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lutheran seminarian. gay for jesus. fantasy writer. millennial. USA. ze/hir. Christian sideblog

[the-belldam]

Ever since I was a little kid I knew I wanted to grow up and make arguments

[the-belldam]

something so funny and also absolutely sickening about my recovery and my marriage is that there were a few days where I could sit up and do things but I couldn't smile. which incidentally meant that I couldn't hang out with with my husband because. apparently. he can't NOT make me laugh.

[defendingwarrior]

BTS Normal Official MV (2026) BTS For You Official MV (2015)

[laurenillustrated]

American Girls! ★

I drew 10 of the original historical American Girls in my style! This was a fun little fan art series in between my other illustrations 🤭

In order: Felicity and Josefina, Kirsten and Kaya, Molly and Kit, Addy and Samantha, Julie and Rebecca.

[uptownthots]

what is a normal amount of photos to have on your phone. probably 28,000 right

[uptownthots]

DONT SAY THAAAAAAAAT

[sanrio-stud]

how many pics & videos do you have on your phone?

0-500

501-1,000

1,001-5,000

5,001-10,000

10,001-15,000

15,001-20,000

20,001-25,000

25,001-30,000

30,001-40,000

40,001-50,000

50,001-60,000

> 60,000

Remaining time: 4 days 9 hours

[dissociacrip]

Incontinence Is a Public Health Issue — And We Need to Talk About It

"I’ve lived with incontinence for all 25 years of my life, and I’ve yet to see my experiences reflected in any form of media."

If incontinence was treated as a human rights issue, as something many people face and need proper resources to manage, I could have had a vastly different childhood. Even now, shame and stigma surrounding incontinence has caused severe damage to my self-worth and interpersonal relationships. At points, I’ve avoided sex and dating out of fear that I’ll be left humiliated and alone again. Even in my current long-term relationship, I still wonder if and when my incontinence will be too much for my partner to look past. I know I’m not the only person who must feel this way. 25 percent of young women and 44 to 57 percent of middle-aged women (“women” is presumably used here to mean “people assigned female at birth”) also experience “some involuntary urine loss,” according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists journal, Practice Bulletin. And doctors can’t be prepared to offer long-term solutions to incontinence if they’re not even prepared to even talk to their patients about it. 50 to 70 percent of people who experience incontinence don’t seek treatment for it, likely due to the same stigma I’ve experienced for most of my life, which can lead to greater health risks. I’ve done everything I can to shorten the amount of time I use the bathroom. But the habits I’ve developed to do so actually jeopardize my health, increasing the risk of potentially life-threatening infections. To change these habits now would require another $50 per month for the extra supplies at minimum — a price increase I cannot afford as someone who does not have access to comprehensive health insurance. If I don’t self-catheterize everyday, I put myself at greater risk for kidney infection, and kidney failure down the road. But I pay for these necessary supplies out of pocket, and they aren’t cheap.

[tpwrtrmnky]

sometimes it occurs to me that while "get bottom surgery and then use a strapon" is an obvious course of action for many trans lesbians, a lot of cis people would be extremely confused by the suggestion that someone would do this.

[duchessvongooseberg]

🗣️ 📢 ‼️

[the-belldam]

Oh my god it's day 6 and my teeth fit together again let's fucking goooo guys I'm so good at recovering from surgery

[number1mongrel]

"You hear that? They're saying The Odyssey doesn't even have nobody!"

"They've got nobody in the Odyssey?"

"No I'm saying they don't got nobody."

"Nobody's there?"

"Nobody's not there!"

"So everyone's there?"

"Everybody but nobody!"

[creekfiend]

in general I find that "why did someone behave this way" is almost always answered by "behaving otherwise was too difficult and frightening for them at the time," and then you have to dig into why that is. people behave in ways that feel 1. easy for them (do not require much thought or effort) 2. accessible to them (patterns that have worked many times before) and 3. safe for them (apparently predictable outcome)

this is true even for behavior that is absolutely horrific and totally unacceptable. which can be a tough thing to accept, I think.

[the-belldam]

have we normalized playing instruments bad yet I wanna play my violin

[curlsandstems]

Have you ever seen a violinist going APESHIT?!

Be sure to check out IAmDSharp!

[thegreynightsky]

GO OFFF

[babydollbucky]

Ok so I’ve been playing for 18 years and i’m a string teacher. Can i just say how IMPORTANT it is for young kids to see a BLACK, MALE-PRESENTING PERSON playing, nae, SHREDDING on a violin? I’ve know maybe 5 black people who played stringed instruments throughout my schooling and teaching (predumably because i’m an upper middle class white woman). In districts where the population is predominantly black, funding is always low, so the instruments are crappy. Kids quit, or the program is dismantled. I’ve seen very few professional string players who are black.

