Looking into #lifecoach #qualifications, they mentioned a book #TheCoachingManual by #JuliaStarr as a starter guide Looking at the reviews, they said it was a bit 'dry' compared to #TimeToThink by #NancyKline I #read both, I found it very useful, as it definitely made me change how I feel about #lifecoaching I noticed I didn't truly want it, I thought I was meant to But I learnt from the book #becomingbulletproof that some people felt #judged, so you unknowingly #coach the person onto editing the story of the events, thus basically being lied to A good life coach wouldn't strategise what to say, wouldn't say 'do this' & play 'fix it' #Working in #sales for 10 years, I can see why the 2 #careers would clash, my current job is getting the #sale done in as little time as possible.. 'Time to Think' is probably my #favouritebook so far, it said how we should stop interrupting when someone either: 1. Speaks 2. Cries 3. Vents in #anger Let them express their feelings, acknowledge them even if you disagree. Avoid giving your input, because people can have a #polarised response (they reject whatever you say) - only if they really ask for it We think we help by dismissing their frustration, but people wants to be heard I never felt comfortable with the term 'Life Coach', why should anyone need a coach? I adapted, questioned & changed the wording in the project. It's not about coaching, or learning. It's all about #improving, trying to be as #mindful as possible, to get the right message across The people from #UPW recommended the book #JudgmentDetox by #GabrielleBernstein - I thought it would be about not feeling bad if you are judged, but totally the opposite!! It says we #judge people because we separated from love. It's so painful that we cover up, judging people Now I am able to understand why I was being judged, I can see it with #compassion instead of #resentment I will also #vow to shut my #judgmental mind, live & let people live has always been my motto (b4 I wanted to fix the world at least!) ☺️ I am looking forward to reading it all, I'll share the best bits here as usual #alwayslearning 😃 (at Brighton and Hove) https://www.instagram.com/p/CH6R7c8Hwzm/?igshid=t5w49nf6z2f5









