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"Just once, I want to be somebody else's first choice."

- Lara Jean, To all the boys I've loved before

I'm in my early 20s, and I asked my aunt who is in her late 40s, "When will I start feeling like an adult?" Her response: "I'm still waiting" We look at what other people are doing, at work, their own business, etc. And based on their social media followers or the confidence they showcase, we assume that they've had it all figured out. The level of success they have is outside your limitations, thanks to some inherent flaws in our abilities. But the truth is, they all went along the way and made peace with floundering and figuring out life. You might know a number of 'Happy Successful, Have it all people'. But it's very rare to see someone who can proudly say "I have it all sorted." May it be business/work, love or family. You might be nailing one and just getting through the other two, or probably faking it all at once. Real success lies in making peace with the teenager within you. Realising that wherever you are, your mind will still be in the 90s, wondering how did I make it this far. The fact is WE NEVER FIGURE IT OUT. We just become better at owning it. 💪 . . . . ______________________________ #noonehasitallfiguredout #life #LittleReminders❤☺ #ReDefineYourself💫 https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvcc_75BL84UJYV0Q_mdZGFehVkPakguPXhkXY0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=w7q9yia4d28x

#noonehasitallfiguredout #life #littlereminders❤☺#redefineyourself💫

It's that season ❄ P.S. Didn't think I would say this until Feb end. ______________________________ #winterdoodles #someselfcare #weekending #coffeeseason #sweaterweather #blanketcuddles #winterinmiddleeast #coldbreeze #lovingtheweather (at Al Ajman) https://www.instagram.com/p/BuMYPO9FJ7lp-7ZejKDTkOeFe7zBPwhCb9da4U0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=6wzjvlukqlgb

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Sometimes

Sometimes our emotions become a big part of who we are.

Sometimes you wake up feeling like a star, and sometimes the day begins with nothing to look forward to.

Sometimes, things go from bad to worse, when all the choices are hard, and all the options are dim.

Sometimes Darkness overcomes you; where nobody understands; and the world turns deaf - without sense or reason.

Sometimes you wait and wait and wait, but nothing ever seems to happen. Then all your troubles come at once.

Sometimes you cry, because you’re on your own, because your heart is torn and you find it difficult to carry on.

Sometimes you feel anxious and worried, because wonderful things are passing you by. But you know that terrible fates are inevitable.

Sometimes you just don’t know what to do, or who you are meant to be or where you are. And the day seems to end the way it began.

Yet another day starts and you go through the thoughts of loneliness and despair. But you still hold on to that hope that things could change.

Everyone has those times when they feel devastated and unhappy. You want to get out of that, but don’t know how to. But do you know what the funny thing about life is? It doesn’t give up! We give up, LIFE doesn’t.

Because sometimes, all you need is for situations to change or to talk to someone who can listen and be supportive.

Because sometimes, you just need to decide to give life a chance, a REAL CHANCE – to show that it WILL NOT GIVE UP ON YOU.

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When I ask you about your first love I am always secretly hoping That you will Say your name. Now wouldn't that be beautiful To above all else Have a heart That was proud of itself. #loveyourself #selflove #selfcare #LittleReminders❤☺ #selfloveisnotselfish #beproud #beyourownbae #livelifeyourway #liveforyourselffirst #youmatter #yourfeelingsmatter https://www.instagram.com/p/Br14LQPhYpG3W7-jStli_kU4kdNX0cUYRAJNr40/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=10k9ardze909x

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Hello Beautiful People! 😉💙 #bebeautiful #beyou #love #live #laugh #selfcare #loveyourself #mentalhealthawareness https://www.instagram.com/p/BrvXFPDlpHCnt-xLl5PI4UnNAjylRlVaEMX5PQ0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=l5m4zkdwgtrs

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Stop telling to ‘Get over it’

Depression and Anxiety - the two most common mental health issues, two flip sides of the same coin. Some people might experience feelings of either anxiety or depression, at certain times. But there are many, like myself, who’ve experienced both together. Having cold sweats, crying involuntarily, having mood swings or getting feeling that something wrong is going to happen becomes very common. Trust me I’ve tried to control all these emotional ups and downs n number of times, also tried to hide it all, but I seriously can’t. And It’s probably the same with most suffering with mental illnesses.

On top of which, all the stigma around ‘MENTAL HEALTH’ drives even more crazy. “Everyone feels like that”, “No one likes work, you just do it”, and the ever popular “Get over it!”. Have you ever been told to ‘Get over it’? I have and I really can't stand those words.

All of us are under such pressure to put our problems in the past tense. Don’t tell someone to get over it; infact help them to get through it. Because there are some of us, who are just trying to get through the day without falling apart. Sometimes, all one needs is for someone just to be there, even if they can’t solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares makes all the difference.

When told to “get over it”, it gives birth to self-doubt, just makes us want to curl up in the bed and cry or in my case break things. It shows inability. Makes me question ‘Do my actions or progress really go unnoticed? Is there even a progress? Am I doing something wrong?’ So please, just don’t say ‘Get over it’ or ‘Relax’ kind of statements. Even if you can’t understand a mental illness, just be patient, show your support and listen. All I can tell is that, everyone is trying. No one likes to be in a constant state of doubt or stress. Sometimes all you need is a hug from a loved one, who tells ‘you’re not worthless’.

To the ones fighting mental illness, slow down. Don't allow others to make you pace up your healing. It is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight, one may take years too - and that's OKAY.

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'I thought you knew!' they say

Ever been with someone you had a great connection with, and suddenly one day they won't even look you in the eye? Or ever been with a someone who just doesn’t seem to care about the friendship you had with her anymore or about you? The one who doesn't seem to spare chance to subtly insult you. The one who gives you silent treatments, or even refuses to acknowledge someone's presence. Someone who says things that'll give you an impression that you're bothering then, with 'I'm not mad' or 'I thought you knew'. And at the end of the day who acknowledges being wrong, yet continues being the same.

If you know anyone like this, they're probably suffering from 'Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder', just like I do.

Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder - is a Gender-Neutral Personality Disorder which describes someone who negatively and passively responds in certain situations. If you're anything like I am, you'll be probably known as the Furtive interrupter, procrastinator or the stubborn one.

It's usually hard to understand people like us, because we're often deemed to have an abrupt behaviour, or hated for being outspoken. We stubborn ones will typically defend our position or viewpoint rigorously. Conversations with passive-aggressives are often draining and frustrating. Passive-aggressives are usually blamed and yelled at for being rude and not-understanding.

If you seem to know someone who suddenly has this vigorous change in their behaviour, it's time that you try getting some clinical help for them. While the above might just be reasons for someone's distressed behaviour, it's better to not take these symptoms lightly and avoid self-diagnosis. Also, once someone is diagnosed with it, do not let it negatively affect you. Instead try understanding them, ask yourself the reason for them continually acting like this and focus more on their feelings and situations rather than blaming them. They are someone who aren't rude but need your help. Sometimes they just need to be appreciated for what, to know their significance, to know that you care, and to be felt safe.