No Giving Up When You're Young and You Want Some

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Birds of Prey - Mehran‘s Review

Harley Quinn character which starting to show on Suicide Squad (2016). From that movie, Harley Quinn was as one of the main evil roles, she is kind of eye-catching in this movie, his funny, noisy and crazy vibes. A little bit story told in Suicide Squad, Harley Quinn only told as a Psychiatrist working in asylum, met Mr. Joker and deeply in love with him.

In the Birds of Prey, tells about full background Harley Quinn since early age until the time he met Joker. In this story she was breakup with Joker well actually she was dumped by Joker. The movie tells, how Harley Quinn finding herself and finding life after Joker. She is now Harley Quinn without any remarks as Joker’s girlfriend. She was known for her sadisticand crazy girl during the time as Joker’s girlfriend, she was immune of doing things she likes without worrying about other’s people revenge. But in this movie not, everyone in Gotham city seems to have grudge for her and wants to kill her.

In order to find herself, she was put on the trial to find one sneaky hand kid that have a very expensive diamond by one very bad guy (played by Ewan McGregor which one was a Master Yoda’s apprentice in Star Wars) this kid stupidly swallow the diamond and Harley Quinn started to have an empathy not to kill her even though the world was so mean to her during her lowest moment. She accidently met another girls (one detective, one revengeful mafia’s daughter, and Ewan McGregor’s singer/driver) which total there was 4 adult women and 1 girl (the sneaky hand kid) that was somehow involved to fight Ewan McGregor’s bad guy army that wants the diamond also.

I would give rating 6.8 (out of 10) because it’s Harley Quinn with her vibrant style and character. Lately so many women-emancipation movie and this one was must-watch movie if you looking for women-emancipation movie category. I think the people in Gotham city have so many villains running around, I don’t know which one is worst villains or corona virus running around in the word. In this movie, Harley Quinn moral story is to have a little kindness in crazy and vast world to keep your humanity inside.

From me who got quarantine and try to be productive.

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“He was free, free in every way, free to behave like a fool or a machine, free to accept, free to refuse, free to equivocate; to marry, to give up the game, to drag this death weight about with him for years to come. He could do what he liked, no one had the right to advise him, there would be for him no Good or Evil unless he thought them into being.”

— Jean-Paul Sartre

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If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.

Charles Bukowski

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One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. I wear colors that I really like, I wear makeup that makes me feel pretty, and it really helps. It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.

Gabourey Sidibe

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[wnq-writers]

The worst thing about moving on is pretending that you’re happy, that you’re free to do whatever you want, that you have more time for achieving your goals. It takes a while to recover from a person you truly loved.

juansendizon (via wordsnquotes)

[theemotionmachine]

In the social jungle of human existence, there is no feeling of being alive without a sense of identity.

Erik Erikson (via theemotionmachine)

[purplebuddhaquotes]

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (via purplebuddhaquotes)

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[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Don’t think about what can happen in a month. Don’t think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24 hours in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be.”

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25Q to Self Discovery

‘The longest journey is the journey inward’

Semua orang di dunia tereskpos dengan pertanyaan mengenai passion dan visi misi hidup. Untuk diriku sendiri, pertanyaan ini adalah pertanyaan dasar yang seringkali ditanyakan ibuku, namun seiring berjalannya waktu, seringkali jawabannya sesuai arus dan fase berikutnya yang akan kulalui. Pertanyaan ini semakin intens dipertanyakan ketika mau lulus kuliah terutama bagi aku yang yang mengambil useless major. I am forced to follow my passion but with lots of responsibilities. Kedengarannya berat bukan, its okay, its getting clearer along the way.

Dalam tulisan ini aku mencoba untuk mengurai isi pikiranku dengan tema passion dan self discovery. Dua tema ini sebenarnya sangat ingin aku bahas terutama saat baru lulus kuliah dan sekarang dunia kerja. Sebagai jembatan untuk penguraian pikiranku, aku menggunakan Bahasa dan bahasa Inggris karena sebagai bangsa dengan tingkat trilingual yang tinggi jadi tidak apa-apa untuk menggunakan dua bahasa atau lebih dalam sebuah karya tulisan. Penulis memiliki kebebasan tanpa batas. Subjectivity at its best. Penguraian eksplorasi pikiran ini akan dilakukan dengan metode self-interview yang aku ambil dari link ini. I hope you guys did it also.

