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Something I haven't seen explicitly discussed is my belief that TMS2 is really a story of how unresolved trauma can ultimately create a circle of trauma. JiWoo's deep seeded self loathing went unaddressed for a really long time until it reached its apex-ish during the breakup. And this subsequently triggered SJ's severe abandonment issues. The more JW's trauma went unresolved, the more he suffered and then more SJ eventually suffered too. From episode 8 it was clear that JW believed he was so unimportant in SJ's life that his coping mechanisms eventually convinced SJ that SJ was rightly abandoned by JW and his parents for being such a burden.

Sometimes I feel like the internet (which it's the internet so you know) is rather obsessed with dividing this show into campus about who's wrong, who deserves the most empathy, and who we can be mad at.

I have really felt like TMS2 wasn't really trying to make JW a villain - controversial opinion. If we had seen JW's perspective from the start I think people would have been extremely sympathetic to him. We would have seen a lot of "This is terrible BUT I also understand" or "SJ don't you understand what's happening"

By keeping JW out of it, it allowed the audience to experience what JW's unresolved trauma did to those around him. We didn't have the luxury of rationalizing it or building an emotional connection that would soften the blow of all of JW's cruel words. We saw how this trauma eventually took it's toll on SJ and traumatized him. Even if they do get back together, SJ will probably dread his birthday and there's no way that he won't believe for a really long time that there's something fundamentally burdensome about himself.

My honest takeaway from the show is the importance of dealing with your unresolved issues before it destroys you or those around you.

Oh god anon! I felt like screaming into the void when Jiwoo's neighbour revealed that Jiwoo and Sung Yoon ghosted each other because if that wasn't a clever way to maybe hint at the notion that you carry the wounds of your past into every new relationships, I don't know what is! If you think Hwang de seul was gonna introduce a past lover solely for the purpose of a contrite misunderstanding scene/a love triangle? Nopes.

This aspect of unresolved trauma is also established with Seojoon and his parents, Jiwoo and his parents, Jiwoo and the whole village. Like you said, this is what you get when you do not address trauma head on. It's not enough to know that it's there and point it out loud. Seojoon has an understanding of Jiwoo and his defenses as early as season 1 and you see how this is a fear that always sat at the back of his mind. He is being aware and cautious with Jiwoo. But this is not enough.

I think one of the most heartbreaking thing that happened is that, as you said, Seojoon has completely internalized that there's something inherently wrong about him. He casually makes those little off-hand, defeatist remarks. He is too much or not enough for people to stick around. Even if they do get back together and Seojoon gets an explanation from Jiwoo, it's totally valid to imagine that Seojoon has already been further traumatized. It's hard not to imagine him having to live with the doubts and fears at the back of his head. There's a possibility that he will still try to modulate his behaviour according to Jiwoo's list, even unconsciously so.

All those hints at Seojoon and Jiwoo's pain get too much at times, man. Also, let's call a spade a spade, they both have exhibited extremely alarming behaviour. Seojoon does not sleep, does not eat, medicates, gets off his medication when maybe he shouldn't, takes rash decisions and possibly self-harms (not dodging the punch form his co-star). Jiwoo hints that it is only his neighbours who were able to save him. I don't think those are hints which are only there to like...try to show us how passionate they are for each other, how heartbreaking and gut-wrenching this heartbreak is. Those are hints to serious, serious issues.

It's so ironic that I think, if things had been addressed head on, Seojoon and Jiwoo would have helped each other a great deal. None of them could have healed each other with the power of their love alone but their experiences are so similar it's striking. It's the same fears and trauma, simply manifested differently. Jiwoo builds up and then cuts everything loose and runs. He is so fearful of being alone that he runs. Meanwhile, the little things Seojoon did throughout their relationship to ensure that Jiwoo was not lonely? I think those also show how anxious he is in his relationships..How it pushes him to overdo and demand constant reassurance from his partner....Which yeah..Hurts.

Oh. I think TMS2 had no intention to villainize Jiwoo. I still believe, having seen Jiwoo's pov that, although it would not have been the ideal solution for him, he should have still been entitled to break up with Seojoon. The show does not require you to rationalize Jiwoo's decisions. It does not ask you to wait for Jiwoo to be redeemed. it does not ask us to forgive him. You just have to like...deep a little and try to understand.

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