#transgender rant

[whotfisruckus]

Hey, big fat shout out to (sorry to the extra notification in your inbox, but I have to thank you) @clara-the-cat! On a post I had made describing my love/hate relationship I have with Jax about my gender, Clara reblogged my post and she gave me a link to genderdysphoria.fyi (shout out to the people/person behind that too). This is probably one of the most helpful things I have received in my LIFE.

After I became cis again, after the last time I was trans, I put off the reason why I wanted to be a woman was just because I was into "feminine things", and I would be just fine as a man. The main reason I thought this was because I liked makeup, feminine clothing, and speaking in a less manly voice but still liked having my manly giblets. Besides, I wasn't born thinking "ohhhh I should've been a woman", I only used those pronouns online when I was pretty young to make people think I was old enough to play Rec Room in 2018, and I only completely committed to it because I dated a trans woman, and was jealous of how freely they could be more feminine presenting. Right?

Yeah, no. Now that I look back on it, there was probably a reason why I really was super happy when I was tricking people into thinking I was a teenage girl on Rec Room, and not some young boy that shouldn't have had access to a headset. After that girl I dated, I transitioned because she gave me confidence, which was then crushed when I told one of my friends that I "didn't want to be a man."

I would love to transition, but the state I live in would make that difficult, and I don't really have the means to move away either. I *need* the scholarships in my state to get a degree. Even worse, my parents would take an even longer time to accept me due to their political beliefs. I might start using she/her pronouns online, but it still feels kind of weird to go back to that.

Still, thank you to Clara, and the people who have liked, replied, or reblogged my post. You have given me confidence and answers, and I genuinely couldn't thank you more.

Sorry if there are misspellings, typos, or pieces of incorrect grammar. I made this in like 8 minutes with minimal editing. If there's something I need to change or clarify, lmk.

I'm not used to being this open on a public forum, but at least it is mostly anonymous.

(Also, I miss you Rec Room)

[rosekiller-addict]

i wanna know what God I pissed off bc today's thanksgiving right? so already, not gonna be a great day bc family gatherings always lead to politic talk and ppl basically debating if I should be alive (they don't know i'm queer)

but then ofc today has to be a masc day (I'm afab) so I'm going to be constantly misgendered and dead named all freaking day (I'm not out)

[caseysharkey]

tws/cws !! botton & top dysphoria, transphobia

as someone who didnt know they were trans until they got educated:

dont put trans people in a box. just because i dont cry constantly about me having tits and afab genitals, which is a valid reason to cry, doesnt make me any less trans. you're making it more difficult for others to discover who they are, and making them feel more ostracized. stop forcing yourself into trans peoples buisness.

[nobodysyndrome]

Gender fluidity rant by an Agender Man

Being trans is inherently fluid. Gender is inherently fluid. It's not always literally fluid either. Gender fluidity doesn't only include gender-fluid identifying people. It encompasses anyone who does not fit the standards of the solid binary society who thinks of gender and sex as one, and both as static, never moving or changing, which includes the experience of your gender being different than the sex assigned to you at birth. Being a gender other than the sex that you were assigned with is changing. Perhaps, you were always the gender you feel most comfortable as but even so, you probably had to change in order to become more comfortable in your body. You are expected to not do that in society. As we learn more and more about genders, and different genders, most people who are not stubbornly fixed in their position of ignorance acknowledge that gender is inherently fluid. It's complex and for some people, it always changes. For some other people, it changes then stops and decides. For others, it stays fixed.

If you think gender fluidity is just a trend, you don't understand the complexities of individuality and expression, and of the diversity of people.

[nevergoingontheinternetagain]

Genders

There are only two genders: Male and Female. Transgender can’t be called an entirely separate gender, because it literally means you are going from ONE GENDER to THE OTHER, there is no in between. 

Come at me SJWs....

[mimsygreens]

Personal rant

I’m honestly so down right now. What’s the point of transitioning? I can’t afford top surgery. I can’t bind due to my asthma. So I just look like a girl.

And people are telling me I’m vain and an asshole for wanting to get top surgery with a good top surgeon. No. How about the fact that the NHS top surgeons are a bag of wank? They don’t do consistently good work, nor does Yelland. I’ve seen what the ‘top surgeon’ for my area does. And it’s a mess. He destroyed my friend’s chest to the point where my friend is SUING. He can’t lift his arms up past mid way, his chest is concave and got infected and he received no aftercare. And the GIC have told me that this surgeon, who is actually a hand surgeon, will be doing my surgery when I’m eligible. Because they are swamped and he’s in my area so it makes it easier.

Yeah okay, call me vain.

Top surgery is a huge thing. I want mine to look like the chest it fucking should. Not some half assed job because most of the surgeons know how to remove breasts but not how to reconstruct a chest.

I don’t trust the NHS, and I certainly don’t trust a HAND SURGEON to do my top surgery.

[skywitch23-blog]

Why I can't "Tone it down"

I have been reflecting the last few days one something that is a bit of a repetitive saying out of my parent’s mouth. Ever since I began social transitioning, they like to approach me at times and tell me that “ I really should tone it down” and I always get upset because what they don’t realize is they are telling me is to stop being a woman. Now if course what they mean is for me to not wear full makeup as much as I do, but here’s why its a problem. Makeup is my security blanket. With makeup I can soften my features which help me to feel more myself. When told to tone it down they threatens a security I am not ready to loose yet. It is already hard to hold on to that security because at times my insecurity is stronger, but when I do I feel happier, and freer. So the reason I cannot “Tone it down” is because where I am in my transitioning the makeup saves my life.