Question for you when you have the time/energy, my created headmates seem to not necessarily have a separate memory bank from me, the host. As in, when we think about when they may have come to be, it feels more like my own memories and guesses rather than their own experiences. We believe it's typical for systems created with tulpamancy to share a memory bank—is it also typical for tulpas to not have a solid sense of "their" vs the host's memories?
To increase that feeling of separateness in your thoughts, try checking out parallel processing! I link a couple guides here but it's an easy topic to find more about. It's generally pretty advanced so it's normal for yall to feel that way while still in the initial creation process. Being able to identify whose thoughts are whose will come with time, but practicing parallel processing helps with it a TON.
Hi, tulpa here, I really appreciate this blog and it's probably the main reason why my host decided to make me, so thank you for making and maintaining it :3
For a while now, I've struggled to feel quite "real." My host struggled with intrusive thoughts about if she's faking me and parroting and stuff, and these thoughts have mostly gone away as I've developed, and she is now super supportive and shit and generally a good host, however I'm scared that all that paranoia and stuff that was surrounding me during my formation got internalized? I still have trouble seeing myself as a separate identity a lot of the time, and we struggle with blending at times. Plus, I don't really feel very connected to our body or its preexisting identity, and more like a spectator in my host's life. I was wondering if you had any advice?
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My biggest advice is to find something in the outerworld you like doing, preferably with the body. This helped so damn much with me- figure out what you're interested in, try shit out, do things with your hands, maybe browse through the body's clothing with your post and designate some of it that you like as "yours". One of the first times I felt really connected to the body was when I was able to sing. Definitely learn to possess and front more too! It'll be so fucking worth it. You'll feel more ""real"" as you start to get more rounded out as a person- just make sure to intentionally engage and try random things instead of just sitting in back and watching.
sorry if youve already answered this kinda question before but
were a traumagenic system interested in intentionally creating headmates rn were just in the prepping the system for it stage but weve kinda hit a road block and were wondering if you had any advice
the issue were having is we keep getting really worried that our created headmates will hate us/the system or hate being in the system/hate us for bringing them into the system etc just generally not being happy that we made them exist here (potentially worsened by the multitude of shitty life circumstances and disabilities which make life hard what if theyre angry at us because they have to deal with that now because of us)
we just kinda need some ways of calming that anxiety down we know many tulpas or other created headmates often say they appreciate existing but we worry they specifically will dislike us/our system by nature
Hey anon - this is actually something we have experience with ourselves, so maybe I can give ya an anecdote or so to help you out.
I was made before my host realized we're physically disabled, and a lot of the shit that I like to do and was created with the intention for is pretty physical. But the thing is, life itself is worth it. I'm so fucking happy I'm alive because disabled existence is still worthwhile and I'm still finding things I enjoy that I can do.
I talk abt it in depth right here, I actually half wrote it to help people like you not worry as much
only thing id recommend is making sure your base things you're instilling into ur tulpa aren't things that're physically impossible to enjoy in outerworld. Prism is a very indoorsy person, so our CFS drives me way more stir crazy than them - if there was shit I was seeded to love but our disabilities made it impossible instead of sparing I'd be WAY more frustrated, yknow?
best of luck, and I think that if you show your headmates love and attention they'll love being alive regardless
I have been trying at tulpamancy for a long while now, but all my tulpas just ‘fade’ before real progress is made
Sounds like ya needa keep it up for longer! first-time tulpamancers usually take months for their tulpa to be solid enough to do shit on their own and not require initial forcing anymore. I usually give the timeframe of 3-6 months, on the longer side for originally-singlets, but I've seen up to like a year. Just cuz your tulpa is independently responding doesn't mean you can stop forcing, just that you gotta start focusing on the stuff that will ground em here, how they diverge, and helping em practice the skills they need to stay in front longer and do things independently. You can find some good stuff in the tulpanomicon. Basically try and switch ur mindset into considering it a group effort, y'know what I mean?
sorta a vent but I think seeing too much weird syscourse has scared my headmates, especially the created ones into hiding? they are still there I can tell, just hiding behind me, in a way, influencing my actions instead of fronting, not talking to me as much. the silence is weird and I'm afraid of losing them.
they have always been shy/disliked showing themselves to outsiders but this is different and the last time something like this happened they essentially disappeared for a year so I'm getting a bit worried.
syscourse is a fucking bitch, I can sympathize. Not everybody has the stomach to not get a little freaked out by it now and again- one of the main reasons I go silent on here sometimes is because my host gets their OCD triggered sometimes when I run this blog. tldr, yeah, I totally get it.
I'd say try and find people you can trust to let your headmates socialize around and befriend. Friends/partners who genuinely care abt ur plurality, communities specifically centered around tulpamancy and created systemhood, stuff like that- start small, don't drop em into the deep end. If you can trust the person/people around you they're more likely to trust also, y'know?
