saph

just here to reblog random posts I like. nothing else tbh

[successionable-deactivated20230]

i lied. i don’t actually like sex. put your clothes back on im going to explain why tom’s whole character arc only makes sense if he accidentally fell in love with greg and is deeply in denial about it

[bbibbii]

hannibal is so funny cause will graham will be like “the chesapeake ripper ... he’s eating his victims” then it’ll hard cut to hannibal in the kitchen like this

[marycrispies]

More metalhead Ed because I love him!!

[thatoneparacosm]

Are your paras also in a really known band and basically all the good songs in existence have been written by them? I really go "yeah, Sign of the times by Harry Styles is now theirs, what are you gonna do about it 😤" like it's nothing lol

[thatoneparacosm]

If your daydream plot changes so constantly that you don't even know who your paras are anymore clap your hands

[friendlyneighborhoodaromantic]

reblog if youre either aromantic, a slytherin, impressing people with your forest expertise or you just really like green

[raavenb2619]

Aromantic and agender people deserve to be mentioned. Allos, alloaces, and non-agender people please reblog

[aviss]

One thing that pisses me off a lot is the fact that the world is not made for single people. Ignore the fact that everyone and their dogs think it's wrong not to want a partner, I'm talking about practical things.

I'm talking about rent and mortgage in a city like London with only one salary. Yes, it's exactly as hard as you can imagine. Not easy on a single salary unless you're senior management level, want to commute two hours each day, or you are lucky enough to have your landlady be your best friend. Or you don't mind living in a shoebox pretending to be a studio. Otherwise, you'll be in a shared house.

I'm talking about holiday and travel, where either you go to hostel dorms of pay double price for a room in most hotels. And there are no packages for one, or barely any, and they are in singles holidays where the objective is not so much travel but stop being single.

I'm talking about doing shopping and producing more food waste than I'm comfortable with because everything comes in bigger portions than one person can reasonably eat. Even with freezing more than half of everything there will still be something that goes off because you were too slow to eat it if you do shopping once a week. Or you have to go shopping every couple of days and eat the same those two days.

It's not enough to have all media telling you you're wrong for not wanting a relationship, the entire world will try to push you into forming one by making it too expensive to be single.

[lil-aro]

systematic arophobia

[queenbookwench]

I feel like the alternative to this _ought_ to be creating shared communal situations with friends but that is harder than it looks and there are a lot of societal things that make it even harder than it needs to be... and, especially for women, there are a lot of very legitimate reasons not to want to share certain kinds of spaces with strangers and it can be really frustrating that it’s so hard/expensive to NOT do that..,

[my-brain-needs-a-spring-cleaning]

As a polyam person and also just a leftist nerd, yes, I agree that it should be easier to live communally with large groups of people! That would be great! You could live with your four best friends and be happy, or with your partner and your best friend and their partner, or with your entire polycule, et cetera! Great!

But it doesn't change the fact that you should be able to live alone if you want to, for any reason. If you're fresh out of college, with your first job, and no partner? You should be able to live alone. If you recently got divorced? Ditto. But this particular issue is hardest on aromatics, because while anyone may want to live alone, most alloromantic people will consider that kind of living arrangement temporary. When people call this systematic arophobia, it's because the issue disproportionately effects and targets people who intend to live alone forever. Marriage in the United States is subsidised. Literally. The tax benefits gained by being registered as married is a government subsidy to an amatonormative system that, while also hurting poly people, overwhelmingly hurts aromantics.

Marriage being a union between two people hurts polyam people. Marriage being financially beneficial hurts aromantics.

Non-partnering aros exist, and should be able to live in this world without having to pay more for lodging, food, and in taxes.

