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[authorityissues]

Thank you for your candidness about your experience with drug use over the years.

I’m wondering if you have any words on self-forgiveness for poor choices, whether influenced by drugs or not. Thanks again. Hope you’re having a good day.

lol im glad my near-compulsive candor on the internet feels...refreshing, or something.

i think when it comes to processing actions ive taken in the past, or that others have taken...or just when faced with the fact that we all struggle to cope in our day to day life im big on remembering that we've all done and are all doing the best we can with the tools that we have. i guess therein the question lies: is that enough for you?

being able to apologize sincerely for your actions and accept that your apology doesn't guarantee you forgiveness, or even accept that someone may not want an apology from you and that it's none of your business to try and foist that on them if your regrets are interpersonal is really helpful in being able to forgive yourself ime.

and yeah, forgiveness for others. it's a good litmus test for me...if im holding onto slights i perceive other people to be doing unto me i also stop being able to forgive myself - they go hand in hand for me *shrug emoji*

but it really is true ive always done the best i knew how with the tools i had. sometimes those have been some really dogshit tools but for the most part i feel a lot of compassion for myself for that. i can look back on some of the things i have regretted most in my life and see a confused child who was trying desperately to cope with some absolutely impossible situations with the only comforts i could find & im sure if you look back on your actions with a compassionate lens you will also see a person deserving love.

and then moving forward with that in mind you can always ask yourself "am i doing the best i can with the tools i have now?" and if the answer is no, you probably have an idea of where to move forward from that question. you can't change your past but you can affect your present

[ramblingoak]

Chia for the get to know you ask💛

Thank youuuuu 💙

chia ⇢ what’s an inside joke you have with someone else?

"There's a girl in the garden."

It's from the movie Shaun of the Dead and basically...so my husband is like a pretty chill guy (I am NOT) and a few years ago he got up super early, grabbed a glass of water, came back to bed and told me "there's a girl in the garden" then he fell back asleep.

At first I thought he was just talking in his sleep/half sleep whatever and ignored it. I decided to get up and let the dog out but before I opened the back door the motion lights came on and oh hey THERE WAS GIRL IN THE GARDEN. Although it wasn't so much a girl as it was a grown ass woman in her underpants.

So anyway, he now says that to me anytime there's something going on outside I probably need to see.

[ashensamurai]

I tried out pioneer last night and I bought a pre-con called Gruul Stompy I think? Its red and green and has elves and a lovestruck beast and its so fucking funny to me. Like yeah I'm sure fucking stompying

ah very nice! first off nice with the lovestruck beast it's a good card, got one myself and first printed in 2019's throne of eldraine. Gruul is the name for the red and green color combination, as we take all two-color combination names from the Guilds of Ravnica (there have been many, many sets there but I won't go into that), and Stompy is an archetype with big, aggressive creatures normally with trample, low mana costs, haste, and yeah elves for ramping normally. the deck list for that precon is pretty good actually, you've got some good cards for pioneer and any other formats you choose (questing beast is just good). hope you did well in your pioneer matches!

[shhhlikeme]

Yooooo does Kise from KNB remind you of Oikawa?? Not just from the popular pretty boy stand point but his work ethic?? He’s one of those characters that you want to win when he goes against the main character

So I love that you mention this b because that’s literally why I will always say KNB is the best sports anime of all time. Furundate was highly HIGHLY influenced by KNB when writing Haikyuu and Fujimaki (the kurobas writer) gave him BARE advice.... So a lot of the HQ characters he admits were made by using the knb boys as blueprints. Making Oikawa from Kise is the most obvious one, on god. But even the names:

Akashi Seijuro —-> Seijoh Koko / Akaashi

Kagami ——> Kageyama

Kuroko Testu (KNB protag) and then Kuroo Tetsurō? Stop this Lmaoooo

Also Yukio Kasamatsu (The Iwa-chan to Kise) literally acts EXACTLY like Iwa..... same with Midorima/Takao and Tsuki/Yams, Atsushi/Himuro and Kunimi/Kindaichi, Teppei/Hyuga and Suga/Daichi etc!! . you see this copy paste style continuously which actually isn’t something you see in the other sports anime’s. literally when you watch knb again you see that Furundate repeated almost every theme in Haikyuu. Literally. But at the end of the day: KNB is much more mature and not so ditsy of an anime. Plus for once the main character isn’t some bouncing off the walls type.

