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This is easily the most interesting take I've ever seen discussing why the older generations seem to struggle so much with the discussions and changes with gender identity, and I think it's absolutely worth reading.
Obviously it doesn't cover 100% of intolerant people, but I think it explains a decent chunk tbh.
I know this makes me sound like a cranky old millennial but, in this day and age of connections and communications, with our smartphones and computers and social media, it's really not healthy to expect constant and instant social interactions from anyone and everyone.
Sometimes people in your life just, don't want to talk, or can't, and more often than not it's nothing personal. Doesn't mean they don't like you anymore and doesn't mean they just want to ignore you.
Strangers on the internet also don't owe each other interactions. Somebody who doesn't even know you isn't obligated to respond to you. It's no different from strangers out on the streets in real life not having to interact with you. Again, a lot of times, people simply aren't up for conversations, nothing personal. People don't have to talk to people when they don't want to. People can just, exist.
No one should always be available, to always be reachable, online or offline.
Why the “why” is important…
The Autistic Teacher
Big heads.
Finding a Sense of Direction as a Schizoid....
Many of us with schizoid personality disorder (SzPD) struggle with the idea of life expectations. What are we supposed to do with our time? What should we aim for? Should we even be trying to meet societal expectations, or is that just an unnecessary pressure? These questions can feel distant for years... until one day, we look back and realize that time has passed, and we’re still not sure what we’re doing with our lives.
The Implication of Isolation
For some of us, isolation started early. Maybe we withdrew as teenagers, maybe even earlier. Over time, staying inside, keeping to ourselves, and avoiding engagement became second nature. For many, this wasn’t necessarily a problem... it was just how life was. But eventually, a sense of detachment can turn into a realization that we’ve lost years without any clear progress or purpose.
The problem isn’t necessarily that we want what others have, but rather that we don’t know what we’re supposed to expect from ourselves. The conventional life script doesn’t fit, and without an alternative framework, it’s easy to feel stuck in a state of passive existence.
Navigating Difficult Feelings and External Expectations
If we don’t follow a traditional life path (work, relationships, social integration) people may start asking questions. “What do you do for a living?” is one of the most common, and it can trigger a deep sense of discomfort. Even if we’re fine with how we live, we know that on some level we’re not meeting the expectations of others.
Some of us feel some degree of guilt or discomfort over not working, not being productive, or relying on disability benefits. But these feelings are often rooted in external judgments rather than our actual needs or abilities. Schizoids aren’t necessarily incapable of working, but many of us struggle with the rigid structures of employment, social demands, and maintaining a consistent routine. If traditional work doesn’t fit, that doesn’t mean we have no value... it just means we may need different ways to function.
Defining What Matters
The real challenge for us isn’t figuring out how to fit into the world, but rather deciding what we want from life. Without an internal sense of direction, it’s easy to drift indefinitely. While some of us are content with minimal engagement, others may feel a nagging dissatisfaction, as if life is slipping away without meaning.
The key is to define expectations that align with how we function. This might mean:
Pursuing intellectual or creative interests that don’t require external validation.
Finding work structures that allow autonomy and flexibility.
Accepting that a low-energy, nontraditional lifestyle isn’t necessarily a failure.
Recognizing that it’s okay to function differently from the majority.
Final Thoughts…
Many of us will go through phases of questioning what our lives should be. Some may find a sense of direction over time, while others may remain in a state of detached existence. Either way, the most important thing is to recognize that we don’t have to define our worth by external standards. If we’re going to set expectations for ourselves, they should be our own... not ones imposed by society.
Schizoid Education Videos: Schizoid Education Videos
Good girl 101
Nobody tells little girls to become good women. They're simply taught how not to become difficult ones.
Don't be loud
Don't disappoint 'em
Be kind
Put yourself in their shoes
Be quiet
Be... Don't be.
To sacrifice, anything. Her voice, her needs, her place, even the bigger piece of chicken.
Nobody remembers the lessons. They only remember the result.
A good girl.
I wonder if she remembers herself.
Transmascs: have you felt social pressure to be negative toward AMAB trans people?*
Yes, definitely
Yes, I think so
No, I don’t think so, but I’m also bad at perceiving social pressure
No, I have not
Unsure / other answer
See results / not transmasc
*Examples: people complaining about “AMABs” around you and expecting you to go along with it or expectations that you’ll agree with / support transmisogynistic arguments that transfems and AMAB trans people are “invading” certain identities.
