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Hegemonic Masculinity and “Remember the Titans”
(Remember the Titans, 2000)
Sports movies like, Remember the Titans represent hegemonic masculinity which teaches young men to be brave, violent, and over all, ‘manly’. Remember the Titans took place in a defining time in America’s history, in the 70’s when blacks and whites went from segregated schools to desegregated schools. In Allen Johnson’s article, “Unraveling the Gender Knot”, he explained why men feel pressured to be masculine, “As the turn of the twentieth century, there was widespread white male panic in the United States about the “feminization” of society and the need to preserve masculine toughness” (Johnson 614). The tension among race in this movie is obviously clear, as well as heterosexual pride and the importance of being a man through releasing aggression through football.
(Coach Herman Boone and Alan Bosley)
The 1960’s and 1970’s were a time in history when legislation passed to desegregate blacks and whites, however, this did not put an end to racism. Coach Herman Boone, a black man from North Carolina came to coach the Titans at T.C. Williams High School in replacement of Alan Bosley. Coach Boone intended for the team to be a united front which was initially uncomfortable for both the black and the white teammates. Coach Herman was accused of being a “race mixer” by those who opposed the desegregation. Richard Majors wrote about the significance of race in sports in his article, “Cool Pose: Black Masculinity in Sports”, “However, American society has prevented black males from achieving many aspects of this masculinity by restricting their access to education, jobs and industrial power” (Majors 110). This theory is relevant to the movie because it emphasizes the importance of including black men in sports. This movie told the story of men who were not given a voice, to men who could be apart of a team and advocate for the oppressed. Majors also described his theory of “Cool Pose” which is the ways that minorities express themselves through different lifestyle behaviors. Cool pose is an outlet for those who do not have the type of access that privileged groups have. Majors describes cool pose as being, “Expressive behaviors are not, of course, restricted merely to professional athletes. College, high school, and playground athletes also mimic, develop, and use expressive styles” (112). Men in “Remember the Titans” were able to express their own, person cool pose as an outlet of control during a time of oppression.
(The team’s first interaction with one another, post segregation)
Another trait of masculinity is homophobia which was also portrayed in Remember the Titans. Many of the men on the team were uncomfortable with their hippy, long haired teammate, Ronnie. For starters, he was called “fruitcake” and “sunshine” because of his feminine characteristics. Chris Roberts explains the connection between masculinity and name calling among men in his article, “Men, Sports, and the Culture of Masculinity”, “Men are “bulletproof,” even the nastiest words should not affect a man’s psyche. And, perhaps the most dangerous message, men don’t walk away from confrontation or from bullies” (Roberts). Ronnie had also laid a fat kiss on his teammate Gerry which was what caused the uncomfortable homophobia among Gerry and the rest of their team. Ronnie became more accepted by his teammates after he “proved himself” in his first violent fight against teammate, Gerry. This was a way of proving to the team that he was a man. Peter J. Kareithi describes the ways that hegemonic masculinity is displayed in society through forms of media in his article, “Hegemonic Masculinity in Media Contents”, “On a global scale, hegemonic masculinity is a representation of society’s ideal of how male behavior should be. [...]In addition, hegemonic masculinity also emphasizes superiority of ‘manly’ men over the ‘not-so-manly’ men” (Kareithi 27). According to Kareithi’s theory, Ronnie would have been eaten alive by his teammates if he did not stand up for himself by fighting Gerry. By fighting Gerry, Ronnie asserted his masculinity through physical control and by proving that he was not homosexual. It is almost bizarre that in order to be accepted as a man, among a group of men, violent behavior is encouraged in order to be accepted. Kareithi describes these acts as, “By helping to differentiate masculinity from femininity, images of masculine aggression and violence – including violence against women – afford young males across class, race and geographical boundaries a degree of self-respect and ‘security’ within the more socially valued masculine role” (Kareithi 27). Ronnie was in fact, proving himself as a man rather than a feminine man by becoming involved in fights, and by ending the movie as a dominant and aggressive player.
