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i just had the funniest experience in vr chat, i joined a random server and the one i joined had Japanese people so i waddled around in my goofy club penguin avatar that i have saved, after a while a guy walks up to me and clones my avatar so were both penguins then another guy shows up and clone my avatar

now keep in mind there only speaking Japanese i don’t know what they are saying, then another guy joins in, so i got a group of three penguin friends

we just waddle around and goof about, the one of them tries to talk to me, but not only do i not have a mic i also don’t speak Japanese, they figure out i don’t speak Japanese and start listing various places, they get the part of being European right, and after listing a lot of places they ask if im from the UK and when i nod they all just start cheering. after hanging out for a while one of them gets real close to me and whispers…

“penguin brothers forever”

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Pre-T vs. 5 ½ months on testosterone.

wolveshowlingatnightmain

How to Get a Binder as a Trans Boy + Binder Safety

BINDER ALTERNATIVES FOR A FLATTER CHEST

Dark shirts. Black shirts really flatten the chest. Avoid white or grey shirts.

Wear a compression sports bra.

Avoid cup bras. Cups are designed to make the breasts appear more shapely, fuller, and bigger. I know a lot of closeted trans guys don’t wear cup bras, but some parents won’t buy new bras if they’re “in perfectly good condition”. If that’s the case, claim you grew out of your cup bras, then ask your parents to take you shopping and pick out some sports bras instead.

Layer two shirts on top of each other. One shirt a tighter shirt such as an undershirt, with a baggy shirt over it.

THE FLATTEST CHEST WITHOUT A BINDER

Get a compression sports bra and put it on. Then, put a tank top or undershirt over that. Then, over the tank top/undershirt, put on a black shirt, preferably one also baggy. Even better, a hoodie. Avoid light colored shirts or thinner materials if you’re aiming for a flat-chest look. Generally the darker and thicker the material, the better it flattens your chest. This is why black hoodies are popular with trans boys.

EXCUSES TO GET A BINDER IF YOU’RE CLOSETED

If you’re in theater, tell your parents you’re going to play as a male role, want to go all-in, and the binder would allow you to get into character better.

Tell your parents you’re getting teased in school. I know a cis girl who was getting horribly teased by boys due to her large chest, and her mom bought her a binder. So if your parents question you before you’re ready to come out as trans, just tell them it’s common for cis girls to get binders when they get bullied for their chests.

If you’re allowed to wear boy’s clothes, tell your parents a binder will allow you to fit into your clothes better. Button down shirts are a good example of this, most are difficult to fit without a binder.

You could also tell your parents they’re in style right now, and that everyone else has one.

If you exercise, tell your parents your sports bras aren’t doing you justice and that your chest hurts when you exercise, and that you need something with more compression. (But of course, don’t actually exercise in your binder, just use this for an excuse)

GETTING YOUR OWN BINDER

Do a summer job such as delivering newspapers, washing cars, mowing lawns, dog walking, etc. Then take the money to the store and buy a gift card, such as one from Visa, then use it to order your binder. When it arrives and if your parents end up questioning you, tell them it’s a holiday/birthday gift for someone else, and that it’s a surprise. They’ll usually end up forgetting about it, especially if the birthday or holiday is months away.

Join Swagbucks. Earn money doing surveys and use it to buy a Visa card online to order your binder. I can confirm this works.

Sign up for a free binder at point5cc.com/chest-binder-donation or pointofpride.org/chest-binder-donations. This method takes longer than steps #1 and #2, the waiting list is long.

If you can’t ship your binder to your house if your parents open all your mail, try having it shipped to a friend’s house (with permission), if they don’t have nosy, invasive parents. Your friend could put your package in their backpack and give it to you at school, or you could drop by early in the morning to pick it up yourself.

BINDER SAFETY

Don’t wear it for longer than 8 hours.

Don’t use ace bandages. Only bind with compression bras and chest binders.

Don’t sleep in your binder.

Carry a sports bra with you in case you need to take it off.

