Tallulah

NSFW because kink. A blend of personal posts and reblogs. Personal photos, thoughs, and commentary are tagged #personal

[tallulahtightrope]

So like... I’ve not been on tumblr for ages and was thinking of posting some new erotic pictures and kink discourse. I had forgotten about tumblr’s shitty new policy. So, what’s the word on the street, kids? Where do we share our erotica  and kink discourse nowadays? Or do people still do it here as long as it’s not pornographic?

Thanks etc 

[v-ersacrum]

Giorgio Vasari, Crucifixion, 1562-63

[byrneing]

friend: how are you me: 

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crytyping as an alternative poetry structure

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thissi  s jsut to say im so fuckign, ,, 

im so fucking sorr y i ate the plums you had/??  in the icebox i know you were probably saving htem for breakfas.t GOD im so,,,fucking sorry they were  s s o delicousn 

so sweet,..

[tallulahtightrope]

So moving to see everyone in my city come together after last night's horrifying attack.

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Shoutout to the people who are traumatized by an event that didn’t bother them at first By something that they didn’t realize hurt them By something that happened when they were young and naive and didn’t know what to do so they forced the memory out of their head By something that only started affecting them recently You are valid and I love you

[tallulahtightrope]

Latest nightmare daydream: I am trapped as a character in Erika Moen's Oh Joy Sex Toy webcomic. In this saccharine-sweet two dimensional prison I am forced to advertise kinks rooted in oppression which I present with no meaningful criticism, invitation of dialogue, or cultural history and context. As if to do so would be kinkshaming. I gloss over or even endorse racism. I say creepy transphobic things. I objectify lesbians. I mention sex workers are human beings, in a footnote as if I don't really believe it. My minimalist pastel form spews forth reductive statements, inaccuracies, and unrealistic portrayals. The only saving grace is that my presentation is unerotic, as devoid of charm and grace as an office carpet tile. My character's delivery is clumsy and childish, but also deeply malevolent. Like being chased by a shovel wielding teletubby. For every person who rushes off to engage entirely uncritically in whatever I'm endorsing, a hundred other people feel they have no choice but to take vows of celibacy and move to a remote mountain top. My mouth is smiling but my eyes are sad. So, so sad. Because what I am doing passes for sex education.

[gothhabiba]

do you know any good readings on the effects of colonialism on modern concepts of gender? i've seen you talk a lot about this and i'm interested to read more into it

Heterosexualism and the Colonial / Modern Gender System, María Lugones 

Colonial Dependence and Sexual Difference: Reading for Gender in the Writing’s of Simón Bolívar (1783-1830), Catherine Davies

(you can download those last two articles here if you don’t have access to jstor)

The Coloniality of Gender, Maria Lugones

Romancing the Transgender Native, Evan B. Towle and Lynn M. Morgan

Scientific Racism and the Emergence of the Homosexual Body, Siobhan Somerville

Asexuality as a white supremacist dream

The Empire of Sexuality, Joseph Massa

Women and Men, Cloth and Colonization: The Transformation of Production-Distribution Relations among the Baule (Ivory Coast) (Femmes et hommes, pagnes et colonisation: la transformation des relations de production et de distribution chez les Baule de Côte d'Ivoire), Mona Etienne

“Some Could Suckle over Their Shoulder”: Male Travelers, Female Bodies, and the Gendering of Racial Ideology, 1500-1770, Jennifer L. Morgan

White Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudence, Sunny Woan

Rethinking Sex-Positivity, Rebecca John

Women of Color Seen As Always Sexually Available, Jaclyn Friedman 

[tallulahtightrope]

Saving for later.

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[bemusedlybespectacled]

Gomez gives out better relationship advice than like 90% of dudes.

[obstinate-nocturna]

Gomez Addams is a suave motherfucker who loves his wife more than his own life.

Everyone should want a Gomez. He’s p cool.

[breelandwalker]

Gomez and Morticia Addams actually have a very loving and extremely healthy relationship, both in the old TV show and in the more recent movies. They were also one of the first television couples to be shown to have an active (albeit offscreen) sex life. Their frank attitude towards sexuality was shocking in its’ time, but their relationship and their family dynamic is actually more functional and more…dare I say it…sane than most families portrayed on TV.

The comedy in the show came from the family’s “odd” lifestyle, rather than from infighting and petty bickering, or worse, as was common on other shows of the time, thinly veiled references to spousal abuse. They didn’t make fun of each other or act like their children were creatures from another world. Were they strange and outside of social norms? Yes. Were they united in creating a loving home and being good, supportive parents? Absolutely.

