Finding My Feet in Ten Dollar Shoes

Life, politics, writing, video games and geeky nostalgia. Sometimes even in that order.

[tendollarshoes]

Pinned Post Intro Thing

Hello! So, this is my main blog, the one where all my random nonsense that doesn’t fit into any of my side blogs goes. Since I just went on a bit of a tear following all kinds of FFXIV blogs I thought I should put out a little warning that If you’re following me because I keep interacting with your FFXIV content/blog then just know that my FFXIV side blog is @newhorizonsxiv and if that’s the content you’re looking for you probably want to follow that one instead of this random nonsense reblog station. Sadly, you can’t send asks from a side blog so all those ask memes are gonna come to you from this account but my own stuff lives over on that side blog.

[proteusolm]

investigation

[what-even-is-thiss]

You know a lot of men make excuses about why they can’t be helpful but when my grandma is sick we physically can’t stop my severely disabled grandpa from trying to help her anyways. Bringing her favorite blankets to her even when she hasn’t asked for them and whatnot.

[what-even-is-thiss]

It’s very uncomfortable for him to lie down in a bed these days and he prefers to sleep on chairs but when she’s not feeling well he insists on lying down next to her in bed so he can make sure she’s doing okay.

So anyways people ask me why I don’t have a fully negative view of masculinity and I think this might answer your question.

[slewfootwitch]

The thing about radical kindness (or any kindness, for that matter) is that there are going to be times when someone or something makes you regret it. There are going to be times when you show someone empathy and grace that they don't "deserve". There are going to be times when someone takes that kindness and uses it against you. The world doesn't magically transform into a perfect place when you decide to choose kindness and people will take advantage of it. People will continue to be shitty.

But the thing is...that's not a flaw of kindness. That's not a you problem. That's a them problem. People who are happy with themselves and their lives don't go out of their way to misuse someone's kindness or grace. The "normal" response to kindness or empathy is not to find a way to exploit it. People who are happy with themselves don't look for ways to hurt people for no reason. Kindness will never be the problem. No matter what some shitty person decides to do with it. It should go without saying not to be a doormat, yes. Don't allow people to treat you badly just for the sake of being kind. But also don't let shitty people make you bitter because of how they treated you when you were kind.

[porterdavis]

[rederiswrites]

Just watched Adam Conover (of Adam Ruins Everything) make such a solid point that I think we should spread far and wide. Yes, having AI write your emails is lazy, sure, but people love being lazy. We need to really emphasize that sending AI emails (or using AI responses on social media, or publishing AI flyers, or or or) is rude.

It's rude. You're making someone take their time to read something you couldn't bother to write. You're telling them they were so unimportant you couldn't be bothered to actually take the time to say something yourself. And frankly, you're lying about it while you're at it.

It's rude.

[prokopetz]

Yeah, no, they decanonised my entire universe, but they kept me around because I'm important to Rebecca's backstory, so until I get a new origin trade I technically only exist while she's in the same room. It's super inconvenient.

[scribeherself]

seeing people say "this trope has been done to death" as if that's ever stopped anyone from eating bread. BREAD HAS BEEN DONE TO DEATH FOR LITERALLY THOUSANDS OF YEARS AND WE STILL WANT MORE BREAD. write your chosen one AU. write your coffee shop meet-cute. write your 47th iteration of "there was only one bed" because guess what??? we're still hungry.

[prokopetz]

The whole "Elvis sighting" thing is hilarious because, like, the first documented career Elvis impersonators began working over twenty years before the guy even died. I wonder why a public figure who has a whole industry of people who look and sound like him would generate an unusual number of posthumous sightings? It Is A Mystery.

[bluestockingbaby]

[owlwriter]

I miss seeing the Elvis impersonator at our local Tex-Mex place after it changed ownership. Norteño Elvis was awesome

[cherryhatter-deactivated2015072]

KICK THE CAN!

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

To kick the can, reblog it. I wanna see how long this can go on for.

[visibun]

the oldest reblogs for this post that i can find are from january 2nd of 2013. this can has been getting kicked around tumblr for almost 13½ years now

[drtanner]

And yet somehow this is my first time kicking it!

[mousegirlheart]

um actually there's nothing wrong with letting cats be outdoor pets. your cat is depressed locked inside forever. it's animal abuse. let it outside. more cats should be let outside more often. especially overnight.

[whencartoonsruletheworld]

"lupita nyong'o can't be helen of troy because helen was greek and there weren't black people in ancient greece"

DO YOU THINK THESE MOTHERFUCKERS DIDNT HAVE BOATS. THIS ENTIRE MOVIE IS ABOUT ONE OF THOSE MOTHERFUCKERS AND HIS BOAT

[whencartoonsruletheworld]

do you think these people can read

[phoenix]

Best comment I just saw "Helen of Troy was perfectly cast, because all these men are fighting about her."

