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She/They TMA st4t After years of scrolling Tumblr without an account I finally made one :3

[redcat117]

intro post I guess?

i'm transfem and use she/her and they/them pronouns and i'm interested in trying some neos but I've been hesitant (ᵕ•﹏•;)

i'm also 20 and do not want any minors to try to private message me, if you're a kid and do that, instant block

i'll probably lurk and reblog more than post but we'll see :3

favorite animals are cats and opossums, they're so me

favorite color is red

if anyone knows some good straight t4t fiction, including fanfiction oh please oh please feel so super free to let me know, and art too

[redcat117]

replied to someone on a post and kinda realized i could totally make it a post

intersectionality is not "add your identities together and get oppression points." i personally like to think of it kind of like a phase graph from chem to help visualize and understand, idk how to explain that visualization best some chemistry nerd can probably explain, it just works for me

a transfeminized person experiences misogyny and experiences transphobia. but the hatred she faces isn't just misogyny + transphobia. the predator stereotype, the pervert stereotype, the bathroom panic, the specific ways trans women's bodies are hypersexualized and also extremely policed are not things that happen to cis women with some extra transphobia added on top. it's a unique discrimination that happens to transfems that is specific and inseperable. so transmisogyny is the intersection of transphobia and misogyny because you can't separate the misogyny from the transphobia and still accurately describe the way the discrimination, violence, and hatred functions.

this is part of why transandrophobia doesn't work.

for transandrophobia to be real, you would need to to show that there is a meaningfully distinct form of oppression experienced by transmascs/men that is from being both trans and being men. not transphobia that targets transmascs. not misogyny that catches people perceived as female. not just someone being uncomfortable around men. a specific, inseperable hatred of transmascs/men as transmascs/men.

for an example if a cis woman and a transmasc are both denied an abortion by the same law, under the same logic, by the same system, then it is not "transandrophobia," it's an example of reproductive misogyny. the transmasc/man is experiencing it as a trans person with a uterus. the cis woman is experiencing it as a cis person with a uterus. it's not happening because a trans man is a man, it's happening because the govt views people with the ability to give birth as incubators and those who cannot as failures.

there is no oppression that men face to intersect with transphobia and the misogyny that transmascs/men can get hit with isn't inseperable from the transphobia, those layers could be peeled back and the hatred and discrimination can still be discussed and described accurately.

[redcat117]

i need to get shinigami eyes 🫩

[mars-hollow]

writing a movie about a violent man in a dress who kills women out of a desire to become one and then insisting over and over that it can't be transphobic (despite it's cultural influence to the contrary) because he isn't a real tranny is. well it's beyond parody isn't it.

[mars-hollow]

reallyyy not a fan of the habit people have of deflecting guilt for making abhorrent and obvious caricatures of trans women in media by insisting that it was actually super progressive because he wasn't a real transsexual!! you see the same shit with rhps. just a complete failure to take some accountability and say "yeah that was insensitive we shouldn't have depicted a real group of people that way and it has brought them material harm as a result."

[emrakulsstrongestkitty]

It's so frustrating when people pull the "but he isn't a trans woman," like yes, the transmisogynistic caricature will not be called a woman by the source material, please consider why that is

[lunaticchimaera]

"The Hateful Image of You is a community building thing for us though." "We felt so safe in The Hateful Image of You it let us explore ourselves." "The Hateful Image of You inspired women to join imperialist government organizations." "Honestly I dont even care how you feel about The Hateful Image of You it doesn't matter that nobody acknowledges the affect it has on You." "I have personally helped facilitate dozens of productions of The Hateful Image of You its not amazing its just a movie."

Silence of the Lambs, Ace Ventura, RHPS, Sleepaway Camp, Longlegs, Psycho, the list goes on and on and on and The Hateful Image of You lives on in the hearts of everyone around us and TME people expect us to just, not care? Is it so hard to empathize with a trans woman for one minute that they can't even conceive of having The Hateful Image of You depicting yourself in a warped portrait with blood smeared on it and how it makes us feel? Especially that its a beloved community gathering thing to take part in The Hateful Image of You? That The Hateful Image of You unites everyone else in enjoying it? That the sharing of it perpetuates its renewal over and over again?

Nah, I'mma be a loud pissed off tranny about it. The least I can do to fight what kills so many of us before we can even be ourselves is shit on every one of these shitty fucking things yall make. Fuckin Hell.

[mousidy]

i will not stand for the infantilization of madeline celeste. that woman gets drunk and gets into heated arguments with forum users

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Feminine men existed and were part of the queer community long before people built an entire identity around a transmisogynistic slur. Having a problem with a culture based around the degendering fetishization of trans woman isn't "increasing binary expression".

If people had chosen shemale, trap or ladyboy instead of femboy as their new label I'd be arguing against those instead. Hell, tme people do call themselves traps, which is extra disgusting considering what that word implies.