(Ronnie)
Another theme among hegemonic masculinity is the domination over women. One of the men on the team phoned his girlfriend and was embarrassed to say “i love you” in front of his teammates. Michael A. Messner and Jeffrey Montez de Oca explained the ways that masculine toughness affects women in their article, “The Male Consumer as Loser: Beer and Liquor Ads in Mega Sports Media Events”, “The industry seems to know this: as long as men remain distrustful of women, seeing them either as bitches who are trying to ensnare them and take away their freedom or as whores with whom they can party and have sex with no emotional commitment attached, then men remain more open to the marketing strategies of the industry.” (Messner,Oca). This is true to the way that the men spoke about women as they made “your mamma” jokes in the locker room. It is a sign of mental and physical toughness to degrade women because they should not be trusted or respected. The only main character who was a woman was Sheryl, Alan Bosley’s daughter who identified closely to the men on the team because of her tomboy traits. Though she identified as “one of the guys”, her character still portrayed traditional traits that women should have in the 1960’s. Sheryl was the “homemaker” for the team, almost as though she was their cheerleader, someone who would cater to their needs as she cheered from the sidelines. Hegemonic masculinity dictates the ways that women are treated as objects and as caterers to men.
(Sheryl)
Racism, homophobia and sexism are common themes among Remember the Titans. Hegemonic masculinity is seen among sport culture which should be a subject worth investigating closely as our society moves forward. Johnson expresses the importance of making a change and challenging the patriarchal themes among masculinity, “Make noise be seen. Stand up, volunteer, speak out, write letters, sign petitions, show up, Like every oppressive system, patriarchy feeds on silence. Don't collude in silence” (Johnson 619). This idea is what should be taken away when interpreting hegemonic masculinity. Men can be men without being racist, homophobic and sexist.
(The Titans)
What if studying tantra could heal our addiction to Porn? What if tapping into our natural abilities to experience ecstasy changes everything? I was really nervous when I first realized that I wanted to teach Tantra. What would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no. I live in a […]
"UNSLUT"
Slut is one of those words that's just thrown around in our language and used without any thought or reflection. The “Unslut” documentary was so heart wrenching to watch. Many women told their story about how slut shaming caused them to harm themselves or almost kill themselves. A story of one girl in particular who hung herself after being raped and a photo of the incident was sent to everyone she knew. This instance makes me sick because once again we see that the women is at fault for the violence instead of the man. The documentary also discussed that social media plays a large factor into slut shaming. This gives the audience a chance to attack a woman for her photos. Anonymous attackers seemed to be the most crucial and influential to the bullying. This movie reminded me of a time in middle school when nude pictures of a girl in my grade were spread around school. She was called a slut and people began to avoid her. It's so sad to think back to this time because most people did not want to associate with her because they did not want a bad reputation being put on themselves. This type of behavior did not stop at middle school. It went on to high school as rumors spread about the “school sluts”. To this day, as an adult in college I still see slut shaming. For instance, at work I'll be chatting with my co-workers, when one of them will show me their phone of a girl in Instagram who is posed in some type of way, wearing some type of outfit, as he/she says, “look at her, she's a thot”. This documentary sheds light on the problems of slut shaming and how it changes the lives of many women. Being a slut is not an empowering thing. It is a term used to make a women feel guilty about their sexuality.
Presentation Reflection
Overall, I felt very confident about my presentation. I really enjoyed being able to teach a class about my passion and beliefs. I also thought it was nice to be able to spread awareness about the importance of training nurses and doctors about sexual violence. The conversation at the end of my presentation is what I felt was the most satisfying- being able to hear every one’s thoughts and answer questions was a great way to stimulate conversation.
Being a teacher for our Sexuality’s class for 25 minutes was a great experience for many reasons. For starters, being able to talk about something I find important was very rewarding. I also have a better understanding and grasp on how to keep my audience in-tune... by providing the quiz. (However I wish we had time to review the quiz at the end) I think that the quiz was a good tool because I selected the most important facts and “things to know” about reporting sexual violence, that not everyone might know. As a feminist, knowing the process of reporting rape and sexual assault is very important. Considering the statistics that 1 in every 4 women could potentially be a victim, it is very important to know and understand your rights as a victim. You could have the opportunity to save yourself or a friend just by educating yourself and other people.
If anyone is interested in being an advocate for Day One, my leaders email is [email protected]. (Courtney is her name) We need all the help we can get :)
Thanks so much for everyones support during presentations and being awesome listeners!