That’s why they are my top 2 but Kurobas takes the cake.

[alastarlie]

Are u against LGBTQ+ people?

lol, no dear.   If I was I would be against myself, because I’m certainly not straight.   Besides, I have drawn a lot of LGBT Hazbin ships, I’ve drawn angelhusk (this is OTP, I freaking LOVE this ship), radiodust, appleradio, angelxblitzo, vox x val, vox x alastor,  angel x val,  angel x Sirpentious, and  Al x EdBosco (although, admittedly, this last one is just a crackship for me, lol).  Just check my art tag  “my art”, (though I post more art on my twitter than I do on Tumblr)   And I *plan* to draw every single hazbin hotel ship there is, gay or straight, as a show of ship positivity in the fandom. (A project I’m doing on Twitter) 

I’m as supportive of LGBTQ+ people and their rights as one can get.  Which is why it’s a bit frustrating when people accuse me and my friends of being a “homophobe” or being against LGBTQ+ people just because we ship a single non-samesex couple.  Which is frankly ridiculous.  When I ship something, I ship it because of the character’s personalities and their ship dynamic.  I couldn’t care less about what the heck is between their legs.  Also, it’s just fiction, people need to chill.  Fandom is supposed to be for fun, not drama. 

[exhaustedborderline]

Idk if that anon was trying to be rude or not, but 4k people that have BPD isn't sad. Not nowadays. Now, we have a specialized therapy that's incredibly helpful. Now, we have better knowledge on BPD, a better understanding of it. Now, we DO have the internet to have online communities where we can share our struggles, our feelings, and healthy ways to cope with our emotions and trauma. It's not sad that there's 4k people with BPD. It just means 4k people have found a space to feel understood.

I could see where they were coming from, to me 4k people that have a hard to deal with mental illness due to possibly suffering trauma is not a good thing. idk if sad was the right word for them to use. I know probably not everyone that follows me has bpd and thats ok too. I see it as people relating to what i post and feeling less alone, which is a better coping mechanism than causing harm to yourself. the reason i started this blog was because i also related to a lot of blogs on here and that made me feel less alone or ‘weird’. obviously the ultimate goal is recovery for all those people but this can be a way to cope for people that are not in a place to really recover yet for whatever reason. making my posts is a comforting thing for me and i’d recommend it to ppl with bpd. if not on tumblr then maybe in a journal or something.

[pinkhairedperfectionist]

How did Ravess become perfect?

Her mother always expected the best from her, as a woman she was raised to be seen not heard, to be polite, always use manners, she had to be in her mother's eyes perfect. But has she got older, Ravess changed from her mother's perception of perfect and made her own standard.

[kiyoitsukikage]

Recently, I've seen a lot of people interpret Sasuke saying he wanted to "restore his clan" in Chapter 4 as in restore their honor rather than literally repopulate their clan as we've assumed since, well, ever. Does the original Japanese suggest one interpretation over the other or could it go either way, kiyoitsukikage?

Hmmm I’m afraid the Japanese text won’thelp you very much with interpretations (or at least, I’m not expert enough tohelp you here).

In chapter 4, the word used is 復興 fukkourevival/reconstruction/renaissance/restoration, made up with two kanji thatboth mean ‘revival/restoration’. It has the connotation of “re-building after adisaster” (which is fit for the Uchiha clan after the massacre – you can seethis word used as a verb in sentences like “Restoration of Japan after the WWII”or “rebuilding a village after a tsunami”), but I don’t know if it’s intendedin the sense of “restore in the sense of repopulation” or “restore the honour”.(Tanoshii dictionary gives you a list of related terms, and it says that 復興 is intended withthe nuance of ‘revival of learning or culture’… but honestly, I think it can beused for both population and honour alike).

I made a quick research and later on, inchapter 403 and 485, Sasuke uses the word 再興, with the same meaning “revival/restoration”,but made up with the kanji ‘again’ and ‘revive’. So I dug deeper into theirmeaning, and I discovered that while fukkouhas the nuance of ‘restore something as it was in its original state’ saikou has the nuance of ‘make somethingrevive again” in the sense of “making great again, or even greater than it was’(which is in line with Sasuke’s ‘mission’ at that time – killing everybody inKonoha).

So… I guess the meaning ‘restoration of hisclan’ changed for Sasuke as well in the course of the manga… eh, it’s notreally an answer to your question, but the only thing I can tell you is that Ican’t tell its nuance for sure.