recent happenings have clarified something i’ve been thinking about in terms of fan response to santos vs response to al-hashimi. i couldn’t understand how some people can both like or even tolerate trinity but hate baran, and i’ve synthesized it down to the following: the dislike of baran is because she refuses to submit to robby’s authority and therefore refuses to take her place in the gender hierarchy. this is well beyond the ai thing.
i agree with the sentiment that trinity santos is a basic litmus test for fandom misogyny. she’s criticized and hated for things that male characters would never be hated for and in fact are actively doing on the show. but she doesn’t challenge the authority of the patriarchy and its avatar The Patriarch (robby), and doesn’t disrupt the gender hierarchy while still being a strong woman. the one time she does challenge The Patriarch, he spits in her face by leveraging her trauma against her, teaching her what happens when she steps out of the hierarchy. obviously this isn’t intentional on the part of the writers but they let it happen nonetheless.
now baran has very few of the “masculine” characteristics that trinity is hated for; she’s largely traditionally feminine. she’s kind, patient, thoughtful, gentle, thorough, eloquent, cautious, and maternal. for the first time in this show, Husband (The Patriarch) has a Wife (the potential Matriarch) that he is on equal footing with. we didn’t have that with heather collins or with dana. we finally have Wife but she is negligent in her position as Wife. she dares to challenge robby, deigns not to roll over and submit to him despite the fact that he’s done nothing to prove to her that he deserves her respect let alone her submission. she’s the only person in the e.d. who stands on her own and does her job without letting her world revolve around robby, and it disgusts people. if she obeys the system so much and works within it, then why can’t she obey the most ancient and primitive system of all and fall in line with The Patriarch?
of course people don’t believe nor recognize that their dislike of baran is misogynistic, especially people who like trinity as a character and recognize the misogyny surrounding the hatred of her. their main argument is that baran doesn’t know robby well enough to judge him or criticize him but they can’t extend this argument to baran herself and robby’s horrible treatment of her. most of them can recognize robby’s misogynistic tendencies yet insist that he’s not being misogynistic to baran and actually he hates her for correct and woke reasons. the writers are making a point by making baran a woman (and a woman of color) that robby is at odds with and no amount of squirming around that point will make that point go away.
baran has proved over and over, practically every episode, that she wants to work with robby and talk about ways that they can change the e.d. together, and yet her critics paint her as a stone cold bitch and an evil ice queen who wants to kick robby out and take over his kingdom (which is literally her job btw). can you blame her for giving up after hours of trying only to be constantly laughed at, ridiculed, and cast aside? after at least a week of trying to reach out to him and him admitting to her face that he purposely avoided her? robby’s behavior can’t be justified; ptsd and depression are not excuses for treating baran like this. she very likely has ptsd too! along with dana and trinity, and no one is making the same excuses for them because they are not failing in their professional duties. baran is his equal professionally and soon to be legally, god forbid she ask to be treated like it.
i’m yet to see a reason baran deserves this treatment from robby. she’s not threatening his job, she’s not mistreating patients, she’s not mistreating her coworkers, she’s not negligent, she’s not dangerous; she’s not egotistical or cruel or vindictive or conniving or a liar. why should she be underfoot? the idea that she needs to submit to his authority and let him walk all over her and treat her like shit in the waning hours of his tenure would never be floated in regards to a male character. a man would never be asked to stop taking up space on behalf of another man on the way out.
baran has been nothing but the consummate professional and that is still not good enough. Wife and The Matriarch must grovel and take her place under The Patriarch for these people to be comfortable with her character. it feels like some people have been waiting to use their misogyny (both internalized and not) on a woman that robby has a “valid” reason to hate, not realizing they’re playing directly into the patriarchy.