#sx-blind

[omgvalhalla]

Soc-blind

[counterphobes]

Projecting desire and sx

Why yearning for intensity actually proves you're sx-blind

We're all familiar with the usual descriptions of the sx-dom or rather SX Subtype. It describes an individual preoccupied with finding highs within people, seeking out the intimate and intense to then finally merge with their partner of choosing. Its wishing for psychological nudity and to be indistinguishable from the person you desire.

What if I told you that this is all wrong? Or rather, terribly worded.

Its not all wrong, some of this does characterize sx to an extent, but only a very specific kind. The sx-overfocus. This is due to the fact that most authors attempting to relate to sx-doms failed miserably and were only able to comprehend them through their own sx-blind lense, even mistyping themselves as sx in the process.

The sx-overfocus happens to sx-blinds when their wish to connect through soc is unsuccessful. They feel abandoned, ignored, just not seen. So when they're disgruntled with the people around them and deem them all superficial, yearning for someone or somebody real that actually cares, and to then merge with them. Its an overwhelming desire to live beneath somebody's skin, breathe their air and be one with them.

Its a reaction to their own overstepping of their sp, their boundaries, their privacy, their own protected energy and relationship to themselves. The more they open up the more vulnerable and exposed they feel. The sensation feels addicting, scary, new, overwhelming, and ultimately leads to obsession.

They mistake vulnerability as intensity. And thats the misconception surrounding sx.

In later stages, there's a level of discomfort surrounding the interaction, their own anger at their boundaries being overstepped turns into desire to own another and regain their sense of self. Regain the boundary that was ultimately lost within the other and thats why they believe they can only be whole through merging. Its ultimately an attempt to regain control of their autonomy. You're projecting all of your desire, wishes and needs on somebody.

Through media and culture, our idea of love has become the overstepping of one's personhood and "perfect unity", to compromise yourself, this has become a cultural ideal. Something individuals feel they need to seek out, because vulnerability is only reserved for romantic intimate partners. If you're a romantic, its a high chance you're sx-blind. Essentially its a romantized version of something inherently toxic, but accepted by society which they've picked up through soc. That's why, the popular idea and overall understanding of sx is tainted by this and leads to mistyping.

So ..what exactly is sx?

I'll write that post eventually

[istj-hedonist]

I know you said sx-blinds treat people the same, is that always the case?? I always tend to show it when someone matters a lot to me and it comes through in my behaviour towards them vs other people. I’m nice to everyone but I definitely work way harder to strengthen bonds with people I’m particularly interested in

for the record it’s not that sx-blinds treat all their friends the same. they clearly also have different categories like “this is a true friend i can share secrets with” vs “this is a more superficial friend who is maybe nice for meeting for a coffee and chatting a bit but no deep philosophical talks and that’s fine”

it’s just that sx-blinds don’t show the clear cut “one chosen person above all” favoritism that sx has. and for sx it’s offensive if you don’t treat them in a “for you i would drop everyone else in a heartbeat” way.

[myintpbf]

INTP (sp/so): Oh hey, one of my co-workers added me on FB! I decided I wasn't going to seek any out, but if they added me, I would accept their request.

INFJ (sp/sx): Why..??

INTP: I don't know :0 Just to see.

INFJ: When I get a job, I'm going to hide my profile so none of them can find me.

INTP: Wha?? But what if you really like one of them?

INFJ: I'll be there to make money, not friends *_*

[quinintheclouds]

Someone explain sx- and so-blinds to me please. How the heckity do their brains work? I want to learn how to get along with them better and know how to interact but they’re so CONFUSING. 

[alteri-t]

ANON: how do you know you're so-blind instead of sx-blind?

First:

there is a misconception that sx-blinds are bland and lack intensity. all variants have intensity; all variants can get excited. how they get excited, what they get excited about, etc., is engaged with different forms of energy. these are instincts, after all. they drive us to survive.

sx-blinds can have close friendships and intimate relationships.

not all sx-blinds are blind to body chemistry, but some are negligent. 

so-blinds get social anxiety. so-blinds like to be included.

so-blind

the tailbone of the body—attached, but vestigial

a connected but non-contributing cog in a machine

disposition towards a lack of social etiquette (ex., burping in public, feet on the table, walking on lawn)

a cat that comes and goes

doesn’t participate in social games (sx/sp might, but not for long)

detached from others’ opinions; values intimates’ opinions

don’t keep up with cultural trends

need medical attention? drags themselves to the hospital

freedom

sx-blind

when in rome, do as the romans do

the bones and muscles, working together, belonging together

all pieces of the machine have a place

ant colony

odd fascination with sx-fixes

easily influenced by peers, family, community, strangers—basically, almost anyone

bonds with others (honest or superficial) to create networks

if this person i marginally know doesn’t like me, W H Y?

don’t divulge Deep Things to strangers, least likely to start random conversations with “deviants” (ex. homeless people)

most of the points are really so-blind vs. not so-blind. it’s better to think “am i so-blind, or am i not so-blind?” rather than, “am i so-blind or sx-blind?” that, and it’s easier to distinguish sx-blindness from sp-blindness.

your blind spot should be apparent, because you pay the least attention to it. your fixes should be apparent, because they are natural and charted territory.

the main difference between so-blind and not so-blind is choosing an island populated by yourself and inviting people (because your instinct is self-sustainability; groups inhibit freedom; you are able to resist communing with a group), versus an island full of yourself and people (because your instinct says being part of the group, fitting in, will help you survive; you may want to resist communing with a group, but ultimately you will participate because it is a compulsion, and you must belong).

[asinskare]

hey, if ur sure ur not sx-blind bc u don’t like hanging out with groups of ppl: sx-blinds actually prefer hanging out with a person or maybe 2 persons at a time not more bc it spreads u thin to do more meanwhile if ur with one person u can give them ur full attention and u don’t have to expand mental effort to work on group dynamics bc no group

sx-blinds probably prefer one on one interaction bc u don’t have to do mental work when u do it and u can just enjoy it

i don’t think there are many ppl who would prefer large groups over one person, even (maybe especially lol) within sx-blinds

[upwardeath]

sx-blind view of sx-dom