"Repeat Rape and Undetected Rapists”
This article, “Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists” by David Lisak and Paul Miller investigated the reasons as to why and how a person can get away with multiple offenses of rape. This was painful to read because of the underlining factor that rape is both under reported, and if it is reported, then it is hard to convict. For example the authors explained the difficulties of prosecuting rape, “Finally, the data presented here carry implications for the investigation and criminal justice response to those rapes that are reported and that fall into the category of “difficult to prosecute,” cases in which there are no physical injuries, and where the accused can claim that the victim consented to the sexual encounter” (81). Consent seems like a simple thing to grasp but in cases when alcohol is involved, both people can not consent. This is when things become sticky and hard to prove. As well as the victim who might consent at first, but later change their mind. Rape also might not be taken seriously by doctors and nurses and a victim can potentially be denied the sexual assault kit if the doctor does not approve of the victims story and situation with consent. These types of situations give power to the perpetrator and they will repeat the crime again.
Furthermore, I found it interesting that Lisak and Miller pointed out that perpetrators can get away with multiple rapes when they target victims of their “social networks-so-called acquaintances” (81). I also agree that this can be an advantage to the perpetrator because they have power and control over victims that they know. Maybe the victim doesn’t want to ruin this persons life. Or maybe the perpetrator has threatened them. Or maybe, the victim needs their perpetrator for support. There are many various reasons to why a victim might not want to report abuse. This article was very interesting because it asked questions that I have never thought about. Limitations of rape and justice for victims is incredibly hard to achieve which does result in perpetrators who do not learn from heir crime and there by cause multiple rapes.
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Hooking Up: Sex in Guyland
I love this article! I found it to be so interesting and a really easy read. Right off the bat, when I read the section about Willard Waller describing the “rating system” in the 1930s I had to reread it because I thought I misread the date. Everything that Waller described still exists today. In the 1930s men that were classified as “Class A” dating material were those who “…have a copious supply of spending money, be well-dressed, be “smooth in manners and appearance…and have access to an automobile.” (Kimmel pg. 193) What is described here is just class privilege. Nothing about how these men treat their fellow classmates or women is said, or if they are ambitious, smart, caring, or kind determines if they are high on the ranking system. These attributes are still valued today (the ones mentioned by the author not me) Today it is called “swag.” Having a car, style, and money are what our culture values and teaches us is more important than having humbling characteristics. And the guys with “swag” or in the “Class A” categories are the ones who are engaging in sexual activity.
Maybe I am wrong or way off but, because I am a huge feminist and have read a lot about this subject, that could be contributing to our rape culture and sexual assault problems on campuses all around the country. These type of people know they are valued and that women want to date or hook up with them. They could feel entitled to getting anything (including whoever) they want. Often times, those brought up in higher income backgrounds get whatever they want without working for it. Things are just handed to them. So this idea of getting whatever you want and taking whatever you want seems to have a blurry line that is often crossed without realization. I absolutely do not think all men are rapists or pigs but if the notion of always getting what you want or getting something handed to you would not be any different if after a few drinks they see a girl at a party they want too. Mix privilege, drugs and alcohol, and a location such as a college campus without any adult supervision and you might have a recipe for disaster.
The section, “Hooking Up and Relationships: “The Talk” is all too familiar to me. This section talks about how it is often the women who want to get to a deeper level such as a relationship and not just a causal hook up. The women are the ones who often ask “So where do we stand” or “what are we doing.” It seemed that every male the author talked to was relationship phobic and only wanted to hook up instead of being committed to a female. Also, it made it seem like females only want a relationship and have no other desires. She would have sex but only if there was a promise of a future relationship with the male. I have absolutely experienced this, but I feel as though I can always tell if a guy just wants to hook up or likes me. Usually it is obvious, but not always. However, there is nothing wrong if both parties want just to be involved sexually, but when feelings get involved then it gets difficult. Once feelings become involved then the person (usually the male) has the power and it turns into a type of patriarchal relationship.
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POLYAMOROUS WOMEN, SEXUAL SUBJECTIVITY AND POWER
This was also a very interesting article to read. Polyamory is described by the author as “a form of relationship which people have multiple romantic. sexual, and/or affective partners.” (Sheff pg.252) One of the great things about a women having a polyamorous relationship is that she breaks away from the traditional views of a female. Society often expects women to be pure and innocent, now by a woman being polyamorous, she has the ability to express herself sexually without any inhibitions. This could come from a “wanting more” theory discussed on page 259.