[aroloverboy]

Can we please start giving some love to aroallo

And while I’m at it if you don’t agree with what I’m saying please block me I don’t want any exclusionist following me

[tastefullyoffensive]

(via meanboysclub)

[mypissedoffsandwichold-deactiva]

The last one

[thunderboltsortofapenny]

Also good on these people for taking the aggressively petty route instead of falsely registering their pets as service animals

[toastyglow]

I love how everyone intentionally interpreted this not as “your dog must be small” but “your dog must be in a bag”

[im-a-goat-in-disguise]

“aww cute!! big doggies in ba-”

*cry-laughing as i hit the reblog button*

[callistomist-deactivated2020091]

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

[futureskinnywritrix]

I was just gonna reblog this because the distractions are super fun but… Damn the rest of it is so so so important

[nicndietcoke]

reblog inv cause everyone needs this

[thatoneparacosm]

Do you ever make like 2740139 AU's of the same daydream because you can't decide which direction the story should take so you just do all of them?

[shutyourmoustache]

Jeff Bezos and Amazon are a fucking blight upon the working class. He got rich by treating rank and file employees like hot garbage toiling under dehumanizing, backbreaking conditions for shitty pay. When there are this many random strangers across various sectors/departments of a single company sharing similar horror stories, that can’t be dismissed as just a few disgruntled ex-employees. Grievances like these are why I quit using Amazon. They made my life easier at the expense of thousands of hardworking people being mistreated and disrespected behind closed doors. (thread)

[fangirltothefullest]

This is why deregulation ruined us. It caused businesses to be able to do whatever they wanted to employees. If we had regulations in place to prevent this then it wouldn't have gotten this far and yet we let it happen.

[qillermeme]

burn every warehouse, burn every single one of his homes ot the ground. sink all of his yachts. fuck jeff bezos. EAT THE RICH

[nightskiesinparadise]

from now on im avoiding all daydream triggers

i will not

listen to music

read or write

talk to people

go outside

eat

sleep

wish me luck!

[aroaceworms]

Stop treating aromantics as an afterthought.

Stop treating us as "Ace Lite™".

Stop assuming all aromantics are also asexual.

Stop making pride posts that don't include aromantics.

Stop using aromantic and asexual as synonyms.

Stop ignoring aromantic, especially allosexual aromantic, voices.

[ruinsofxerxes]

oh you’re watching fullmetal alchemist? i love that anime. the way it just [clenches fists] [falls on the floor] [begins crying] sh i t.…

[marigoldwitch]

Growing up my parents taught me that if you’re too sick to [insert responsibility here] then you’re too sick to [insert something that makes you happy here].

It took me a really long time to unlearn this. When I would get sick or have a “bad day” I would deprive myself of anything that made me happy. Watching movies, eating something I enjoyed, going for a walk, playing video games or just browsing online looking at funny cat videos. I wouldn’t let myself do these things because I was always told that if I’m too sick to go to work, or do homework, or go to school then I must be too sick to play Mortal Kombat or watch Unsolved Mysteries lol.

Whenever I wouldn’t feel good, which I later learned as an adult was due to sleep deprivation caused by my ADHD and depression (and of course the depression itself would cause me to feel like shit), my parents would tell me “if you’re not throwing up, then you’re not sick.” And when I would stay home from school (or even work in my later teen years) my parents would make sure that I didn’t have any “fun.” No TV, no movies, no games, no going outside, no arts and crafts, no books, no nothing. Just lay in bed and feel miserable.

I’m happy to say that I no longer do this to myself. Now when I’m having a bad day or I’m sick (cold, flu or whatever) I allow myself to do the things (within reason lol) that I actually love doing. If I’m not too sick to step outside for a few minutes then I’ll go for a walk. I’ll watch my favorite movies and if it’s a bad day or a cold (something that doesn’t hinder my appetite too much) I’ll eat my favorite foods. I don’t guilt trip myself anymore for having a “sick day.”

Just because you’re sick (whether physically, emotionally or mentally) doesn’t mean that you can’t do things you enjoy. You’re not any less sick because you watch TV. You’re not any less sick because you’re playing video games. 

Actually you SHOULD be doing these things when you’re not feeling good because they make you feel better. The better you feel, the faster your heal. 

[neuroticgaymusings-deactivated2]

Thank you! I needed to read this.

[sun-flowers-sam-deactivated2019]

oh. oH. OH. I needed this omfg