These two support and adore their children, care for an aging mother and an estranged brother, put family before everything, and they love each other, wholly, fiercely, without reserve. They are every bit as much in love after at least a decade of marriage as they were the day they met.

Relationship goals. LIFE goals.

[avotica]

Just remembered in the second movie when their third child became “normal” for a period and although they were shocked and didn’t know how to handle it, they didn’t mistreat the child or love it any less. They accepted the difference, even though it was hard for them. 

[drnerdlove]

Reblogged for truth.

[franklyunfabulous]

❤️❤️❤️

[endreal]

Posts about Gomez and Morticia Addams are almost always uplifting and I’m happy to have them on my dash, but I think my favorite bit about this conversation is what Gomez is actually saying to Fester.

It’s nobody’s surprise that many of the aesthetic and thematic elements of The Addams Family in its various incarnations are influenced by Gothic tradition (not goth, that mostly came later. And not Goth, that was much much much too early), and I think Gomez’s words are a dead bullseye in terms of Gothic mentality.

“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”

The sublime is a recurring theme throughout Gothic literature. Although the word (like “awesome”) has lost a lot of it’s original luster over the intervening decades, sublime doesn’t really mean elevated and lofty (or even heavenly) as it’s often used today, but rather something possessing the power and grandeur to induce awe and veneration in the mind of the beholder. Although less than divine, something sublime possessed a wildness and power that transcended human ability to control…or even to comprehend.

Sublime is standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon leaning as far as you dare over the railing and still not being able to see the canyon floor below. Sublime is warrior-queen Galadriel being tempted by the One Ring. Sublime is waking up in the middle of the night in the heart of a wild thunderstorm.

“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”

Gomez isn’t advising Fester to treat a woman he fancies like a princess, or even elevate her to pedestal of angelic nature (who’s idea was it to equate femininity with purity anyway? What a laughable and historically damaging idea. Shame on whatever dead (probably) white dudes promoted that!)

Gomez is advising Fester that if he truly loves a woman he must do everything he can to remind her of how she’s an untameable force of nature who’s grandeur brings him to his knees in awe and terror. Just like Morticia, for Gomez.

I’ll sign off with one of my most favorite quotes of all time, because it feels suddenly very relevant:

“When I find myself surrounded by so much beauty, I feel as if I am the eye of a hurricane.”

- -Sanjay Kulkarni

[xturtletrashx]

reblogging again because this got even better

[workingitinportland-deactivated]

you aren't ever worried that you are negating trafficking victims?

of course not, how could I be? I can hold space for all kinds of experiences–i’m friends with and i work with trafficking survivors and survivors of sexual abuse and exploitation and I’m a survivor of sexual abuse and assault.

there’s space for all kinds of experiences and stories and decriminalisation would have no affect on sexual abuse and exploitation being illegal. they already are illegal, and yet they keep happening. which forces us to ask why, if they’re all already illegal, why is it still happening and what needs to change?

did prohibition stop alcohol consumption? alcohol consumption soared in illegal venues, cocktails became popular for the first time.

did the mass criminalisation of all drugs end drug use? drug use soared and a mass population of criminals was created to work for pennies in the prison industrial complex.

decriminalisation of consensual adult sex work doesn’t render sexual abuse and exploitation legal, ethical, or moral. but it does mean that when a sex worker is hurt, her roommates don’t need to be afraid to call the police because they won’t be arrested as her traffickers. decriminalisation means that a kid who is trading sex for survival can go to social services and not worry that their friend they work with who guards their back on the streets and who they return the favour for–neither of them will be charged as each other’s pimps. it means the two women who went on a working trip to california? the black one wouldn’t have been charged as the white one’s pimp.

and yet it still leaves many laws that make sexual abuse and exploitation a crime intact! unbelievable how that works!

do you want to know a secret?

sexual abuse and exploitation happen everywhere, at every level. in homes for free as well as on the street for shelter. football players rape and murder their girlfriends and they get away with it, not because of people like me, but because this society doesn’t value women’s bodily integrity and safety. that hasn’t changed in one hundred years and all the strategies liberal feminists have employed to try and change it have come at the rights and safety of sex workers, women of colour, poor people, trans women.

so maybe it’s time for liberal carceral feminists to back off and let the disenfranchised and poor and queer and mentally ill and trans lead the way.

the only narratives i’m negating are the ones that maintain that sex work is the root of sexual exploitation: we all know by now that that simply isn’t true. it’s a pat narrative that takes the responsibility off our culture, off men, off the justice system, and off liberal feminists for failing us over and over and over again.

there’s a tupac quote i want to use here, but unfortunately, he sexually assaulted women too. we just can’t fucking get a break.

talk to the men in your life about sexual assault and narratives of power and stop shitting on marginalised people.