On page 259, the author describes a 36 year old white woman who who had a good career as a magazine editor and was a mother of three. She rejected the role of monogamy because she felt she wanted more. Multiple women go on to explain their reasons for choosing to reject the idea of a monogamous marriage as well. ““Wanting more” involved not only pursuing higher levels of education but also rejecting a form of sexuality and family that was not working for her and forging a polyamorous alternative.” I cannot help but think of Betty Friedan’s the Feminist Mystique. Women are all too often forced into the role of a mother which is great, some women love being mothers. However, what often happens is that these women no longer can put time and effort into climbing the corporate latter and their careers suffer, or they take jobs such as part time or teachers because that works best with raising a family. Meanwhile their husbands get to go to work every day and succeed in a career they love. Now this is only for the women who can afford to stay at home or work limited hours so they can be with their children. Women who are forced to work full time do not even have the luxury of wanting more (career or education wise) because they are working to survive.
By rejecting the idea of not having a family and being polyamorous allows women to focus on higher education, furthering their careers, and even exploring their sexuality.
I really liked how you spoke about class privilege and how the ascetics haven't changed since 1930. Is what kind of car a man drives and what he looks like more important to a woman than how she is treated? I think that many women can say she would rather be treated with love and respect. This makes me think that the privilege in our society still has the same values.
Hooking up & Polyamory
The two articles I would like to compare and contrast are Polyamorous women, Sexual subjectivity and Power by Elisabeth Sheff and Hooking up by: Sex in Guyland by Kimmel. Both articles are exploring the unknown activities of people who are either choosing to hook up or engage in a taboo type of relationship. Hooking up was once a taboo itself but has become a phenomenon. Michigan Sociologist Willard Waller explains how the process of what he calls “rating”-“dating”-“mating” has died and we are left with a series of hooks up that leave men unprepared for real relationships later in life. Although this article is written with men in mind, it tells the reader a lot about how women are consider (or not considering) during the hook up process. Waller says that in order for a woman to get rated well, and get dates “Her datability, though, no longer depends simply on social attributes. To be sure women have to be pretty and sociable but according to recent survey they also have to be sexy, and accomplished, and ambitious, and athletic and not to show that they are expending any energy at all.” To be effortlessly perfect is how you will gain attention from men. However when you accomplish this and do hook up, it ruins their reputation whereas for men it improves theirs. This is probably why women with multiple partners feel the need to justify their life choices. “Polyamorous women reject the power dynamic embedded in the persistent sexual double standard that continues to limit women’s sexual choices and stigmatize those who refrain from living by its mandates.” To me this sounds like hooking up is the first step to rejecting the double standard and could be the gateway to polyamory. The main difference in the two acts is that hooking up comes with the assumption that there will be no future commitment, whereas polyamory is a commitment to multiple partners.
Both of these concepts seem to making those who conform to typical dating or monogamous relationships uncomfortable. The taboo surrounding these topics prove that the world is skeptical of anything that isn’t the norm. By breaking these norms and talking about different types of relationships be they casual or committed, opens doors to understanding and therefore less ignorance.
I also wanted to say how awkward it was reading Hooking up, because to me if felt like my mom going around interviewing “teens” about this mysterious behavior. It didn’t feel as if the author was willing to connect by rather study them like they were another species that needed to be poked and prodded. I think this also speaks to how other generations relate to new concepts surround sex.
Yes! I thought it was an awkward article to read too. You could sense the disconnect. I also thought that Kimmel’s observations and surveys were biased, especially when I was reading the part about race. Kimmel states that hooking up is a “white guy thing”. His claims were biased because he was serving a school that was predominantly white and had few minority students. I did not like this article very much because of its biases and disconnect to the audience.
For any lesbian, gay, bi, transgender folks alone for the holidays...
http://www.yourholidaymom.com/ is a blog run by a bunch of moms (and sometimes other parents) who will post a letter to you daily until Christmas with words of acceptance and welcome. It was designed specifically as a project for kids and adults who face rejection over the holidays because of their sexuality or gender. This meant a lot to me the first year that I was isolated by my family, and I wanted to share it with all of you.
Women, Sexual, Subjectivity, and Power
I found this article to be very interesting because it went against everything our social norms stand for. To be polymistic you have to go against everything that our society does not believe in. Elisabeth Sheff describes the way a women is viewed if she engages in polymistic behavior in her article “Women, Sexual, Subjectivity, and Power”, “Some polyamorous women who felt constrained and disempowered by monogamy reported a sense of release upon embarking on poly- amorous relationships. Departure from accepted forms of relationships required polyamorous women to form new roles or expand roles previ- ously available to them as monogamists. The women in my sample expanded their familial, cultural, gendered, and sexual roles (259).” To me, I understand that humans are animals and should be polyamorous, but the culture still feels abnormal, possibly because of the way I was brought up or see society. I do think that a women could feel liberated and free from engaging in this behavior because it goes outside of the bubble that society outs her in.
