anyway semirelatedly thinking lately/always abt the phenomenon described in this post:
One of the general rules of ideology is that if something is happening or being done to someone or a group of people for an extended period then they will come to be seen and maybe even to see themselves as "the kind of person that this thing happens to". It becomes natural. You could see this with the Syrian civil war, with the Palestinians, with Ukraine; I remember hearing on a radio documentary that in the first year of the great Irish famine there was sympathetic coverage in the English press and there were charity drives, but by the second year the story was primarily Irish fecklessness -- the Irish came to be seen as "the kind of people that famine happens to". Racism is based on this -- there were black slaves and so slavery became inherent to blackness. Aristotle made a similar (non-racial) argument that the slaves on whose labour his society was built were "natural slaves", that they were destined by their nature to be ruled by another. On an interpersonal level this is the core of many abusive relationships, and on the world-historic level this is one of the key ways in which misogyny has been a core component of class society: women were oppressed and treated as a kind of permanent child, and the everyday carrying out of this subordination throughout the lives of everyone involved meant that this seemed to be the natural state of a woman. The long-term prisoner often comes to think of himself as "a prisoner", to think of himself as the kind of person who belongs in prison. The victim of domestic abuse often comes to think of herself as deserving what she is getting, of being a small and silly person who can't do any better and is to blame for provoking the violence she suffers due to her own stupidity. And so on.
if you spend long enough out of human society, you start to feel like the kind of person who belongs outside it, &c