[inkskinned]

y'okay can we stop pretending yet. like can we all acknowledge that eating disorders are chic again, and it's going to kill someone.

and like. do we have to keep gently phrasing things to protect naturally-thin people's feelings. in my life it has never been fashionable to be fat. "fat" is still a bad word. there has never been institutional power pushing people to gain weight; no trillion-dollar industry to "fix" skinny people. a larger body type has never been over-represented in models, influencers, celebrities. sure, people might say "i'm worried for your health," but they do it with respect and gentleness, like they're talking to a scared deer.

every single fucking time i talk about this, i have to be so careful with what i say, in case i offend even one skinny person. it is just true that skinny people have social capital across many cultures. there is a reason you almost never hear someone say "i wish i was fat," but you will constantly see people say "I wish i was thin." and yet inevitably some skinny person will tell me: i thought you wanted body positivity. it is the same fucking attitude as when a cis man says "when you say men have power, well, i've been bullied for being a man. i thought you believe in mental health awareness. don't you know men have a higher suicide rate?"

two things can be true at once: your experience being bullied for being thin was terrible. and people with larger bodies probably have it worse.

i have been big and small. i know many other people who have been big and small. trust what i'm about to tell you: being small is much easier. the world is kinder to you. people treat you better. honestly, this pattern occurs pretty much regardless of gender - my guy friends have confided that they'd rather be bullied for being thin than be bullied for being fat. if you're skinny, the pressure might be to gain weight, sure, but it's often to do so in a way that keeps you skinny - to gain muscle, specifically.

thinness is seen as innate and natural, genetic. whereas carrying any fat - that is a moral failing. it is assumed to be related to your character, your personality. i have seen people equate it to discipline, to hygiene. that bias is why we need to talk about this.

of course i want nobody to make a comment about anyone's bodies. and i think that hyper-thinness and an obsession with weight loss and a recession and a rise of conservative values... all of this is very fucking concerning. we are watching a return of "pro-ana" content, reframed as choice feminism, "health-conscious" behavior, "looksmaxxing". it's fucking terrifying.

[sacred-portal]

[cargopantsman]

[nojamnojelly]

[what-even-is-thiss]

My computer just randomly stopped running Bluetooth and even digging into the internal files and forcing it to run the software isn’t working for some reason.

[amorphousmassofflesh]

My child just randomly stopped eating, and even hitting them and yelling at them to eat isn't working for some reason.

[what-even-is-thiss]

You know I’ve cycled through like ten different snarky comments I could make in reply to this but frankly this comment (even if it’s some kind of joke) is so out of the ballpark from what I’m talking about that I fear your fundamental understanding of what im referring to isn’t even in the same zip code as the reality of the actual situation and I don’t know how to properly be funny in response to this because I’m so genuinely baffled.

[kde-plasma-official]

have u tried killing and birthing your kid again?

[what-even-is-thiss]

I ran diagnostics and troubleshooting and the computer was fully capable of running the software and nothing was detected to be wrong with the hardware so I tried rebooting the software and changing its activation to manual instead of automatic because that was a common fix suggested on various windows 10 forums. I ended up fixing the issue by upgrading to windows 11 and forcing the software to run again once I’d done that. So no the hardware had nothing wrong with it and it was in fact a software issue and I do in fact know how to fix basic software issues by myself and my Bluetooth is working again perfectly. When did you get to know me and my computer so well that you know the problem better than I do?

[catchymemes]

Notice at a shelter

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

lots of handwringing and discomfort about the phenomenon of kinks forming before puberty but if you think about it’s it’s much scarier to imagine a world where kinks only ever appear without warning when you’re fully grown

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

on your 18th birthday—wait no let’s say 25th birthday—you must undergo the traditional ritual and be assigned a kink that will determine the course of your sex life forevermore and place you within the corresponding faction. you close your eyes and pray that it’s something kind of classy and chic and practical and affordable and not something that will freak you out or embarrass you. the girl before you comes out crying; she’s autistic and got “prolonged eye contact”. you gulp. someone else is hastily pulling up Wikipedia. the anarchist guy covered in ACAB pins scowls at the floor, resentfully contemplating his uniform fetish.

[do-not-fold-spindle-or-mutilate]

Man, these YA dystopias are really starting to reach for fresh concepts.

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

one sexually mature adult woman dares to defy it all… what will happen to her world when she walks out of the ritual with a kink for feet…. AND inflatable pool toys?

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]