspect. from what i understand sx sort of naturally share secrets and valuable info in an sx relation, while sx-blinds don’t really do that. they are either an open book about everything (having no secrets) or keeping their secrets walled off from even closest of friends. it feels intrusive then to have someone try to dig for more of you. like someone is trying to extract everything from you. but uhhh i can’t say i have much experience with this so i think you have to ask someone who has had this happen to them. altho it’s not very hard to imagine. 

but not necessarily actually trapping someone in a game of truth and dare bc that tends to be soc in my experience lmao

b) yes of course. anyone with sp can and likely will have sp-bonds however soc-blind sp-bonds are different bc of the way it’s established. 

sx-blinds will likely take a far more tentative approach to sp-bonds and they will feel far more chill meanwhile soc-blind sp-bonds likely have that initial spark of sx so they feel more dynamic while in the process of establishing. 

for any sp variants though sp-bonds are likely what they think of as love (not necessarily romantic but just loving someone) 

correct me if i’m wrong tho

[dehya-selei]

As a so-blind, I am often turned off by affectionate group emails and interactions that feel transactional. ie: expectations that start to feel obligatory. I don’t have a problem with so rituals, if they leave me out of it. An example would be the good old, “I haven’t heard from you in a while.”

[flyslife]

You know. I was never quite sure what a soc-blind Fi-user looked like.

But I really think my current boss is one.

It stresses me tf out. She has no awareness of other people. She's rude without intending to be. There's more, but it's harder to describe.

Like, people will ask her questions, and she says something rude, weird, or ignores them. Even to customers. But you can tell she has no realization at all about how she comes off.

[stellarnovae-archive]

idk man... when it comes to iv stack it’s the easiest for me to spot sp-variants (!) and soc-blinds. probably because I’m an sp-blind soc-dom lol. Like there are just some things that people say and do that are so sp? It’s so obvious smh. For soc-blinds it’s a bit more difficult to spot them just from talk and random expressions because sx-blinds will say some weird anti-social crap that may point u in the wrong direction if u aren’t used to sx-blinds often being odd pseudo anti-social people. What I find distinctive about soc-blinds however is when you get “”close”” to them you’ll just feel that they have their, sort-of reclusive and comparably more self-focused orbit that they inhabit. Like as a soc-dom I Know people and I know people’s social circles, I know social spheres, how it all works together, where the chemistry flows, what circles and groups are less sx-y and more forced and those that are really drawn together and invigorating. So I see all these circles.... and people move within these, right? Especially sx-blinds move just practically seamlessly within their circles, not really “sticking” anywhere. (Sp-blinds on the other hand may wander but they will crash and burn but that’s not relevant rn) And then there are soc-blinds Lol. And they look into these social circles, they may be considered “part” of some, but they always have this fundamentally separate feeling to themselves... Like their “blindness” to social circles makes them generally focused elsewhere, which gives them this sort-of alienated feel (from my soc view) - But not in a bad way, more like they have created their own world, their own circle, which substitutes soc-relations with a much more tighter, more sticky sp and sx net. So - while they feel inherently separate to soc circles - they have their own “nets” that feel way more specific and belonging to them if that makes sense. And sx-blinds do not at all have that feel, that “elsewhere-focus”.