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skmetch account for scraps and graps and ramblings on the state of the universe i am a center to

[desinteresse]

Talking to friends with inept parents is crazy. No wonder they’re like this if their parents kept fumbling

[desinteresse]

“I’m having trouble adapting to my adult responsibilities” well no wonder, nobody raised you 😭😭😭

[desinteresse]

Hot tip for future parents: you actually have to guide your kid to adulthood. Feeding them and waiting for them to grow up is not enough since they are not house plants. A little more thought and care is required.

[mosssreblogs]

for those lacking certain "adulting" skills, especially things around the house, check out:

mom, how do i...?

and dad, how do i...?

^ there are tons of other resources but these two will teach you some personal hygiene, home or apartment repairs, easy recipes and basic cleaning techniques, even how to schedule doctor's appointments

if youre a renter i cannot recommend the trans handyma'am enough, mercury is a lifesaver, and her channel and accounts are always accepting new questions

there are so many resources, a lot that you dont have to even ask for, just know how to look 🩷 much love

[cryptotheism]

Father John Yogurt was defrocked from the clergy today for being asexual, following a papal ruling that "vows of chastity don't count without temptation." The Pope later commented "You gotta have that dog in you"

[3liza]

i think one of the main issues with "dating culture" in total is that the actual percentage of humans who want or need to pair bond or reproduce is a lot lower than we think it is and this creates conflict from dumping an enormous amount of resources into pursuing unsatisfactory goals, having an identity crisis when yet another relationship or partner is boring or disappointing, going through a destructive breakup and resource partition, and then being coerced into starting over from the beginning and just doing this over and over until we die. i don't think relationships and love and romantic attachment are fake I just think a lot of people don't actually need or want them who have been convinced otherwise

[3liza]

I'm not aromantic or asexual, in fact quite the opposite. I'm a full fledged poetry writing romantic and a lot of the most euphoric experiences of my life have been very stereotypical Falling In Love/Being In Love situations. I'm just saying if you really ask someone "do you like this. do you like your girlfriend. do you want to be around her. do you enjoy spending time with people you think you are romantically interested in. do you think about them in a way that makes you feel that way no one has successfully described. or are you just doing these things because you feel somehow that you are obligated or owed 'a girlfriend' (unspecified) like it's a desk lamp or toilet brush" and I think the honest answer is the second thing for a lot more people then is acknowledged

[bamsara]

Something I made while dealing with my own stuff and hoping drawing this would pick me up somehow. Maybe it worked.

FT my cat. His name is Mischief

[bamsara]

hi post i made years ago. good to see your circle back to my dash

[misscrazyfangirl321]

Hey someone suggested I use ChatGPT to figure out adulting today, and as I was going through the mental list of places I'd rather look, I realized "beloved strangers on Tumblr dot net" was on that list.

So if you have an aspect of adulting that you're really good at-taxes, budgeting, cooking, insurance, credit, time management, house upkeep, anything-please feel free to reblog with any tips.

[notcruvusmemes]

Not me, but @bitchesgetriches has a lot of great resources for many of these topics on their website.

[bitchesgetriches]

That's us! Professional internet adults, specializing in financial stuff! We recommend starting with our Grand List of All Articles, or one of our Masterposts:

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need To Know About Taxes

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about How to Increase Your Income

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Retirement and How to Retire

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Credit and Credit Cards

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Investing for Beginners

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about How to Pay off Debt

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need To Know About Living Independently for the First Time

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Repairing Our Busted-Ass World

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Self-Care

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Getting a Job, Raise, or Promotion

MASTERPOST: Everything You Need to Know about Saving Money and Being Frugal

[pothos-prince]

So I can find this later.

[twelvebooksstuff]

Great resource!!!!

[thessalian]

If you need recipes and cooking tips, my sporadically updated cookery blog is over at @spooniechef

[punkitt-is-here]

mucho texto i know but i wanted to write a lil thing about how u can treat yourself nice!!

