Spiritual Bypassing and Hot Phrases
Spiritual Bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks". The term was introduced in the mid 1980s by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist.
Spiritual Bypassing often comes in the form of "toxic positivity" such as "good vibes only" or "I dont need to do shadow work, I'm all love and light". Or even christians saying to "cast your worries upon god" instead of taking accountability for their actions and actually healing them.
Spiritual Bypassing is ignoring mental issues, emotional well-being and emotions in general, or even trauma by spouting some shit about "things happen for a reason", "god has a plan", "if you had a higher vibration, that wouldn't have happened" or anything else that completely negates your feelings and emotions in the situation. It's trading mood stabilizers for meditation, or therapy for prayer.
1) Spiritual Warrior - This phrase (i find) is used a LOT by christians who think "satan" is testing them and shit just because they had a wet dream about someone they weren't supposed to or for any other range of human emotion, but it is also used by L&L'ers in a completely different context. For them it is a mixture of Holier-than-thou and a Martyr complex that makes them believe themselves better than they actually are or they believe they are ACTUALLY in spiritual warfare in their delusions. It's a superiority complex mixed with "oh, feel sorry for me" and it stinks.
2) Ascension - If you hear anyone talking about 4D, 5D, or gods forbid 6/7/8D ascension, RUN. These people have no fucking idea how science works and they believe they can "shift" or manifest their way into a higher dimension where they will be able to see the earth's ley lines, taste colors, and smell rainbows (synesthesia is a thing that can make you taste colors but im using it as an expression). Some even believe they will COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR from the physical plane when they succeed. Most of them use this as spiritual bypassing to look down their noses at anyone they deem as "low vibration". It's really fuckin gross honestly.
3) …Which brings me to my next point: Not being around "low vibes" or saying "you're too low vibrational for me to be around" - Human emotions like anger, grief, longing, sadness, and even physical ailments are seen (to them) as "low vibrational" even though they are completely normal human responses to outside and inside influences by other people and literal viruses and bacteria or our own bodies attacking itself due to an autoimmune disease.
L&L'ers want good vibes all the time but refuse to allow themselves to properly feel the entire range of human emotion and look down on those of us who do. It's unhealthy and discourages healing. Crying is healing. Being angry and venting is relieving. You should never be made to feel like those emotions are "evil" or bad in any way. It's human and it's normal.
4) Actually saying "Love and Light" - Same shit as above. It's their favorite shit to say. High vibes all the time, now allowing yourself to feel emotions they deem negative, and vilifying anyone who does under the guise of "they should align their cosmic pussy chakra". (not making fun of Chakras, I'm making fun of L&L'ers)
4) You create your reality / Raise your vibration/frequency / Manifest your way to __.
This isn't a healthy mindset for everyone, and for most of us, it is actually doing more harm than it is encouraging. Many of us, no matter how hard we try to manifest or "create our own reality", it will never be how we want it to be. Take me, for example: I am chronically ill with a plethora of different disorders and illnesses that will never go away. I will never be able to hold down a job or be completely independent because of my mental and physical health limitations. I cannot manifest a better life or create my ideal reality, because that ideal reality is me not having these diseases and disorders. It's not possible to get rid of them, no matter how much I manifest it or meditate it away.
Telling people they can create their own reality and manifest their way to XYZ can be really harmful and put pressure on the individual and make them think there is something wrong with them. They can be working their ass off and be making all the right moves, but manifesting your own reality isn't as simple as they make it out to be. For a lot of us the system is against us, or the color of your skin is a limitation, or disabilities, or anything else. It's not fair to everyone to say shit like that.
5) Anger is a destructive emotion / The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. - Once again, trying to take away the validity of human emotions and vilify them. Feel your feelings, gods dammit! Lol You'll be okay.
6) Ego death - You are your Ego. Ego, Id, and Superego. Psychologists have gone over this. The Id is your wants and desires, your Superego is your moral compass, and your Ego is your decision-making and your conscious operation. Like being hungry during an important meeting:
Id - "I want a sandwich"
Superego - "it would be rude to eat right now in front of everyone during this important meeting"
Ego - "Let's eat after the meeting at that really good sandwich shop down the street, there is only 20 minutes until lunch, we can wait until then"
YOU CANNOT KILL YOUR EGO. YOU ARE YOUR EGO.
7) The aggrandizement bypass is adopted by those who seek to feel enlightened, superior, or somehow “more awakened” in their spiritual development than others. Claiming to have reached a certain spiritual coveted milestone is a type of self-delusion that some spiritual seekers use as a way of masking their perceived deficiencies and insecurities. More commonly, this bypass is typically used by self-proclaimed masters, spiritual leaders, “kundalini awakened” yogis, and gurus to solicit a following.
8) Victim of Gifts - When one becomes a victim of their gifts, or of other people, this takes away the pressure of responsibility for shaping a satisfying life and taking responsibility for one’s happiness – such is the case with the Victim Bypass. This type of spiritual bypass is often used by spiritual seekers who believe they have extrasensory gifts of some kind, but due to their gifts, they are unable to feel happy or healthy. This is commonly seen in those who call themselves Empaths. Having clairempathy is real and can be useful and such, but the way in which we view Empaths has been altered by this kind of Victim mentality when it comes to clair abilities and such.
There are many more but these are the ones I have chosen for this post as they piss me off the most lol
Spiritual Bypassing doesn't just happen in the Love and Light communities but the witchcraft communities as well. Both are just as susceptible to Spiritual Psychosis in all of this and it can really do a number on your psyche. Be safe out there and don't take their shit.
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