Obviously there are black string players. We just don’t see them because they “don’t look like” string players.

This person is the real deal. They were clearly classically trained, and seems to have some fiddle training as well. How cool is that?

[lil-tumbles]

But also… RAD PLAYING MY DUDEEEE

[ladyofspoons]

this is the coolest guy alive actually

[creepymutelilbugger]

I think this might be the coolest thing I’ve ever seen in my life that involves a violin

[worldwright]

movie yapper scale (HOME movies we're not being public menaces)

0- NO talking during movie NONE. i will kill you

1- a couple comments but keep it short. no pausing

2- frequently points out little stuff ("ooh cool shirt", "are they stupid")

3- i will pause occasionally to have brief discussions about the movie

4- frequently discussing movie stuff. might talk over dialogue occasionally

5- it's just nonstop. can't enjoy the film if im not engaging with it!!

depends on who im watching with / depends on the movie

not a movie watcher

Remaining time: 21 hours 38 minutes

[wheelie-sick]

"oh, I live in a desert and-"

"wow that must be so terrible" "deserts are so ugly" "I would never want to live in a wasteland like that" "it's just empty nothingness"

wishing 10,000 exploding hammers upon you

behold New Mexico

[ID 1: tall, snowcapped rocky mountains rising above a plain filled with desert scrub

ID 2: brightly colored banded cliff walls of several mesas climbing their way into mountains

ID 3: a desert prairie

ID 4: colorful hoodoos against a twilight sky

ID 5: white sand dunes as far as the eye can see

ID 6: a collection of hoodoos against a stormy sky at sunset

ID 7: a juniper tree standing with a cliff wall in the background

ID 8: several juniper trees on a rocky landscape]

[wheelie-sick]

this post and all its wonderful additions (look in the notes) is circulating again. these photos and many of the ones added in the notes come from the US Southwest.

right now the trump administration is attacking the public lands in the Southwestern US. most recently (July 2026), in Utah the Bears Ears and Grand Staircase-Escalante national monuments have been cut by over 90% to allow for mining. these lands are sacred to multiple Native nations in the area and contain irreplaceable archeological sites. additionally, the commission of Native representatives who aided in management of these lands has been dissolved leaving Native people without a voice in caring for the remaining land. (read more here)

here in New Mexico, the 10 mile buffer zone surrounding Chaco Canyon preventing oil and gas drilling is under attack. Chaco Canyon contains incredibly old and incredibly fragile archeological sites sacred to Pueblo people. these sites are threatened by mining and drilling. (read more here)

The attack on the Chaco buffer zone is currently in a public comment period open until July 29. PLEASE leave a public comment to save these irreplaceable places.

[clubpenguinkiller]

cats always step precisely on your most sensitive areas when theyre crawling on you lovingly for cuddles. bladder dick ovaries boobs stomach bruise it doesnt matter. they have homing devices on their paws for the exact area you’re most tender at the moment and they put their full weight into that step. and sometimes they might keep their stance midstride so theyre just standing there forever forcing you to endure the pain. because they are simply too cute to get mad at

[thottistani-deactivated20220220]

No gay has all 5:

- A job

- Good relationship with father

- Neurotypical brain

- Ability to top

- Driver’s license

[garbage-empress]

this is a fun post because people will say how many they have in the tags then you get to figure out which ones.

[toastbutteregg]

i mean.. id be scared too

[hyperesthesias]

I know what OP is trying to say, but the man who wrote Alien used the xenomorph as a metaphor for his crippling and debilitating Crohn’s pain. He went undiagnosed and ignored for years and used the Alien script as both an outlet and a cathartic example of what the digestion process felt like with his illness.

Don’t erase disabled people’s stories or ignore their intentions. And don’t ever put words in their mouths.

[helthehatter]

@hyperesthesias you wouldn’t happen to have an article or some such about it you could link? I’d love to read about that

[hyperesthesias]

https://thefactsource.com/alien-chestburster-was-inspired-by-writers-crohns-disease/

https://www.nytimes.com/2009/12/21/movies/21obannon.html

He died from Crohn’s as well.

I recently got an anon hate about my comment, stating that I was lying and that I was taking away from women’s issues. But this is the problem disabled people face every day: even when we tell our truth, other people bend it to their will. While it is true that Dan O'Bannon wanted the men of the audience to feel the fear that women live with everyday when it comes to sexual violence, the chestbuster itself was the result of his debilitating experience with Crohn’s. Both of his intentions can co-exist. And in fact, they do – Alien was written, and produced, and is still alive and well, even if its imageries and meanings are known only to those who look beyond the surface. But unfortunately, most people don’t want to hear additional perspectives, even if those perspectives come from additionally marginalized people. They just want to be right.

I blocked the jerk.