1. Am I honestly happy with how I’ve been spending my life-minutes

Well, I have to, I have to be happy. To be not happy is not a choice because unhappy can attract diseases and I don’t want that. So, In order to be happy I am starting to be grateful and starting to organize stuff and workload to be more productive and to finishing all tasks.

2. What do I really, truly want?

For the rest of my life, I want to be best at my current job. Because I need to have a good track record. I want to be more organized and more productive not only work but also writing and maintaining endurance. I want to get rid of bullshit material and actions. I am currently very into Japanese Minimalist Movement.

3. Is this REALLY what I want?

Yes, for now. I finally get an employee’s life, being responsible to the company and to be impactful with a stable salary.

4. How will I feel after I’ve done [that thing I’ve been meaning to do for ages]?

Afterwards, from now, I want to feel no regrets. So, no giving up when still young. I have to give my 100% effort and explore everything possible.

5. What am I grateful for right now?

Be able to breathing, feeling, enjoying the good weather, colleagues, family, friends, and responsibilities at

6. What can I choose — [today / this season / this year] — that will carry me towards maximum satisfaction and minimal regret? — Alexandra Franzen

Today, I choose to get my things done and set up for next week.

This season, I choose to be happier and healthier

This year I choose to check all my mission for this year

7. How can I amplify what I’m currently doing (even a little)?

Mindfulness, focus and enjoy every work with ultimate

8. How can I make someone’s day today?

Smile, and put attention on them fully

9. Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you? — Jack Gilbert via Elizabeth Gilbert

Yes!

10. Am I playing small right now?

I hope not

11. How can I add more joy to my day?

Smiling and finish my workload so I can have nice weekend

12. How much do I want this?

1000000%

13. If I could go back in time would I really do anything differently? — Inspired by this book.

No, past is in the past. I want to live fully today. That is why today called the present.

14. What am I currently resisting?

No, I am just moving the energy current.

15. [Am I] gravitating toward the safest option at the expense of growth? — Todd Henry

I feel like I am not gravitating toward the safest option.

16. Am I willing to do what it takes to get where I want to go?

No, so many things to be considered. Money is in the first place.

17. What will I truly regret NOT doing?

Not, 100% of my work.

18. What is truly important to me?

Trust from people.

19. What does life want from me? — Eckhart Tolle

To be a leader I think because I am always facing a leadership job or people around me always look at me for leadership.

20. What’s stopping me from showing up the way I want to?

Laziness and always thinking about people said, but now, fuck what people think. As long my work is great it's okay.

21. How does this fit into the vision I have for my life?

It cannot fit because if I am lazy I could not fulfill any of my visions.

22. If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? — Steve Jobs

Be present

Be attentive

Be happy towards others

23. What can I do today that my future self will thank me for?

Again, 100% always everywhere especially at work

Be happy

And don't eat too much

24. How can I be grateful for this?

This question is confusing.

25. What do I truly want to be known for?

Trustworthy

Graceful

Rich

Also, at my age now (23) I felt like I made so many mistakes and I am worried because this is the time that everything I chose will affect the rest of my life. However to be less worried, my brother and my mother told me “Only donkeys who keep repeating the same mistakes.”

[wnq-philosophy]

You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it. That is why you must read, that is why you must look at the skies, that is why you must sing, and dance, and write poems, and suffer, and understand, for all that is life.

Krishnamurti | @wnq-philosophy (via wnq-philosophy)

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Eksistensi dalam (Lumpur)

Aku memulai tulisan ini dengan tertawa, tertawa atas kebodohanku. Tertawa hingga aku takut melihat hari esok. Aku berjalan terus berjalan menahan segala kelesuan hati dan dahaga logika, dan terus berjalan kebawah.

Kebodohan ini rasanya terus berlanjut entah sampai kapan, tanpa ada kontrol dari diri. Aku terus terjatuh dalam menertawai kebodohanku sendiri. Dan aku menyadari di dalam tubuhku ini terdapat beberapa suara, siapakah mereka. Aku mengidentifikasikan mereka sebagai HM (Hati Mehran) dan PM (Pikiran Mehran) yang dua-duanya sama-sama menimbang tingkat kebodohan yang sama, dan AKU adalah leburan mereka.

Malam ini dimalam ke 27 dari 2018 aku merasa jalan jauh terperosok kedalam lumpur, kuat tapi tak ada pegangan. Setiap malam HM dan PM bertanya dan berjanji kepadaku. Kenapa AKU tetap membuat pilihan-pilihan bodoh, apakah ini history loop layaknya yang di ucapkan dalam Cloud Atlas “why we keep making the same mistake”. HM lelah karena terus membuat pilihan-pilihan bodoh, padahal sebelumnya sudah dipikirkan. AKU tak tahu siapa-yang instingnya lebih bisa diharapkan, HM / PM / AKU. Namun, AKU hanya punya HM dan PM.