[rosalarian]

My Hades and Persephone comic Six updated again. Making long distance relationships fun!

Read it on Filthy Figments…

[thequotejournals]

She wears strength and darkness equally well, the girl has always been half goddess, half hell.

Nikita Gill (via thequotejournals)

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Desperate For Attention was performed at The Pink Room at the White Hotel, Salford on 16/03/2017

(this video is NSFW!)

[tallulahtightrope]

I loved everything about this performance.

[rubyetc]

Happy first day of Spring in shit Britain, or ‘Shittain’ as I will now be referring to it as

[trapcard]

Trans women who present a certain way do it as a form of protection. Girls who are pre transition and still present as ‘masculine’. If someone like myself goes out and wears feminine clothing and/or makeup there’s a good chance i’m going to get harassed or possibly killed. So me refraining from doing so is not because I want to but because i HAVE to for my own safety. This is not “male privilege”. Saying that a marginalized group has privilege by conforming to an enforced societal norm as protection is idiotic. This would be like saying that a cis woman has “make up privilege” because she wears make up to not be ridiculed, brutalized and ostracized in society. It doesn’t make sense. At all.

And then this whole myth of trans women being socialized as male. The first issue is that the only people saying this are people who are NOT trans women. It’s mainly cis women who have no idea about how life is growing up as trans women that legitimately think that a trans woman and a cis man have the same exact experiences growing up. This is a very blatant form of oppression. A group in power assigning a blanket generalization in order to delegitimize the experience of the marginalized and further the violence against them is oppression. A man saying that women are naturally physically weaker for example is a myth created by men as a tool to further oppression. The myth of male socialization works the exact same way. Trans women are telling you our experiences and you are constantly denying them because they do not fit into your preconceived narrative that allows you to continue to contribute and enable our oppression.

This other idea of trans women not really being women because we do not grow up being mocked for our vaginas is utterly juvenile. Women do not have to check a boxes of instances of oppression to be considered women. Not every woman, cis or trans, interacts with patriarchy exactly the same so even implying that if a woman isn’t oppressed in a certain way then they aren’t a woman doesn’t hold weight. A white woman does not go through the same struggles a black woman but that does not erase either group’s womanhood If a woman is never mocked for her looks then is she not a woman? The same concept applies to trans women.

Trans women are not socialized as male. We are socialized as trans women. There are trans women who start presenting at a very young age. I personally know girls who have been on blockers since before they started puberty and have been out since then as well. The other girls who may not have started hormones till later in life or not at all are still not “socialized as male” just the same as a closeted lesbian woman is not “socialized as straight” and doesn’t have straight privilege because she grew up closeted and presented a certain way. A majority of the time trans women are abused for displaying any sort of feminine behaviour in our child hood. These lessons that our fathers and mothers attempt to teach us about “being a man” don’t absorb the same way they do for cis men because we are not men. These lessons only harm us and reinforce the message that we have to be hyper feminine in order to be accepted. Trans women do not interact with cis women even close to the same as cis men. Whenever a trans woman becomes aggressive, particularly if she’s black, a cis woman will say that this aggressiveness is a result of “male socialization” rather than a natural response to oppression. A trans woman getting angry at being called a man, something that gets us killed and keeps our people homeless and in constant danger, is not a result of being “raised as a male” but a result of constantly being exposed to violence for existing.

At the end of the day trans women are constantly being brutalized, disenfranchised and murdered for simply existing. So for self proclaimed feminists and just women in general to ignore this is oppressive. For these women to see this violence and dismiss it and thus promote it is oppressive. For these women to push the idea that trans women are just men in wigs which gets us murdered is oppressive. For these women to allow this extermination of trans lives to happen and not lift finger when one of us has our lives taken because we at trans is oppressive. Implying that a trans woman is trying “infiltrate womanhood” is oppressive. We just want to be able to exist in safety. That’s literally it.

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THANK YOU

[tallulahtightrope]

me: are there any spirits listening

ouija: yes are you alone

me: yes

ouija: haha nice whats up :P

me: trying to contact my dead grandmother

ouija: cool cool so what would u be doing if i was alive right now lol