Put on a fucking dress. Grow your hair out. Wear eyeliner, it looks great on everyone. I encourage it. Gender is a scam invented by bathroom sign companies.

But stop building an identity off fetishization of me and stop acting like I'm the problem for being upset by it.

[jingerpi]

"reblog to give a trans woman soup"

- 144k notes

"trans women experience misogyny because they're women"

- you are now on a blocklist

[penatola]

If someone compares what someone who's visibly underweight goes through and implies overweight people suffer less, that's bad! Yea call that out!

But comparing by going "well fatphobia exists and is worse" is soooo dumb. Who's to say? Body shaming borne in ableism is still. Ableism. And that's what people are calling out whenever people talk about 'underweight' bodys. Disabled people. So why compare? You can't say ableism is better than fatphobia - cuz that's stupid and has no reason being said, the argument you chose was wrong the minute you allowed some chud to con you into agreeing to compare issues.

[dumgumgum]

* right, this is where we draw pictures, and don’t kill each other!

[analog-delight]

My first egg cracked in 2016. I came out as agender. changed my name to Andi and my pronouns to they/them, started wearing dresses/skirts/crop tops, and dyed my hair all sorts of funky colors. I was starting to be happier with myself in a way I'd never really been as a boy. No one. Not one single person, in real life or on the internet, ever made it seem like being a woman was an option for me. Everything pointed in the opposite direction.

[analog-delight]

I watched the election cycle that year with dread. I watched the vote totals come in at bar with some friends after my teaching gig for the night was over. We drank in silence and in misery. I cried in my truck on the way home, knowing that life was just going to get harder for people like me. I still couldn't call myself transgender. I didn't think that word was for me.

[analog-delight]

I read Tranny by Laura Jane Grace. I really identified with parts of it, but her story as a punk rocker and an addict was so dissimilar to mine that I didn't think I could be a woman, didn't think I would ever be allowed to call myself that.

[analog-delight]

I drank and smoked myself almost to the point of death over the next two years. I was working nearly 100hrs a week between bartending and teaching, and was semi-regularly driving the few blocks home from the bar slightly drunk. Not intentionally, but y'know. If something happened and my life ended? No big deal. Every relationship in my life crumbled around me. It wasn't until I hit rock FUCKING bottom that I thought to myself "what if I'm a woman?"

[analog-delight]

If anyone had told me, even once, that maybe I was a trans woman. Maybe estrogen could help. Maybe transition might make me happier. Maybe I wouldn't have been driving a 2005 F-150 with almost 200k miles on it 90mph an hour and a half to sleep with a girl who hadn't loved me in years. Maybe I wouldn't have buried myself in half a bottle of whiskey every night after work. Maybe I would've never started smoking. Maybe I'd still have any of the friends I made before the pandemic. Maybe I Wouldn't Have Been So Fucking Miserable.

[analog-delight]

So yeah. Forcefem today. Forcefem tomorrow. Forcefem every day forever until not a single girl has to go through what I did, or worse.

[criiitter]

...but who are YOU, really?

[cpericardium]

[wkbk33]

🦋

[princessdraconic]

how come its always "well lesbians won't exist after gender abolition" and not "everyone will be lesbians after gender abolition" huh

[princessdraconic]

yeah i can tell when you say gender abolition you mean everyone will be men. get real

[analog-delight]

Forcefem isn't a fucking kink to me, it hasn't been for a while now. In a world so dead set against letting trans women even think for a second that they can be women, forcefem is about letting those girls know that it isn't wrong or shameful or just a kink to want to be a woman.

I'm sure a lot of the forcefem posters on this website, both of the original flavor and the new and improved formula, do get sexual gratification out of it.

But the thing that I don't think TME forcemasc and/or detrans kink posters understand is that for a lot of us girls, we would've given anything in the world to have someone genuinely look at us and go "Hey. You're a girl. I see it, and I'm going to make it reality."

Forcefem may have started out as a kink rooted in misogyny, but that isn't all it is anymore.

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Sometimes being a trans woman is feeling like the bulk of the queer community has left you out in the cold

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Intentionally

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Fully nude and drenched head to toe in ice water

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

with three broken limbs and a pack of wolves following us

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

and vultures circling overhead

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

while you sit in front of the window drinking hot chocolate

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

and if we manage to survive because another trans woman found us, and we ask you kindly to leave the door unlocked next time, you call us hysterical bitches

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

and spread a rumor that we're all pedophiles

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

Anyway if anyone's wondering why I've been so bitter lately it's because because I have a fucking right to be.

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Transphobes will claim that trans people are snowflakes who want to be the most Special :tm: things in existence but like I would have sold my heart and soul to have just been another girl in the crowd who didn’t stand out in the slightest