[ten-sq]

how do interact with people without feeling like i need to get out right now and find the nearest dialogue route to activate bye bye response

[ten-sq]

i need a name for the specific whatever im dealing with that isnt some kind of pseudoscience trying to push vitamins and a coaching course on me 😭

[bedupolker]

just fyi you shouldn't emulate the problematic behavior depicted in fiction. just because something looks okay in a story doesn't make it okay in real life. this is about talking to your ex. do not text your ex. that's the devil speaking. you're not in a romcom. you're not in a fluffy fanfiction. it won't work out. don't do it.

[sabertoothwalrus]

for those who don’t remember, “mole interest” was an experiment I did 2 years ago because I wanted to test what causes tags to go trending on tumblr. My hypothesis was that all it takes is one (1) post blowing up in an established tag to make the entire tag trend.

I had randomly generated 2 words, which is where “mole interest” came from. I failed to consider that by generating a new tag, it wouldn’t have had enough posts already in it to prove what I now call “the mole interest effect”.

But now it does.

In 2023, we said “fuck it” a la mythbusters and ended up doing whatever it took to get #mole interest to trend. And it did. And it happened to be September 11th that day, and we managed to get #mole interest to trend ABOVE #9/11.

So, in the name of science, I ask you to reblog just this post. Let’s put the mole interest effect to the test.

[kyokyeo]

He was a killer He did fishing What more can I say?

[ohtransarchon]

thinking about that one moment when I was about to get top surgery

[angry-apothisexual]

I see a lot of asexual people on tumblr casually mentioning how they've been talked into having sex, despite finding it kinda boring or unpleasant; or how they've had to "meet in the middle" and "compromise" with an allo partner; or how they aren't that into sex but they really don't mind and they just do it for their partner. things like that.

so hey. guys. while aces CAN in fact have sex, and that stuff can be okay in context, I really want us to also NOT normalize the idea of just having sex for someone else's sake. a lot of acespec people have complicated relationships with sexual attraction and desire, and I think that can sometimes make it hard to tell what's part of the experience of you being ace, and what's actually *not* okay to be experiencing in a relationship. so let me just say, you should only be having sex if YOU GENUINELY WANT TO. if you're having sex because you feel like you have to for some external reason, or because you can't say no without there being a consequence in your relationship or your life, that is *not consent.* it's not consent unless it's freely given. like, let's be clear, sexual abuse isn't always physically violent. sexual *coercion* is a thing, when people are manipulated or pressured into "consenting" to have sex with someone, and it can be seriously traumatizing. so yeah. having sex when you don't feel like it isn't a compromise you just "have" to make because you're ace. allosexual people don't "have" to have sex in their relationships. and allosexual people's feelings aren't more important than asexual people's bodily autonomy.

[puc-puggy]

I hate the discourse surrounding the “male loneliness epidemic” because men’s loneliness is real. statistically, men DO NOT have deep or emotionally fulfilling relationships. BECAUSE OF PATRIARCHY. because patriarchal manhood is emotionally abusive. it’s literally astounding that we’ve ceded this territory to fascists when we need it. we need to be able to say yes. you are lonely. because of your values. because of the emotional expectations of your gender. you can have different values and stop being lonely. you can give up patriarchy and stop feeling so awfully alone.

online right now, it’s really difficult to say this without getting harassed. but I want you to remember this for real life when you’re talking to real people. any man talking about male loneliness is an opportunity for feminist revision. say yes, say you are lonely. and then say that’s how boys are taught to interact with each other and you will stay lonely until boys are allowed and expected to have feelings and be emotional and emotionally present with those they love

[draconym]

Sure, you know how to self-flagellate, but do you know how to apologize? Saying "I'm a stupid idiot" is not the same thing as saying "I did something wrong."

[draconym]

People who want an apology pretty much never want to hear "I'm a stupid idiot." If someone is actually trying to get you to say you're a stupid idiot, it's not because it will make up for a mistake you made or harm you caused. It's because they want you to feel like a stupid idiot. People who care about you do not want you to feel like a stupid idiot and it hurts them when they see you putting yourself down in their name.

[hymen-restoration-project]

When you think about it, forcefemming for the Feminarchy is basically like when Mao Zeding mobilized the Chinese peasantry as a revolutionary force. Makes a girl wonder if he travelled to the future to copy your ideas into his little red notebook….

mao was a woman

[twistcmyk]

awestruck

[ten-sq]

you see this, this, this, oh, i

this person gets me.

thank you.

my heart is happy