Mengambil napas yang sangat dalam dan menghelanya dirumah untuk berhenti, mengevaluasi segala hal yg kurasa salah seminggu. Namun, rumah orang tuaku bahkan kamarku, daerah otonomiku sendiri bukan lah rumah disiang hari. Sekarang kau tau kenapa aku sering melanglang buana ataupun terjaga di dini hari. Tanpa disrupsi.

Puncakku terperosok dalam lumpur adalah saat aku telah bekerja seminggu di tempat baru, mengalami kebosanan dan kelesuan yang tak terhingga. Duduk melihat dunia dari jendela Transjakarta ataupun layar laptop; hiburan sekarang hanya berpindah dari satu layar ke layar yang lain. Terjebak dalam lumpur tanggung jawab. bukan kah ini hidup yang aku dambakan. Kerja kantoran layaknya teman-temanmu dan stabilitas. Inikah rasanya manusia diperas pikiran nya melawan hatinya. Tanpa mengindahkan waktunya, duduk dari satu transportasi kemudian kursi kantor kemudian kembali ke pangkuan kursi motor. Repetisi ini (akan) kuhadapi dalam tahun-tahun mendatang. Agar tak merusak riwayat kerjaku. Oh, bukannya AKU tidak merasa bersyukur bahwa akhirnya doa dan usaha ku dijabah, namun aku takut aku akan larut dengan dunia fana kestabilan dan kenyamanan. Sungguh aku takut tidak berkembang.

Ini terlalu cepat dalam mengambil keputusan, namun, waktu kuhabiskan dengan duduk berjam-jam dari satu layar ke layar lain bukanlah sesuatu yang cocok untuk idealisme ku dan aku pikir semua pikiran ini akan runtuh ketika aku mendapat email ‘Paycheck for February receipt’. Aku seorang munafik.

Semakin aku duduk dan semakin aku melakukannya semakin aku yakin akan diriku. Dalam setiap pagi di jalan pergi ke kantor, aku melihat kaca dan menyemangati diriku sendiri. “Aku punya tujuan dan prinsip dan harus BERMANFAAT bagi orang lain” tak perlu banyak namun membekas dihati.

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If you lie to yourself about your own pain, you will be killed by those who will claim you enjoyed it.

Alice Walker, Possessing the Secret of Joy (via quotespile)

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“Today is a day that I am in love. Yesterday was a day I was in love, and tomorrow will be one too. I’m in love with the same boy who I met years ago. I don’t even remember how or when we met, but I know that we were young and innocent. I still remember the glasses he wore in middle school, and how he still wears them sometimes, and how even through the pane of his glasses or the nakedness of his pure sight, his gaze is still the most penetrating I’ve ever encountered. His green eyes are like a sea of trees just barely touched by the chill of winter and I think of how when the snow falls, I want to create snow angels in them forever. I run down from his eyes to his lips, which create such deep lines in his cheeks when he smiles. I’ve never seen him fake a smile, and for that I’m glad. He has never felt the need to do such a thing. He always smiles with his teeth and grins with his lips, but either one sends me. From the curve of his mouth to his jaw, which is an impressive one. Not too sharp to cut my hands, but strong enough to clench just when he is sitting. Then down to his neck, that is somehow more defined than his face, and a place where I have had the privilege to kiss a few times over. His skin is always hot under me. I imagine if we were to embrace and not let go, we both would soon melt from the fire of each other. But he is a brighter flame than I. His chest and stomach are simple; toned and smooth and begging for my finger tips to trace along the muscles. It always would tickle him when I did so, but it made him laugh when I laughed. Along his arms are a dream; veins mapped out like the roots of an ancient oak, sure of their strength. Down to his hands is the touch of a ghost; so fleeting and soft despite the callouses he possesses. His hips and legs are slim and strong, built for conquering the waves of oceans and the hills of mountains with wheels beneath his feet. He is more graceful and dangerous than I could ever hope to be. The way he walks, and talks, and stands in the light of my open front door still floors me. All I can do is watch as he leans against the frame, a cigarette between his lips. I remember how I kissed him with his mouth full of smoke, and how the taste was bitter but just sweet enough to make me come back for more. That’s all I want to do, really. Touch my lips with his. And even though he doesn’t know what I think of him, and how badly he makes me yearn for him, I still do. I told him I was in love with him yesterday. He hasn’t said more than one sentence…"I wasn’t expecting that.” But I had expected it. That reaction of his. He is frightened by situations as I am, and so he went quiet. I asked him if he still didn’t have anything to say, if he was okay. Today is a day where I’m still waiting for what he has to say.“

