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[what-even-is-thiss]

When learning something new or honing a skill people will drill into you that you need to do the thing every single day to get better at it.

And let me be clear. In most circumstances? Ideal scenario. But we live in the real world and the real world has depression and screaming toddlers and 9-5 jobs.

It’s fine if you personally can’t do the thing every day. Just get back to it when you can. You don’t need to do something perfectly for it to be worth doing.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

wish online communities discussing autism in women weren't like, doing their best to contribute to the false perception there's a distinct Autism For Boys and Autism For Girls, when the whole time it's just social enforcement of gender roles influencing behavior

[chroniccoolness]

racist white canadians and europeans want you to believe the slave trade worked like this

it did not. it is public knowledge the slave trade worked like this

and in fighting antiblackness within canada and europe it is so so so important to acknowledge these places's participation in and benefit from the transantlantic slave trade. Slavery is not just the US's dirty past, it is a triangular industry lasting centuries that white people in the united states, canada, and europe benefitted from and continue to benefit from to this day. Slavery was good for white canadians and white europeans. They liked it. they encouraged it. they had slaves, they profited from the slave trade, and they used products grown from US slave labour in every day life. The slavery of Black people would not have been possible on the sheer scale at which it happened if it were not for active, consistent participation from europe and canada.

[adastrabbit]

everyday heroes

[adastrabbit]

clarification

[asexual-domme]

Things to Say to Someone in Top Drop/Dom Drop

I’m okay

I love you

Thank you

It’s alright

I’m not hurt

I’m not hurt too badly

You’re lovely/wonderful/kind

I enjoyed it

It was worth it

Take your time

Do you need anything?

Do you want a cuddle?

Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?

Do you want to talk about it?

I’m here

You’re not a bad person

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

Dominants in drop require the same kind of care as subs, but a different kind of reassurance.

[the-joyous-work-continues]

Reblogging because I don’t see people talking about Dom drop nearly enough!

[babiexmilk]

more people need to know about this and talk about it because, yes subs need care, but so do our Doms - they deserve just as much care and attention as us subs

[shadeslayer]

every now n then i think about how native americans as human beings just dont exist in like 99% of mainstream media. in movies or tv shows or books or video games or you know even in porn like we just arent people. when theres a native character theyre like a wild west indian. like truly to ppl we all died back in the 1900s.

[redhairandpronouns]

"if men could get pregnant-" they can. "if men got periods-" they do. "men never experience-" they do. "men would never understand-" i promise you whatever you are about to say there are men who go through the exact same thing

[redhairandpronouns]

to the people saying "yeah they should just say cis men!" STOP FORGETTING ABOUT INTERSEX PEOPLE I AM NO LONGER ASKING 🔨

[redhairandpronouns]

the issue with these hypotheticals isn't just because they're factually incorrect (and there is no amount of prefixes or labels to make it correct. you will always be excluding someone). it's that they're ALSO FUCKING POINTLESS. even if every single human being on earth could get pregnant, including every single politician and every man in power, they'd still separate that shit by gender. because shared experiences or lack thereof is not the root of misogyny. both men and women wear pants and yet the pockets aren't the same damn size. the same exact fucking toothbrush will cost a dollar more if it's pink. am i going insane i feel like i'm going insane

[redstonedust]

it bothers me when someone brings up misogyny in shounen anime and people shrug it off with "its designed for teenage boys, what can you expect." like well. idk i think its actually pretty important that shows for teenage boys are normal about women. i mean i think all media should be normal about women but teenagers are impressionable i think we could put a little bit of feminism in the teenage boy shows. it might do some good. you never know.

[hikes-and-moans]

UNPOPULAR OPINION: A lot of "mental health issues" disappear when bills are paid, rent is secure, and the fridge is full. Peace is expensive. And pretending money doesn't affect mental health is privilege.