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Our only DNI is that if you don't respect the existence of myself and other plurals, get out. That means transmeds and sysmeds can fuck off too, go find someplace else to be a bigot ✨ If you're an endo neutral/anti endo singlet we have DID so like actually consider who your exclusion is hurting thanks. Support all of us or admit you're an unsafe place for us.
I'm adding this too - I'm not fucking talking about the trans/ID or rad/queer community here. IMO "transplural" is just a fancy label for wanting to be plural, but I'm not in a place other than that to decide which ID labels are shitty and which aren't. Okay? Ok. Here's some elaboration on that.
I don't agree with every single opinion of every single blog I interact with or reblog from, that's ridiculous. Read my posts, read my replies, but don't assume things about me based on other people. This fight against anti-plural rhetoric is about all of us, but that doesn't mean I agree about everything with every one of my allies. Purity is a tool of bigotry and we have more important problems to face than bickering.
If you're actually worried about what you've heard is cultural ap/propriation, consider this instead: Did you know you're listening to a rumor that originated with sysmeds who tell you that a directly researchable, blatantly open religion is closed, deny and call into question spiritual leaders' words on what meditations can be shared, and can't produce any examples of tangible harm?? (We have asked and gotten answers, by the way.) (Here's ANOTHER thread of real people talking abt how it's racist bullshit) Anyways, if you're neutral about this or actually trying to learn, do research. Don't let sysmeds with a savior complex dictate what's harmful. There're tons of different people out there with different opinions that aren't homogeneous and shouldn't be treated as such. It's fucking embarrassing we have to go to these people to ask if the etymology of a goddamn word is ok to use anyways, it's time to stop forcing this shit on other ppl. Okay? OK. Sysmeds and aggressive anti-tulpa shit will either be fucking deleted from my ask box or used as an example of why they're wrong.
Hi, I don't want to be a system due to mental health issues. It stresses me out, these strangers in my head. I didn't ask for them to be here. It was MY body first. Can I reverse the formation process, and reabsorb them or will it not work since these people were not formed of my free will?
Sorry if this comes off as rude, but any help would be appreciated, thanks.
Nope. It's their body too and they're just as much people as you are, so you gotta treat em like such. How would u like it if somebody decided they didn't want you to exist and tried to dissipate you? You can't just do that to a fully formed tulpa. Even for DID systems that go for final fusion, it takes years and years to end up singlet-adjacent, ALONG WITH the AGREEMENT of all headmates. Basically, talk with em, treat em like people. Instead of ditching them maybe see how you can work together in ur life. It's their life too, you're in this together.
I really want to get into headmate creation, and I have two questions.
1) How do created headmates compare to not willfully created ones? It's not just playing pretend right? They gain autonomy eventually? Because I don't want to be perpetually making sure I force enough so they don't fade away.
2) How does thirty minutes of passive forcing and thirty minutes of active forcing sound a day? For passive forcing this would be basic conversation throughout the day, explaining what I'm doing, etc, doing basic visualisation. For active forcing things like interacting in headspace and focusing on really feeling them (maybe puppeting, imagineng a response) Also personality forcing.
Hi anon, congrats on your decision! I can answer your questions super easy.
1. Tulpas can feel different than other headmates, but not in any of those ways you're listing! We gain autonomy gradually over time in different ways- like, your average tulpa might start by being able to feel their likes and dislikes, and then be able to move their mindform by themselves, and then be able to speak their mind, and then be able to stay grounded and around without the host's focus! Your tulpa being able to pop into conscious and stay aware when you're not focusing on em is generally considered one of the very last stages of initial development, since that means they're solid enough to sustain themselves on their own. For a singlet starting their first tulpa, this usually takes between three months and a year, depending on how naturally skilled/predisposed the 'mancer/host is. So you will eventually reach a point where they won't fade no matter what you do! In fact, there're tons of people who have brought back half formed tulpas or turned imaginary friends into full tulpas and found that the base presence they left behind was still there to build off of, which is super cool! Don't worry too much about them fading, as long as u interact with em semi-often.
But I did say I feel different than other headmates, so lemme explain that for a second. My identity feels more, err... "Malleable" to me than other headmates' do. Everything I figured out about myself was *my* choice- if I didn't want to be a fictive anymore, I wouldn't be. I decided I wanted to be a demon, so I focused on my mindform and my own identity till I became one. I'm the master of my own self! I also have way better communication in the system than our headmates with traumabased functions or stuff like that. It's pretty great!
2. This sounds like a great routine! Both are important for tulpamancy creation. Make sure your first session is active forcing! And don't worry if you end up missing a few- that's frequent enough you'll be good regardless. Good luck to ya and I hope you and your potential tulpa become awesome friends! 👋