Allie, writing prompt #67: write about an almost relationship, which broke your heart (via wordsnquotes)

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LEARNING SWIMMING IN ADULTHOOD

I have been teaching swimming for four years. It was all started when my college break and my mother urged me to look for a part time job. During four years of my teaching, I experienced various reactions from my students, whose ages range from 1 year old, the youngest, to 66 years old, the oldest. Every student I have taught has their own special perspective and comprehension ability. Children, in one side, have one significant characteristic, which is that they mirror our energy, purest heart without thinking any risk. Just trying their best to be able to float on the water. On the other side, adult people, when it comes to learning to swim, have several characteristics.

I taught adult people, women only, from 20 years old adult women to 60 years old mothers. They have myriad reasons to learn swimming at that age, which are backpain problems, tired of just guarding the bags when the rest of the family went to swim, could not enjoy the great pool on the hotel when they were on holiday and working abroad, making use of their free time and for regular sports. My student named, Diva age 38 years old have another reason, she said she learns to swim in order to her children have interest to swim also and understand the obstacles and enjoyment of swimming itself.

When it comes to learning to swim, as I experienced on physical sector, most of adult women tend to have stiffer muscle on their calves and arms.  According to their stories, they rarely do their daily sport even for just jogging or walking for 30 minutes. Usually, to overcome this stiffness, I likely taught them the freestyle kick with hands on the board first to warmed up their cardio. On this early cardio session, all my adult students usually whine about this movement (freestyle kick. Doctor Jihan Balqis, a general practitioner from government-mandated community health clinic located in Pela Mampang, South Jakarta said that in every sport movement, legs tend to be the center of the movement. On the calves area, there are joints between thighs and calves, between these joints there are a sort of lubricant fluid for bones joints. The more movements in the bones’s joints, lessen fluid lubricant there. Whereas swimming have no movements that use joints like in the running or any land drills, so swimming is very joints friendly.

During the courses, they usually bargain to take too much rest and because I have seen this reaction for so many times. I usually tend to tell them not to stop, just keep kicking it, even though in a very slow pace.

Slowly, after their muscles begin to relax and reduce cramps, they continue to add the the small dives and bubbling to synchronize their lungs and nerves. Bubbling and diving have an important role on swimming. Why? Because in swimming we have to dive and look below the water. Bubbling help to release air in the lungs slowly so people can be more relaxed and not panic while diving or looking under the water.

Within one month, their breath and legs started to find its synchronization. Then I move on to another style, which is breaststroke. I choose this instead of continuing to the freestyle because this style is one of the relaxed yet swift style. Breaststroke can also help your breathing through the motion sequence. The order of styles i teach to adult people are breaststroke, then freestyle, then backstroke, and finally butterfly stroke. In every course, I put 5-10 minutes for them to learn floating by themselves to relax themselves and make them believe that they can do swim gracefully without any help.

For the adult women that I taught, it takes them three months to finally find their ‘click’ of their relax swimming moment. Why does it take longer than children, who only take like one month or less? It's beecause adult people tend to think of the risks first rather than just try it out. To find their ‘click’, they must go through a series of panics, vomits, nose-ache, and lots of repetitions. To be able to at least master one style out of four, they have to be discipline, and less talking. From my experience, the adult people tend to talk more. They like to tell stories of their jobs, kids, gossips and latest news. I personally like to tell them to do one more reps when they start talking, because I do not want to waste the time that they have paid for.

Usually, after one style is mastered, it would be easier and faster for them to master the other styles. How could it become easier? It's because, they usually be able to syncronize their hands, legs, breath, and head and to continue to the next style is no longer hard. The next challenge is usually the cardio pulse. Again, to overcome the cardio pulse, we need to be disciplined during the practice, which is only once a week and one hour each session. There is one message I would like to tell them everytime they swim, which is do not think of anything, just swim and remember the sequence and let your moves flowing with the water.

I consider swimming the best exercise you can do. All muscle on your body is moved, your mind is relaxed and no joints is risked. Everyone has their own understanding in taking swimming to their life. Their fear can be overcomed by swimming gradually.