Fuckboys and Thots
This article “Hooking up: Sex in Guyland” by Kimmel explains the effects that hookup culture has on future adult relationships once the student leaves college. He primarily focuses on how the man is viewed in hookup culture, hence, “Guyland”. Kimmel describes sex in Guyland, “Sex in Guyland is just that- guy’s sex. Women are welcome to act upon their sexual desires but guys run the scene. Women who decide not to join the party can look forward to going to sleep early and also tonight- and every night ”(192). Kimmel sees this sexual world dominated by men. I have to disagree with Kimmel because I think that both men and women have a role in the hookup world. I think this is where the derogatory terms for sexual men and women come from, “thots” and “fuckboys”. This double standard annoys me because when both heterosexual genders hookup with one another consensually, they end up bashing one another. If a college aged man and women both hookup, and the man doesn't call her or text her ever again and hooks up with other women he is a “fuckboy”. And if a girl is at a party and many men are coming up to her to talk and flirt, she is a “thot”. Or if she's dancing in a tight dress, she's a “thot”. So what!? Why is the way heterosexual sexuality always bashed on? Often, the men end up using their derogatory term in favor of themselves. A “fuckboy” is now a praised attribute, but a “thot” is still a shameful word.
In my opinion, I do not care if people are hooking up, as long as it is consensual and safe (which is something that Kimmel did not discuss enough of in this article). Hookup culture is praised by the media and this is where the terms originate from. The double standard for hooking up is often more shameful for women than men. This might be why men and women who are used to hooking up might have a hard time with commitment later in adult life. These terms might affect the way they identify with themselves which could affect their self esteem and relationships. Hookup culture is apart of our millennial culture and we shouldn't be shaming one another for engaging in a natural, human experience.
A lesson that we can’t afford not to be taught.
TomBoy: Mickael/Laure
Tomboy (commonly known as a girl who acts like a boy) was a movie made in 2011, is described on IMDB as “A 10-year old transgender boy moves to a new neighborhood with his family. He introduces himself as a boy for the first time to new friends”. Using the word transgender here seems to me a bit of a reach. Only because the main character Mickael/Laure never actually refers to him/herself as any gender rather lets others choose his/her pronouns for him/her. For the sake of writing this blog I am going to refer to Mickael/Laure as a boy considering it seemed to me like that’s what he preferred. While watching this film I noticed that not only did the main character reveal his preferred gender right away but the film makers were also discreet until Laure (as she is referred to by her mother) gets out of the tub and it is clear she is in fact a female. After this all evidence points to Laure being only truly happy as Mickael and when he is fitting in with the boys. Although he seems to be happy, a great deal of stress comes along with identifying as a male while having all the parts meant to be a girl. The first instance was when Mickael had to pee and ran to the woods to do it. He is discovered and the boys say he has peed his pants. He is mortified and does not return to play the next day but his new friend and love interest Lisa decides they should play alone at her place instead. Here she puts makeup on him and says it suits him, that he looks great as a girl. When he goes home with the makeup on his mom says “she” looks great with makeup and is very happy to see Mickael looking like a girl. For me it seemed as if Mickael was content in living this double life as long as the two didn’t collide. When it does because his younger sister Jeanne finds out he is pretending to be a boy, it becomes more obvious that this is a secret he does not intend on sharing with his family. I loved Jeanne by the way, I loved how accepting she was of her big brother/sisters identity and sense of self. I liked how the film makers made her the complete opposite of Mickael, a hyper girly girl who had no intention of identifying as a boy and knew she was a girl. The moments they shared together were often my favorites because it seemed to me that Mickael didn’t feel the need to act a certain way around Jeanne. The scene that made me most nervous was the swimming scene where Mickael is trying on his “new” bathing suit and knows it looks weird in the front where a penis should be. So he makes a clay penis and going swimming with it. I was on the edge of my seat waiting for it to fall out and for Mickael to be exposed in the most embarrassing way possible. Luckily this doesn’t happen. When he was exposed it was much worse. In a way I understand the mothers thought process. How could Laure (as she knows him) go to school and continue to pretend to be a boy? I had a simply solution which was for the mother to ask the teacher to refer to Laure as Mickael and keep his secret. However I suppose that wasn’t something they thought of or saw as a possibility. And to avoid having his classmates find out at school and make a public fuss, his mother decides to go door to door and tell all his friends individually. Which didn’t keep Mickael from being exposed very publically later in the woods. This scene broke my heart. The humiliation on Mickael’s face was so horrifying I didn’t know how he was going to get past that moment. However in the scenes that follow and in the entire movie Mickael proved to be stronger and more forgiving that any 10 year old I ever knew. He forgives his mom and seems to be happy at home and even goes to talk to Lisa after she refereed to their shared kisses as “disgusting”. He even ends up revealing his real name and seems content to identify as a girl since he has no other choice.