Don’t exercise in your binder. Switch to a compression sports bra instead, which still flattens your chest, but there’s no risk of injury.

Don’t order a size smaller than you need, thinking it’ll create a flatter chest. This can cause tissue damage which will make you inelligible for top surgery in the future.

Don’t wear more than one binder.

Don’t wear the binder if you’re sick, especially if it’s respiratory such as a cold or the flu.

If you feel dizzy, lightheaded, have trouble breathing, or are in any pain, take your binder off. Stretch your arms above your head, to your sides, and take several deep breaths in a row. Then cough several times to loosen any build up of fluid in your lungs. Then don’t put your binder back on.

Don’t wear binders if you’re going to be out in the heat. If you’re going to Pride Fest (or Disney World, or anywhere you’re out in the heat all day), for example, wear a sports bra instead. It’ll suck, but you don’t want to overheat and you want to be able to breathe easier since you’ll be walking all day.

If you have anxiety or are prone to sensory overload (especially from tight clothing items) map out bathrooms ahead of time in advance so that you can go in and change your binder if you start hyperventilating or, if you’re like me and have the urge to take sports bras/binders off as soon as you get overstimulated.

POSITION YOUR CHESTICLES CORRECTLY

(Don’t actually use an ace bandage, that’s just how the artist drew the picture)

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I used to frown and cover my face when someone brought out the camera, but I’m breaking the habit! 📸

tavrosnugget

Work that confidence!

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The time i changed my gender at the doctors’

the receptionist was genuinely lovely to me, she just didnt know what was and wasnt relevant to changing my gender title i guess.

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It's always good to have a mutual understanding, and avoid going into werewolf mode just to get what you want. It's unnecessary, and usually if you are polite to others, they will be polite back. Love that this post represents that.

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Sharing this on my main account as well, as it’s pride month!

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so i'm 9 days post op and i wanted to share some ways i made recovery easier. i'm a bit of a clean freak when it comes to hygiene, and i get bad texture feelings when i haven't showered, so i came up with some ways to feel clean without getting my vest or drains wet.

number one was this stuff. it comes out like a foam and smells really good, which was perfect the second and third day after surgery when i was still too sore to wash myself. i felt super clean using it and it made me smell much better too, which helped in the heat! ***you can combine it with baby wipes (one or two pumps-- a lot comes out) and use that to scrub yourself more thoroughly. having someone to help makes it much easier

baby shampoo is great for thick hair that gets greasy easily-- it lacks sulfates and parabans that may make your hair feel slimy or "heavy", and using it without conditioner has kept my hair feeling cleaner longer, and i can go two or three days without using dry shampoo.

i'm a big fan of not your mother's brand stuff, and i like that their dry shampoo doesn't feel like hairspray. i ended up only using it for a day or two before i could start giving myself sponge baths, but it did help!

with bathing--

this method i used works best if you have an actual bathtub and not just a stand up shower. i bathed myself because i wasn't comfortable having someone in my family do it, but i'm sure it'd be easier to have someone help.

i turned on the bath water and kneeled facing towards it (sidenote, make sure your drains -- if you have them-- are safely pinned back) almost on my hands and knees. i used a big cup to pour water over my head while i was facing down towards the tub drain, and i used a loofah on a stick to scrub my extremities. *i didn't use the cup of water for my upper body (except my hair) because i didn't have enough control to guarantee it wouldn't get on my vest or my drains.

it was pretty easy to get clean this way, and the baby shampoo has that "no tears" guarantee so it wasn't a big deal if i got it in my eyes. getting out of the bath, i would just make sure my head was facing down so the water wouldn't run back into my vest.

*once i had my one week post op, i felt comfortable undoing my vest enough to wipe myself in the underarms/shoulders with a combination of the shower in a bottle + baby wipes. i still had drains in at this time so i couldn't officially shower.

pure aloe vera gel works really well as a skin moisturizer. i get dry easily in the california heat, but this stuff is amazingly hydrating and feels good on the skin. not necessarily surgery related, but it did help me from going crazy when i couldn't properly bathe myself.

i hope this helped someone!