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one day feeling like your beauty is very unique,someone who is one in a million and you can even get scout by an agency or something and the other day feeling like your just mid,kinda chopped and delusional is not for the weak
It’s funny how much grace people are willing to give you if you’re weird but also conventionally attractive. If you’re an ugly mess on the other hand, you can kiss your chances of being treated decently goodbye.
I need to look like a dress to impress model
I don't care if it's an unrealistic video game
I need to have a model body
Honestly, I don't think there's any good solution to BDD. Maybe I'm just a dumbass but the methods I've tried either don't do shit or actively make the problem worse.
Body positivity doesn't do shit. Forcing positivity about anything isn't helpful and when you can't be 100% positive about your body 24/7, it feels like you failed yourself. Worse still is that my body is objectively bad. I don't really love lying to myself all the time. I get the goal is just fake it till you make it but oh my god is it so hard. I literally shower with the lights off because the concept of looking at my own body disgusts me. I don't want to burst into tears every few days because the fact I'm stuck with this for the rest of my life makes me want to vomit. Not to mention, there are just some objectively not good things with my body. I'm not very strong or fast, my eyesights not great, I'm at greater risk for like 13 different diseases, not to mention addictions... I'd change stuff about me even if I thought I was hot shit.
Body neutrality is for depressed people. Sounds mean I know but how is anyone expected to completely disconnect themselves from how others perceive them? I'm not all that extroverted but I consider myself a social person. I like being around people. Most people do. How others perceive me is more important than how I perceive myself and I think that's true of most people. I can think I'm funny and smart and cool but if everyone else thinks otherwise, you can guess what's really right. I like hearing other people's opinions. I love talking to people. I'm not just gonna ignore society at large so I feel better.
"go get therapy!!" Look. I think therapy as an institution is a scam. Individual therapists can be fine and dandy but the industry literally profits off your insecurities/anxiety/depression. Therapists get paid as long as you're insecure not to mention constantly ruminating on your source of insecurity or other ailments only seeks to cause an echo chamber where you leave feeling worse. Also, you're building a connection with someone over an insecurity. You're not ever really going to grow from it. If you become friends with someone over a hobby and grow out of it, either you ditch the friend or you keep doing a hobby you dislike. Same with whatever put you in therapy. Either leave a relationship you've had for presumably years or keep pretending or ruminating on it.
I don't know where I was going with this. I think the only option really is to just not have BDD in the first place which mostly requires a change to society at large and I'm not doing that. I just think it's annoying when someone tries to give me advice on this sort of thing because 9 times out of 10, it's some well meaning but clueless person who's at worse been kinda insecure. No hate no shade but it's not like I'm an idiot. I know I'm in the wrong. I know what I'm doing is unhealthy. It's more so that the solutions plain don't work.
Save money by abandoning your skincare routine and replacing it with 2 hours daily of obsessively picking at your skin.
"What if the flaw you keep fixating on isn't the real problem?"
If you've ever:
Avoided mirrors or social events because of your appearance
Spent hours analyzing (and re-analyzing) perceived flaws
Felt like no amount of "fixing" your looks is ever enough
Been told "you look fine" but can't internalize it
...you might be struggling with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)—not vanity.
Why Typical "Self-Love" Advice Fails for BDD
Generic body positivity often misses the mark because BDD isn't about actual appearance—it's about your brain's distorted perception.
This workbook offers evidence-based techniques to:
✅ Identify BDD's Tricks → Spot compulsive behaviors (mirror-checking, seeking reassurance) → Recognize how avoidance fuels the obsession
✅ Challenge Distorted Thoughts → Reality-test "flaws" you’ve magnified → Break free from comparison traps
✅ Build Tolerance to Triggers → Gradual exposure to avoided situations (without rituals) → Reduce the power of reflections/photos
✅ Redirect Your Focus → Values-based exercises to reconnect with who you are beyond appearance → Self-compassion scripts for high-anxiety moments
What Makes This Workbook Different
🔍 BDD-Specific Tools Not just "love your body" platitudes—real CBT/ERP strategies that work for BDD.
📈 Progress Over Perfection Track small wins (e.g., "Wore a T-shirt without checking my arms 50x").
💡 For All Genders & Ages Covers common BDD themes (skin, hair, weight, facial features, muscle dysmorphia).
Who This Is For
✔️ Anyone exhausted from time-consuming appearance rituals ✔️ Those who feel trapped by their reflection ✔️ People ready to invest energy in life—not mirrors
Workbook Link → The BDD Recovery Workbook
Imagine...
Passing a mirror without stopping
Posting a photo without editing it for hours
Caring more about what your body does than how it looks
BDD shrinks your world—this workbook helps you reclaim it.
I hate that I’m nothing like the idealized version of myself that I thought I’d become as a kid.
I wish it was normal to just wear a mask your entire life. Like a full face mask. I’m tired of people being able to witness how grotesque I look. I don’t even want to have to see my face when I look in the mirror because it ruins my entire day. I’d be so much happier if I could just hide it. While I’m at work, when I shower, while I sleep, I don’t want it to be possible for myself or anyone else to end up catching a single glimpse of it. I don’t know how my boyfriend can even stand to look at me, let alone love me, when he’s so pretty and I look like an actual monster