The cliff hanger at the end of this movie really had me thinking. I’m sure that some other human on earth has had a similar experience to Mickael/Laure. To assume that he went his entire life being content with living his life as a girl to please his family and friends is very sad to me. There is this really cool program in Providence called, Youth Pride that I think a person like Mickael would have really been inspired from. The program has a free, once-a-week dinner with other LQBTQ people can come together to hangout, talk about experiences, and most importantly feel comfortable in a safe, judgmental free zone. The organization also has concealing programs and other workshops. I hope that other states and cities have places like this where others can go and feel comfortable and accepted, if their homes and schools might not. Check it out... [http://www.youthprideri.org/Default.aspx]
Tomboy
This movie triggered different feelings I have towards parenting and raising children. Personally, the Gender classes that I have taken throughout my few years in college have made me understand the importance of raising a child and being accepting of their thoughts and feelings about their selves. Our society has a difficult time understanding gender because of the binary norm. There are only two genders and it is seen as appalling to feel misplaced by gender in some peoples eyes.
Mikeal decides that he wants to be one of the boys and begins mimicking their actions. We find our that Mikeal is really Laure when his mother finds out about his secret. The way she reacts to her daughter’s secret was astonishing. I hated the way she made him tell his friends because she was shaming him and trying to teach him who he was. Her daughter clearly feels insecure about being a girl. She called what he was doing “pretending” and she said they needed to “tell the trusth”.By doing this she dismisses her daughter’s identity and feelings. This movie showed that children are going to follow their honest, gut feelings. Mikeal understood that what he was doing would be seen as wrong, but he knew that it felt right to him. It was sad to see his mother become so concerned with what her daughter was doing behind her back. It wasn’t “disgusting” or “unnatural”, it was sweet to see this girl change her identity to something he felt more comfortable being. In my free time, I have seen more and more parents spreading awareness about gender identity in their children. I think this is great. More parents should view this movie so they can understand how children are feeling in their points of view.
“The Formative Years”
There is a controversial debate over whether or not gender development is affected by nature or nurture. “The Formative Years” by Beauvior argues that one does not become a particular gender by biology, psychology or economic reason but they become their identified gender by the means of society that makes the influence (267).These primary stages of a child’s life that determines gender are from when it is born to the age of eleven. Curiosity and attachment to the adult figures of their lives have a huge influence on their identity.
Beauvior explains that the attachment to the mother is very influential. “As their sensibility comes to require an object, it is turned toward the mother: the soft, smooth, resilient feminine flesh is what arouses sexual desire and these desires are prehensile; the girl, like the boy, kisses, handles, and caresses her mother in a an aggressive way; they feel the same jealousy if a new child is born, and they show it in similar patterns: rage sulkiness, urinary difficulties…(Beauvior 268). Beauvior explains that the attachment to the mother is their first sexual desire, their first love to another human being which is supposed to predestine their future. Beauvior also explains that a boy identifies his gender when he first looks sees his reflection in the mirror, “his ego becomes so fully identified with his reflected image that it is formed only in being projected” (269). During this phase the child begins to mimic his parents mannerisms and actions. This plays a part of the development in their gender.
I understand the phases that Beauvior identifies in this chapter, but I think that these are infact biological properties that are predisposed, and do not always manipulate gender. I think that Beauvior could have also elaborated more on how the formative stages reflect the way the child grows up.
Imagine The Possibilities | Barbie (via Barbie)
I found this advertisement and wanted to share it with you all because I thought it was very interesting because 1) Wow, I’ve never seen a Barbie advertisement before(lol) and 2) I’ve always been against Barbie’s because of their idealistic body image but the media makes these young girls seem like they have more to value than just their looks. It was a cute ad but I’m torn. What do you guys think?