[vee-dmsr]

[am1vf]

Not leaving this in the tags

[shamebats]

The (European) sun is a deadly laser, stay safe everyone

[unfuckablebogtroll]

☝️🤓 it’s because the further you move toward the earth’s poles, the lower the angle of the sun is at the hottest parts of the day, meaning the radiation hits your whole body, causing it to feel 10-20 degrees warmer than the thermometer reading will tell you. People from tropical climes, aka close to the equator, are used to the sun’s radiation hitting a much smaller target- their head and shoulders.

Also the further you move toward the poles the more pronounced the difference between the length of day and night is. Worst part of a far-north (or south) heatwave is it doesn’t get dark long enough for meaningful cooling.

It’s not the heat. It very literally is the sun.

[twinflamedreams]

Don’t forget that most the buildings and all are stone made for cold climate (especially if you’re in any of the cities.) the radiation is hitting those buildings and streets all day long and its a giant solar oven and neither the ambient temperature nor buildings cool enough in the short nights, so its also kind of an accumulative effect, which becomes harder to tolerate when you literally do not cool down at all for long periods of time.

The fact every time one of these heat waves hits, buildings AC units, store freezers and everything else also fail should also tell you how bad and stressful on systems it is, things cannot handle 24/7 heat to those degrees, biological or mechanical.

Living in other countries where it gets hotter it’s so easy to think it’s not that bad, but it is. It’s not the same thing at all.

[liberalsarecool]

Trump brand is entirely cosmetic. A thin veneer of fools gold overtop lies, stupidity, and grift.

It will take us generations to erase his stain.

[mingpicket]

kink: deleting someone’s pointless comment by reblogging the post from the same person they did

[yzghuldar]

I mean, that’s censorship but okay.

[nutsacktorturer]

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[king-of-the-freeway]

[neonshroudedgraves]

Bluesky asks Texas users to verify their ages, citing new app store law

"Why do you need age verification on a site where everyone is 38?"

[psudopod]

Accursed Dirt Beast 🔞 (@aftermoles.bsky.social)

If anyone is getting smacked with this - just use deer.social or another alternate client. Bsky is just an AT Protocol Client, and your Bsk

I've been told that you can switch clients to avoid this, there are a few options other than deer.

Bluesky's age assurance sucks, here's how to work around it.

Bluesky's age assurance sucks, here's how to work around it. - bluesky-osa.md

There's also filters you can add to uBlock.

[sparrowlucero]

its kind of distressing how you can tell a lot of people see popular indie artists and writers and such as like "a Celebrity but one which i stand a half decent chance of bullying to death"

[wordcubed]

[kragehund-est]

it actually is insane to me that it's a cultural norm for men to suck ass at getting their wives/gfs gifts. especially when they whine about how they have no idea what women like.

man, you're not getting a gift for Female Domestic Partner. you're getting a gift for Natalie, a person whom you have been married to for 7 years, whom has lived in the same home with you for a decade, whom speaks to you every day about her thoughts and interests, whom you presumably love, and whom you can directly or indirectly ask what she wants. it's not that you don't know what half the human population wants, that's irrelevant. you don't know what Natalie wants and that is inexcusable.

[wizardarchetypes]

like and the idea that women are 'allowed' to be emotional under patriarchy while men aren't is so wild to me because anyone who's ever been a woman in a workplace knows there's no fucking way you can ever be emotional without basically being shadowbanned from any opportunity for promotion or important assignments/projects forever and ever and ever. any woman can tell you the social punishment for crying or even getting a little emotional in almost any situation. women are expected to be emotional, but they are not free to be emotional. they are punished for it all the same. and yes, certain marginalized men are also forbade from showing emotion because they will be similarly punished.

but my point is that i feel men can and should discuss the issue of shame which stifles men's emotions without pretending we live in a fantasy world where women are exempt from the issue.

"men are shamed for showing emotion" is a true statement, full stop. there's no reason to begin or end it by insisting women, in contrast, are not.